Kodi mumayamba kuti pamene wokondedwa wanu ali ndi khansa ya m'mapapo? Kodi mungapereke bwanji chithandizo chabwino pamene mukulimbana ndi mantha anu ndi chisoni chanu.
Zingakhale zabwino ngati tonse titakhala ndi walangizi odziwa bwino amene tayenda ulendo tiyenera kuyenda pamene wokondedwa wathu atapezeka. Komabe, mwa njira yomwe timachitira, ndipo zimachokera pakumvetsera kwa omwe "akhalapo" ngati membala kapena mnzanu.
Tiyeni tipatseni malingaliro ndi nzeru kuchokera kwa iwo omwe atenga ulendo ngati wokondedwa wa wina yemwe ali ndi khansa ya m'mapapo pamaso pathu ndi kukambirana za malingaliro omwe amafuna kuti apitirize.
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Pamene Wokondedwa Wanu Ali ndi Khansa YamimbaKufotokozera koyamba koti mukambirane za wokondedwa wanu yemwe ali ndi kansa ya m'mapapo, ndiye kuti aliyense ndi wosiyana.
Ndipo monga momwe munthu aliyense ali ndi khansara-ngakhale anthu omwe ali ndi mtundu wofanana ndi sitepe ya khansa-ndi yosiyana, zomwe zimagwira ntchito ndipo sizikugwira ntchito ngati inu monga wosamalira zingakhale zosiyana ndi zomwe zingathandize wina pa malo anu. Pa nthawi yomweyi, zina zomwe timagawana pano zikhoza kukhalanso ndi inu. Sankhani zomwe mukumverera zidzakuthandizani ndikuchotsa zomwe siziri.
Kusamalira wokondedwa ndi khansara ndi imodzi mwa maudindo olemekezeka omwe mungayese nawo pamoyo. Pali zinthu zochepa zomwe anthu amachita m'moyo wawo wonse zomwe ziri zofunika kwambiri. Izi zikuti, machitidwe achikale, "zikhale zowona kwa iwe mwini" ndipo "iwe uyenera kudziyang'anira wekha poyamba" analibe pafupi kwambiri ndi choonadi. Yesetsani kudzimva kuti ndinu wolakwa pamene mukufunikira kudziyika nokha, ndipo onetsetsani kuti mumakhala ndi zosowa zanu (ngakhale mutakhala chete) mukuwona.
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Dzichepetseni nokha ndipo Konzekerani MarathonKhansara ya m'mimba ndi marathon, osati sprint. Monga momwe mungathamangire ngati muthamanga marathon, pitani paulendo umene mukuchita monga wodwala khansa.
Ngakhale pali zovuta, zosankha zambiri siziyenera kuchitidwa mwamsanga. Pamene wokondedwa wanu atapezeka kuti akudziwika, akhoza kumverera pa surreal kwa inu nonse. Ndipo ngakhale pali magawo ambiri omwe anthu akudutsa povomereza kuti akudwala khansa, sitepe iliyonse yotsutsa mkwiyo ndi kuvomereza ikhoza kuchitika m'masiku oyambirira aja.Ngati mukumva ziwalo, ngati nyongolosi pamaso, onani ndondomeko izi pazitsamba zoyamba kuti mutenge matenda a kansa .
M'malo mothamanga wouma, ganizirani dongosolo lothandizira wokondedwa wanu komanso anzanu komanso okondedwa anu. Iyi ndi nthawi yabwino yophunzira kupereka nthumwi. Tengani kamphindi kuti muganizire matalente apadera ndi mphatso za anzanu ndi abambo anu. Ndi njira ziti zomwe aliyense angathe kukuthandizani mukakumana ndi mavuto?
Anthu ena awona kuti n'kothandiza kugula magazini yosamalirako nthawi yomweyo atagwiritsidwa ntchito. Pa tsamba latsopano muyese kulemba anzanu onse, abwenzi anu, abwenzi anu, ndi magulu omwe mumakhala nawo monga tchalitchi ndi zina. Pamene mukuvutika maganizo, muyenera kukhala malo awiri nthawi imodzi, kapena mukusowa mphindi kuti muzisamalire nokha, mudzakhala ndi mndandanda wa anthu omwe mungawapeze kuti abweze ndikuwathandiza. Ndizodabwitsa kuti zimakhala zophweka kwambiri kuti muziyenda mikangano imeneyi pamene mayina a wokondedwa wanu ali patsogolo panu.
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Phunzirani za Khansa YanuTengani nthawi yophunzira za khansa ya wokondedwa wanu. Kafukufuku amasonyeza kuti anthu omwe amalimbikitsa okha ndi kudziphunzitsa okha ali ndi zotsatira zabwino kuposa omwe samatero. Kodi mungalimbikitse bwanji wokondedwa wanu?
