Ndemanga Zingakhale Zovulaza kwa Munthu Amene Ali Ndi Khansa Yam'mimba
"Mawu okoma, maonekedwe okoma mtima, zokoma mtima ndi kugwirana kwa manja, izi ndizo zachisomo pamene amuna akuvutika akulimbana ndi nkhondo zawo zosawoneka." - John Hall
Kwa zaka zambiri, takhala ndi anthu ochuluka kwambiri omwe ali ndi kansa ya m'mapapo omwe amawapweteka chifukwa cha malingaliro opanda pake omwe apanga ndi abwenzi awo. Zina mwazinthu izi zakhala zopweteka, koma zakhala zowopsya, zikubwera panthawi yomwe anthu amafunikira chikondi ndi chithandizo chochuluka momwe zingathere.
Nthawi zambiri, ndemanga izi zimapangidwa ndi zolinga zabwino; anthu sakuyesera kuti avulaze ndikupweteka. M'malo mwake, ambiri a ndemangazi akuyesera kulumikizana ndi kugawana kumvetsetsa.
Chimene chikuwoneka chokhumudwitsa kwa munthu yemwe ali ndi khansara sikungakhale kwanzeru kwa iwe. Anthu ambiri omwe amakhala ndi khansa adagawana kuti si mawu enieni omwe amalankhula zowawa kwambiri, koma makamaka zomwe amawerenga m'mawuwo. Mwachitsanzo, ngati khansara yanu yayamba kutuluka kapena NED (palibe umboni wa matenda), chifukwa cha kukoma mtima ndi kukhudzidwa mungamve anthu akunena, " Kodi mumadziwa bwanji kuti khansara yanu yatha? " M'malo moona chikondi ndi kudera nkhaŵa Cholinga, ndemanga ngati iyi ikhoza kudetsa nkhaŵa za kubwereza komanso ngakhale kusungulumwa pamene mukuzindikira kuti muli nokha ndi thupi lanu paulendo wanu ndi khansa.
Pamene mukuwerenga mndandandawu, musadzithamangitse ngati mwadzidzidzi mudapanga ndemanga izi kwa abwenzi ndi khansara.
Tonsefe takhala tikukweza mapazi athu nthawi zina, ndipo mnzanu amene ali ndi khansara amachititsa (ndikupitirizabe) ndemanga zomwe zingakhale zopweteka kwa ena ndi khansa. Anthu omwe ali ndi khansa ndi okhululukira, koma kusamala mawu omwe timagwiritsa ntchito kungathandize munthu amene ali ndi khansa kumverera mwina ndi tad wochepa paulendo wawo.
Zimakhumudwitsa kumva za "zinthu zolakwika" popanda kukhala ndi yankho. Kotero pamodzi ndi ndemanga ili m'munsiyi, tikambirana zinthu zina zomwe mungathe. Kumbukirani kuti nthawi zambiri sizongokhala mawu athu okha omwe anthu amamva, koma thupi lathu; Chilankhulo cha thupi chimalingaliridwa kuti ndi 50 mpaka 70 peresenti ya kuyankhulana. Ngati mukufuna kutumiza uthenga womveka kwa bwenzi lanu kuti mudzakhalapo ndipo mukufuna kuthandiza, onetsetsani kuti thupi lanu limapereka mawu omwewo.
1. Musanene Kuti: " Unasuta nthawi yayitali bwanji? "
Zikuwoneka ngati pafupifupi konsekonse kwa iwo amene amakhala ndi khansa ya m'mapapo, imodzi mwa mawu oyambirira omwe munthu akunena akamva za matenda awo ndi "Kodi utasuta nthawi yayitali bwanji?" Kwa anthu ena omwe ali ndi khansara yamapapu, mawu awa samapweteka, kapena amawabvundira zopweteka zawo ndi ndemanga monga wopulumuka wa khansa ya m'mapapo : " Zikomo chifukwa wandiuza kuti ndiyenera kukhala ndi khansara yamapapu ." Koma kwa anthu ambiri, mafunsowa ndi opweteka kwambiri, chifukwa amamva kuti akuwombera matenda. Kuwonjezera pa kuvulaza maganizo, manyazi a khansa ya m'mapapo yatsogolera anthu ena omwe ali ndi khansa ya m'mapapo kuti asalandire chisamaliro chokwanira, chifukwa akuona kuti sakuyenera kuchipatala. Nthawi zambiri anthu samafunsa za kusuta kuti zikhale zopweteka.
M'malo mwake, kaŵirikaŵiri ndi njira yodzilimbikitsira yokha kuti "ali otetezeka. " Mwachitsanzo, ngati wina ali ndi khansa yamapapu yasuta, kapena akusuta kwa nthawi yayitali, izi zimapangitsa mwayi wa munthu wina kukhazikitsa matendawa.
Pali njira zambiri zomwe timasankha kuchita zomwe zingasokoneze chiopsezo chathu chokhala ndi khansa , koma pazifukwa zina, khansa ya m'mapapo nthawi zambiri imatulutsidwa. Mawu oyambirira ochokera pakamwa pathu powerenga bwenzi ali ndi khansa ya m'mawere sizinali kawirikawiri " mwakhala mukuyamwitsa mwana wanu aliyense kwa nthawi yayitali bwanji? " Sitimapempha anthu omwe ali ndi khansara yam'kongo nthawi yayitali. Pa ndemanga zonse zotchulidwa m'nkhani ino, ngati pali choyenera kupewa, pewani kufunsa za kusuta.
Kumbukirani kuti amayi 20 pa 100 aliwonse omwe amakhala ndi kansa ya m'mapapo sanagwirepo ndudu. Koma ngakhale munthu wina atasuta moyo wake wonse, adakalibebe chikondi ndi chisamaliro chathu, thandizo lathu, ndi chithandizo chabwino kwambiri cha mankhwala. Monga ndemanga yotsiriza, tamva anthu akunena kuti funso ili ndi lofunika; kuti kufunsa anthu ali ndi khansara yamapapo pa kusuta kwawo kumathandiza kuphunzitsa ena za kuopsa kwa kusuta. Tiyankha pano kuti pali zinthu zambiri zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuphunzira za kuopsa kwa kusuta fodya, popanda kutero phindu lokhumudwitsa bwenzi lanu.
M'malo mwake nenani kuti: " Ndipepesa kuti mukumane ndi matendawa. "
2. Musanene kuti: " Ndiyitanani ngati mukusowa chilichonse "
Izi zingawoneke ngati zolakwika zoyimira. Ndiponsotu, bwanji osamufunsa mnzanu kuti ali ndi khansara ngati akufunikira chinachake? Chifukwa chake izi siziri zolakwika zolembera ndizo nthawi zambiri, zomwezo sizidzachitika. Tikamapempha wina kuti ayitane, timayika kuitana munthu ameneyo, ndipo kukhala ndi khansa nthawi zambiri zimakhala zolemetsa.
Polemba izi, sitikunena kuti simuyenera kupereka thandizo. Chonde chitani! Koma pamene mungathe, funsani zomwe mungachite mwanjira inayake, yomwe imathandiza mnzanuyo kuti asamangokhalira kuganiza. Pamene ndinali kudutsa chemotherapy pa khansa ya m'mawere, anthu nthawi zambiri amafunsa momwe angandithandizire, koma zinali zovuta kuganizira za thandizo lanji lomwe ndinkafuna. Ngakhale ziganizo monga "Kodi mungakonde kuti ndibweretse lasagna kapena pizza" nthawi zina zinali zovuta, chifukwa ndinali kudandaula ndi zisankho zonse zomwe ndinayenera kuchita pokhudza mankhwala. Chimene chinathandiza kwambiri chinali zopereka zenizeni zothandiza. Mzanga wokondedwa adamufunsa ngati angabwere pa Masika ndi maluwa (chinthu chomwe chimafuna kuti ubongo ukhale ndi yankho kapena ayi.) Kenako anaonetsa, pamodzi ndi anzake ena ambiri ndi maluwa ambirimbiri, ndipo mudzaze mabedi onse a maluwa anga.
Nthawi zina kuchita chinachake popanda kufunsa kungakhale mphatso yaikulu kwambiri. Ndinali ndi abwenzi omwe sanafunse zomwe ndinkafuna koma amatha kuwonetsa zakudya zowonongeka ndi zakudya kuchokera ku golosale (ndipo zingawatsogolere ku furiji ndi friji ndi kuzimasula.). Mnzanga wina anabweretsa mulu wa mabuku kuti iwo anali mabuku abwino omwe adawawerenga chaka chimenecho (ndipo anandiuza momveka bwino kuti sindinafunikire kuwawerenganso).