Funsani mafunso. Tsatirani wokondedwa wanu kupita maulendo oyendera maulendo ndi kulemba manotsi. Bweretsani mndandanda wa mafunso.
N'zotheka kupeza uthenga wodalirika wa zachipatala pa intaneti , koma ndikofunikira kuti muone malo omwe alipo. Kodi ndizolembedwa kapena zolembedwa ndi dokotala wovomerezeka? Kodi lusoli linasinthidwa liti? Kodi magwero atchulidwa kuti muthe kufufuza zomwe mumaphunzira mozama? Yesetsani kumamatira ndi malo olemekezeka a zaumoyo .
Kufufuzira zambiri zachipatala kwa wokondedwa wanu kungakhale kovuta kwambiri ndipo ndikofunika kuyang'ana payeso yabwino. Kupeza nthawi yofufuza khansa yake ndi mawu omwe mumasamala, koma nthawi imodzimodziyo, omwe ali ndi khansa nthawi zina amakhumudwa chifukwa choganiza kuti ali ndi khansa. Khansara imakhala yokwanira kuchepetsa ulemu popanda kumverera kuti munthu akumva kuti akufunika kuti azikhala wochuluka kwambiri. Yesetsani kuti muyese bwino koma muzindikire kuti nthawi zonse mukulumikizana ndikusintha tsiku ndi tsiku.
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Thandizani kuchepetsa nkhanzaNgati wokondedwa wanu wakhala akulimbana ndi khansa ya m'mapapo kwa nthawi ndithu, sindikusowa kuti ndiwononge tsankho la khansa ya m'mapapo . Mosiyana ndi mawu a chisamaliro ndi kuthandizira anthu ambiri akamva akamagwirizana nawo, mawu oyambirira omwe alankhulidwa ndi munthu ali ndi kansa ya m'mapapo nthawi zambiri: "Unasuta utali wotani?" Izi zimachitika mosasamala ngati wina wasuta fodya, ndipo saganizira kuti tonsefe timakhala ndi zizoloŵezi zomwe zingayambitse khansara, kaya zakudya, moyo wokhazikika, kapena kupanikizika kwambiri.
Gawo loyamba ndi kupewa kumanga manyazi pa malo oyambirira. Mafunso monga "simukukhumba kuti mutasiya kusuta poyamba?" Mulibe malo mndandanda uwu. Mukhoza kukhala otsimikiza kuti anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi khansa atha kale kuti adziwonetse okha. Ngakhale kuti simungayang'ane mawu anu omwe, muli ndi udindo wokhala wokonda wokondedwa wanu kuwakumbutsa kuti ndi ofunika komanso kusewera.
"Limbikitsani" wokondedwa wanu ndipo mutenge ngati mukufunikira. Anthu akamapempha wokondedwa wanu za momwe amasuta fodya, ikhoza kukhala nthawi yabwino kulowetsamo, yankhani wokondedwa wanu, ndi kupereka maphunziro. "Aliyense yemwe ali ndi mapapo akhoza kutenga khansa ya m'mapapo." Mwina ino ndiyo nthawi yoti wina adziwe kuti pali amayi ambiri osasuta omwe amafa ndi khansa ya m'mapapo chaka chilichonse kusiyana ndi omwe amafa ndi khansa ya m'mawere. Mwina ndi nthawi yoperekera maphunziro pa mfundo yaikulu: "Palibe amene amayenera khansa. Aliyense amene ali ndi khansara yamapapu amayenerera chikondi, chifundo, ndi chithandizo chabwino kwambiri cha mankhwala."
Pamene mukuyamba ulendowu ndi wokondedwa wanu, onani zina mwaziganizidwe za momwe mungagwirire ndi malingaliro osalongosoka mukakhala ndi khansara yamapapu komanso zinthu ZOYENERA kunena kwa wina yemwe ali ndi kansa ya m'mapapo .
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Perekani Chithandizo ChachidwiPoyamba, izi zingamveke zophweka- "perekani chithandizo chokhazikika" -ndipo icho chidzakhala chinthu chovuta kwambiri chomwe munayamba mwachitapo.
Sikuti kansara ndi marathon okha, koma omwe amakhala ndi khansara yamapapo akulimbana ndi mantha ndi kusakayikira, mkwiyo ndi ululu. Kansa mtima imatha kugwira mwamphamvu, ndi kuya, ndikusintha nthawi zambiri ngakhale mkati mwa tsiku limodzi. Pakhoza kukhala masiku omwe mungakonde kugwira ndege yadziko lonse kulikonse kumene mungakhalepo kwa wokondedwa wanu.