M'malo mwake, nenani kuti: " Kodi ndingabwere Lachitatu lotsatira ndikusamba mawindo? " Kapena " Kodi ndingakufikitseni kuchipatala chanu chotsatira? " Kapena " Kodi ndingabweretse chakudya cha Lachiwiri chotsatira? " Kapena mungoyamba kudya.
3. Musanene kuti: " Mwamuna wa mchimwene wanga wachiwiri wachiwiri anali ndi khansa yambiri ndipo iye _______ "
Izi zimachitika nthawi zonse. Tikadziwa za momwe mzake amadziwira, timapereka nkhani za ena omwe tadziwa ndi chikhalidwe chomwecho. Koma mmalo mwa ndemanga izi kuchita zomwe iwo akufuna kuchita - kulenga kugwirizana - nthawi zambiri amachita mosiyana; asiye mnzathu kumverera kwambiri.
Kugawana nthano za anthu omwe anamwalira, kapena kuwopsya nkhani zokhudzana ndi chithandizo, ndizo zinthu zotsiriza zomwe munthu amakhala ndi khansa ya m'mapapo amafuna kumva. Koma kuyerekezera kulikonse kungawonongeke ndipo kumatha kukhala kovulaza. Mwachitsanzo, nditapezeka, mnzanga anandiuza kuti mwana wake "ali ndi chinthu chomwecho," ndipo simunasowepo ntchito. Ndikutsimikiza kuti cholinga chake chinali kuchepetsa mantha anga okhudza chithandizo, koma m'malo mwake, zinandichititsa kumva ngati ndikuyenera kuweruzidwa ngati ndikufunikira kutenga nthawi - monga momwe ine "ndinalephera." Komanso, bwenzi lina linalongosola momwe zinalili zokondweretsa kuti mlongo wake sankatha kusiya ntchitoyo atapezeka, komabe mwamuna wake anayamba kuchita kuphika komanso kuchapa. Osathandiza.
Nthawi zambiri, kugawana nkhani kungakhale kothandiza. Ndili ndi bwenzi la khansara yomwe sichidziŵika bwino. Anandilimbikitsanso akamva za mnzanga wina yemwe anali ndi moyo ndipo anali ndi zaka 15 pambuyo pake. Koma ganizirani mosamalitsa musanauzane nkhani iliyonse. Cholinga chanu chikhale pa bwenzi lanu, osati kwa anthu ena omwe adakumana ndi khansa.
Mmalo mwake mukuti: " Mukugwira bwanji? " Ndipo mvetserani.
4. Musanene kuti: " Ndikudziwa momwe mumamvera "
" Zoonadi, mukudziwa momwe zimakhalira ndi thupi langa, ndi mtundu wanga wa khansa, ndi zizindikiro zanga, kukhala ndi ana anga, kunyumba kwanga, ndi nkhawa zanga? " Ndikuzindikira kuti anthu ambiri omwe amati "Ndikudziwa momwe mumamverera "akuyesera kuthandizira ndikupangitsa mnzawo kuti azidziona kuti ndi wochepetseka, koma zenizeni, izi zikhoza kumusiya mnzanuyo kukhala wosungulumwa komanso osungulumwa.
Pokhapokha mutakhala ndi khansa ya m'mapapo - komanso ngati muli - simungathe kumvetsa zomwe zimakonda kukhala bwenzi lanu. Ulendo wa aliyense ndi wosiyana. Zingakhale zovuta kwambiri kunena chinachake ngati chonchi. Mwa njira zina, kukhala ndi khansa kumakulowetsani ku gulu lachinsinsi la opulumuka, koma kuyerekezera pakati pa opulumutsidwa ndi khansa kungakhale kowawa kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, munthu yemwe amakhala ndi khansa ya m'mapapo 4 ya m'mapapo sakufuna kumva munthu yemwe ali ndi kansa ya m'mawere ya m'mawere akuti "Ndikumvetsa momwe mumamvera." Chifukwa sangathe.
M'malo mwake, nenani: " Mukumva bwanji? " Ndipo khalani okonzeka kumvetsera.
5. Musanene Kuti: " Muyenera Kukhala ndi Maganizo Oyenera "
Kukhala ndi maganizo abwino ndi khansa si chinthu choipa; Kafukufuku amasonyeza kuti kukhala ndi maganizo abwino kungathandize chitetezo cha m'thupi komanso kuchepetsa kupweteka kwa ma hormoni m'thupi lathu. Koma monga pali nthawi yokhala ndi zabwino, nthawi zina mumayenera kulira bwino.
Kuwuza anthu omwe akulimbana ndi khansara kuti afunika kukhalabe otetezeka kumateteza maganizo awo. Izi, zowonjezera, zingawachititse kuti azitsekerera ndikugwira maganizo awo mkati. Kuwuza munthu yemwe ali ndi khansa kuti ali " amphamvu kwambiri " akhoza kukhala ndi zotsatira zofanana. Ngati mukufuna kuthandizira bwenzi lanu ndi khansara, muloleni akhale pamalo omwe angakhale wofooka ndikufotokozera mantha ake.
M'malo mwake mukuti: " Ndikutsimikiza kuti nthawi zina mumamva chisoni. Ngati mukufunikira phewa kuti mufuule, ndidzakhala pano. "
6. Musanene Kuti: " Mukufunikira ......... (Sankhani Zanu)
- Kudya zakudya zamagetsi
- Pezani lingaliro lachiwiri pa khansara yamapapo.
- Pitani zonse organic.
- Yambani juicing.
- Yesani mankhwala atsopano a zitsamba.
- Pitani ku Mexico ndipo khalani ndi laetrile .
- Onani oncologist amayi anga.
Malingaliro ena omwe anthu amapanga akhoza kukhala abwino. Ena alibe mbali, ndipo ena amatha kukhala owopsa. Ndinali ndi bwenzi limodzi "ndilangizeni" kuti ndiyenera kudumpha opaleshoni ndi chemotherapy m'malo mwa kumwa madzi karoti maola awiri. Inde, ndinasankha kunyalanyaza malingaliro ake, koma mfundo yaikulu ndi yakuti kupereka uphungu mwina si momwe mnzanu wodwala khansa akufunira kuti mumuthandize .
Ngati mutatsala pang'ono kunena chinachake chomwe chimayambira ndi " muyenera ....... " ganiziraninso. Mwinamwake bwenzi lanu lachita kafukufuku wochuluka ndipo tsopano ali ndi nkhawa kwambiri ndi zosankha zomwe zilipo. Mofananamo, kugaŵana "maganizo a chiwembu," kapena kupereka ndemanga za mankhwala a chemotherapy kukhala luso kwa madokotala kuti azigwiritsa ntchito ndalama pa odwala khansa, sichithandizira kwambiri kumuthandiza munthu yemwe watulukira kumene ali ndi khansa.
M'malo mwake mukuti: " Zikumveka ngati mwasankha gulu labwino lachipatala. Ngati mukufuna, ndikukondwera kukuthandizani kufufuza zomwe mungasankhe. "
7. Musanene kuti: " Chilichonse chimakhala cholungama "
Zoonadi? Kodi mungakhale otsimikiza bwanji?
Kuwuza bwenzi lanu kuti mukutsimikiza kuti zidzakhala bwino sikungokhala zabodza koma kuchepetsa mantha a mnzanu za mankhwala ndi zam'tsogolo.
M'malo mwake, nenani kuti: " Ndikhala ndikukuthandizani. " Ndipo khalani okonzeka kumvetsera mantha ake.
8. Musanene Kuti " Mulungu Angagwiritse Ntchito Izi "
Kapena kusiyana, " Zonse zimachitika chifukwa ." Munthu wina akayamba kundiuza izi, ndinkangomva kuti, " Zolondola, akanatha kundigwiritsa ntchito popanda khansara."
Ndili ndi chikhulupiriro cholimba, koma sindikhulupirira kuti Mulungu akukonzekeretsa ena mwa ife kukhala ndi khansa kuti tithandizire ena. Chimodzimodzinso, sindimakhulupirira kuti Mulungu amapereka anthu khansa chifukwa pali tchimo mmoyo wawo, kapena kuti ngati muli ndi "chikhulupiriro chokwanira," adzakupulumutsa mozizwitsa. Ambiri a ife timadziwa za munthu yemwe anali ndi chikhulupiriro cholimba ndi zikhulupiliro, komabe anagonjetsedwa ndi khansa. Momwemonso, zozizwitsa zimachitika kwa iwo omwe alibe chikhulupiriro konse.