Monga tanenera poyamba, kupereka chithandizo chosagwirizana ndikutanthauza kuyesa zomwe zimayambitsa khansa ya m'mapapo kwa ochita kafukufuku komanso odwala matenda a matenda. Udindo wanu ndi kuthandiza wokondedwa wanu kukhala ndi mphamvu komanso kulandira chithandizo chabwino koposa ngakhale atachita kale kuti athe kutenga khansa.
Onani mfundo izi zothandizira wokondedwa ndi khansa . Ngakhale zina mwazimenezi zili zovuta, palinso zinthu zina zomwe anthu samvetsa kwenikweni mpaka atapezeka kuti ali ndi khansara. Moyo umasintha pamene wina akulandira "C" matenda opatsirana.
Mfundo ina yofunika apa ndi yakuti wokondedwa wanu adzafunika kufotokoza maganizo ake oipa . Nthawi zambiri anthu amauzidwa kuti ayenera kukhala ndi maganizo abwino kuti apulumuke khansa. Izi siziri zoona. Palibe maphunziro omwe amasonyeza malingaliro abwino ali ndi chochita ndi moyo. Mosiyana ndi zimenezi, kuganizira zolakwika mkati ndikuyesera kumwetulira komanso kukhala wolimba mtima 24/7 kungakhale kovulaza. Lolani wokondedwa wanu atenge.
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Ganizirani Zochitika Zapadera Monga Maholide Patapita NthawiNthaŵi zambiri maholide amakhala opsinjika ngakhale kwa anthu omwe alibe khansa. Kuwonjezera kansa ku equation ukhoza kukhala udzu wotsiriza pa ngamila pokhapokha mutakonzekera pang'ono. Komabe, pokonzekera mosamala, iyi ikhoza kukhala nthawi yapadera yosangalala.
Kupititsa patsogolo ndi kuchepetsa nthawi yanu yowonjezera tchuthi ndi njira yochepetsera kuchepetsa nkhawa kwa nyengo. Lembani chiwerengero cha ntchito, ndipo onetsetsani kuti mukusiya kusinthasintha mmalingaliro anu kuti mulole mavuto osapeŵeka omwe angabwere chifukwa cha matenda a khansa.
Tengani nthawi yoganizira zomwe nyengo imatanthauza kwa inu. Ena osamalira khansa apeza machiritso pakupanga nyengo yowakhululukira mikangano yapitalo. Inu simungakhoze kutsatira mwambo monga inu munkachitira kale, koma izi siziri zoyipa nthawizonse. Ganizirani njira zomwe mungapangire zatsopano kukumbukira-zomwe zidzakunyamule kudutsa miyezi yozizira yomwe ingathe kutsata maholide.
Onetsetsani malangizo awa pa kuthana ndi maholide monga odwala khansa .
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Dzisamalire WekhaTikudziwa kuti ambiri mwa inu adzakhumudwa pamene tidzati, "Dziyang'anire nokha." Ndipo tikhoza kumva kale kubwezeretsa. "Ndani ali ndi nthawi yake yokha pamene wokondedwa wake ali ndi khansara?" "Pali maola 24 okha pa tsiku." Ife tikudziwa. Takhalapo, ndikudziŵa kuti nthawi zina timayenera kuika zosowa zathu ndi zosowa zathu kumbuyo.
Palinso zina zomwe mungachite kuti mudzilemekeze zomwe sizikutenga nthawi yambiri. Zingamveke zovuta, koma tengani kamphindi ndikulemba zinthu zochepa zimene mungapeze machiritso ndikubwezeretsani nokha. Kodi ndi maminiti 10 kuti mulowe mukhola ndi makandulo? Pamene mukuvutika, kapena poyipitsitsa, mutakhala ndi mlandu chifukwa chodzipangira nthawi, ganizirani zomwe mukufuna kuti wokondedwa wanu achite ngati matebulo atembenuzidwa.
Onani zina mwa mfundozi pazodziyang'anira nokha ngati mukusamalira munthu amene ali ndi khansara chifukwa cha malingaliro a momwe mungabwerezerere mzimu wanu pamene mukusamalira wina.
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Zindikirani Ndikumva Chisoni ChanuMonga momwe wokondedwa wanu akumvera chisoni chake, mudzakhalanso ndi chisoni. Ngati wokondedwa wanu ali ndi vuto lodziwika bwino, chisonicho chingakhale chowonekera mosavuta, koma chisoni chimadza chifukwa cha zifukwa zambiri.