M'malo mwake, nenani: " Kodi ndikupemphererani?" Ndipo ngati mnzanu ati inde, onetsetsani kuti mukuchita.
9. Musanene "Kodi Simukukhumba Inu Mutakhala ndi Khansa ya M'mimba Ndi Zopangira Zonse Zam'mimba M'malo mwa Khansa Yopsa? "
Inde, iyi ndi ndemanga yeniyeni yomwe inalankhulidwa ndi wina yemwe ali ndi kansa yamapapo. Pali kusiyana kwa kuchuluka kwa thandizo (ndi ndalama) za khansa ya m'mapapo yokhudzana ndi khansa ya m'mawere, koma kodi sizowoneka bwino (ndi zopweteka zokwanira) popanda kuyankhapo za izo?
Wina "osanena" anabwera ngati ndemanga mu blog yandinalemba kuti: "Omwe apulumuka ku khansa amafunika kuimirira ndikupanga kusiyana ngati opulumuka pa khansa ya m'mawere." Inde, opulumuka khansa ya m'mawere achita ntchito yabwino yolengeza. Koma kuti muziyenda kapena kuthamanga kwa kuzindikira khansa yamapapo mumayenera kukhala ndi mapapo, ndipo muyenera kukhala ndi moyo. Chiwerengero cha zaka 5 za khansa ya m'mawere ndi pafupifupi 90 peresenti. Khansara ya mapapo ndi chabe 17 peresenti.
M'malo mwake, nenani kuti: " Ndine wokonzeka komanso wololera kulowa nawo kuthandizira chifukwa cha khansa yamapapu."
10. Musanene: Palibe
Kukhala chete kungakhale chinthu chovuta kwambiri kwa wina yemwe ali ndi khansa. Chimodzi mwa mantha aakulu a anthu omwe ali ndi khansara ali yekha - akudwala yekha, akukumana ndi ululu yekha, kufa yekha, kapena kupulumuka yekha. Ndikumva kuti ndinagawana zinthu zambiri zoti ndisanene kwa wina yemwe ali ndi khansara yamapapu, koma zikafika pa izo, ndibwino kunena chinachake osati kunena kanthu. Anthu omwe ali ndi khansa nthawi zambiri amakhululukira nthawi zina. Ndizomvetsa chisoni kwambiri kuti zakuthambo zimakhala zotayika.
M'malo mwake, nenani: " Sindikudziwa choti ndikanene. "
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Popeza kuti mwinamwake ndi chinthu choipitsitsa chimene mungathe kunena kwa wina yemwe ali ndi khansara yamapapu, sindikufuna kuti anthu achoke m'nkhaniyi kuti awononge chinthu cholakwika. Anthu omwe amakhala ndi khansa amadziwa kuti anzawo amatha kupeza zovuta kudziwa zomwe anganene. Mmalo mozikumbukira ndemanga zenizeni zoti asanene, zolemba zingapo zingathandize.
- Yankhulani mochepa ndi kumvetsera zambiri.
- Funsani mafunso otseguka, ndipo mulole mnzanuyo ayambe kukambirana.
- M'malo moona kuti mukufunikira kukonzekera zinthu kapena kuchita chinachake , zomwe bwenzi lanu amafunikira kwambiri ndi kuti mukhalepo .
- Pewani kupereka malangizo.
- Pewani kutsutsidwa.
- Pewani kunyalanyaza-kunyoza komanso kuwononga mphamvu ya khansa kungakhale kovulaza kwa munthu amene ali ndi khansara.
Ndipo kumbukirani: zinthu zoipa zimachitika kwa anthu abwino. Koma nthawi zina, zinthu zoipazo zimakhala zovuta kwambiri pamene muli ndi anzanu omwe amayesetsa kupewa zinthu zomwe zingakhale zopweteka, ndikutsatirani ndemangazo ndi mawu othandizira m'malo mwake.
> Zotsatira:
> National Cancer Institute. Maganizo ndi Khansa. Kusinthidwa 11/06/17. https://www.cancer.gov/about-cancer/coping/feelings