Mwinamwake mukumva chisoni chifukwa chakusowa kwanu kwa nthawi yomwe inu mwachizolowezi mutha kuchita ntchito zina. Mwinamwake mukumva chisoni chifukwa cha imfa imene wokondedwa wanu akukumana nayo. Mwinamwake mukumva chisoni nthawi yomwe ana anu sangakhale nawo ndi kholo chifukwa cha matenda. Mwinamwake mukudandaula imfa ya chitetezo chachuma chomwe khansa imapereka.
Kaya mukumva chisoni bwanji, khalani ndi nthawi yozindikira mmene mumamvera. Nthawi zina anthu amayenera kuthana ndi chisoni chawo asanawathandize wokondedwa wawo. Ndi khansa nthawi zambiri imakhala ndi chisoni choyembekezereka -kumverera chisoni ndi kutayika timamva ngakhale tisanawonongeke. Tchulani zina mwa mfundo zothetsera chisoni chodzidzimutsa inu nokha ndi wokondedwa wanu.
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Pezani thandizoMonga momwe wokondedwa wanu akusowa thandizo kuchokera kwa inu, ndikofunika kuti mulandire chithandizo kuchokera kwa makanema anu abwenzi.
Ngakhale mutakhala ndi anzanu othandizira kwambiri, pali chinachake chapadera choyankhula ndi munthu amene akukumana ndi mavuto omwewo. Kodi pali magulu othandizira osowa zosowa m'dera lanu?
Magulu othandizira pa intaneti ndi madera ali ndi ubwino wambiri kwa osamalira anthu omwe ali ndi khansa ya m'mapapo. Mosiyana ndi magulu othandizira khansa ya m'mawere, omwe makamaka apangidwe a mamembala a anthu omwe ali ndi kansa ya m'mapapo m'dera lanu akhoza kukhala ovuta kubwera. Kupita pa intaneti kukupatsani mwayi kwa anthu omwe angakhale kutali mtunda wa makilomita ambiri, komabe amvetsetsa zomwe mukukumva. Ubwino winanso ndikuti simukusowa kuchoka kunyumba kuti mugwirizane ndi midzi iyi komanso mamembala ena alipo 24/7. Ena mwa awa ndi awa:
- Lungevity's Caregiver Resources Center
- Ufulu Wopangiritsa Utumiki - umene ungakufanane ndi wodwala khansa ya m'mapapo
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Yendetsani ku KHALANIPali zifukwa zambiri zokhala ndi chiyembekezo ngati wokondedwa wako akudwala khansa ya m'mapapo.
- Zochiritsira zikusintha.
- Kumeneko ndi opulumuka kwa nthawi yaitali-ngakhale khansara ya mapapo 4.
- Apo pali chithandizo.
- Simuli nokha.
Kodi mukuvutika mukuyesera kuti mukhale ndi chiyembekezo mwa wokondedwa wanu?
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Zotsatira Zotsatira M'kuyenda Kwawo OsamaliraNgakhale kuti aliyense akuyendera ulendo wina, pali njira zofanana. Imodzi mwazinthu zomwe timakonda kwambiri pokhala wosamalira wokondedwa ndi khansa ya m'mapapo sizinalembedwe ndi dokotala. Sindinalembedwe ndi wogwira ntchito zachipatala kapena mtsogoleri wa anthu osapindula. Mmalo mwake, ilo linafalitsidwa ndi winawake yemwe amadziwa malo a chisamaliro mozama komanso mwachikondi. Ulendo wa khansa: Wotsogolera Wotsogolera Kuchokera pa Mpando Wopambana ndi Cynthia Siegfried ndi nkhani ya ulendo wake pamene akuthandiza mwamuna wake yemwe ali ndi kansa ya m'mapapo kudzera m'makwerero ndi mapepala a moyo.
Mwina mukufuna kulemba ulendo wanu. Kulemba ulendo wanu wothandizira khansa kungakhale kochizira pamene mutasiya cholowa chanu kwa banja lanu.
Ngakhale aliyense amene amasamalira wokondedwa ndi khansara yamapapo akukuuzani kuti msewu ndi wovuta komanso wovuta, ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zazikulu zomwe mungachite ngati munthu kuti mugawane chikondi chanu. Mwinanso mudzauziridwa kuti mukhale woimira ena omwe akukumana ndi khansa ya m'mapapo, koma choyamba, phunzirani nthawi yoti muzitha kuyankha kuti ayi. Ndiwe woyenera!
> Zotsatira:
> American Cancer Society. Kulimbana ndi Khansa M'moyo Wosatha. http://www.cancer.org/treatment/treatmentsandsideeffects/emotionalsideeffects/copingwithcancerineverydaylife/a-message-of-hope-for-spouses-families-friends
> National Cancer Institute. Kwa Achibale ndi Anzanga. Kusinthidwa 11/06/17. https://www.cancer.gov/about-cancer/coping/family-friends