Mapeto a Moyo Wokhudzidwa

Kulimbana ndi Mapeto a Zamoyo

Imfa ndi gawo lachilengedwe koma ambirife timapewa kukambirana za umunthu wathu komanso ulendo womaliza womwe tiyenera kuchitapo kanthu. Kuphunzira zambiri za nkhani yovutayi, komabe, kungatipatse mphamvu komanso kuchepetsa kusautsika ndi mantha nthawi zina timamva.

Ndi bwino kukonzekera ndi kudziphunzitsa tokha pa mapeto a moyo, m'mene tingakonzekerere maliro kapena msonkhano wachikumbutso, komanso momwe tingagonjetsere chisoni ndi imfa pambuyo pa imfa ya wokondedwa.

Mapeto a Moyo

Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa kuti zinthu zambiri zidzakhudze chidziwitso chakufa kwa munthu aliyense, monga:

Kuwonjezera pamenepo, mapeto a moyo sagwirizana ndi nthawi kapena "zizindikiro" zenizeni zomwe zimasonyeza ndendende kuti wokondedwayo adzakhala ndi nthawi yayitali bwanji.

Kwa anthu ena, ndondomeko yakufa ikhoza kutenga masabata angapo, miyezi ingapo, kapena ngakhale motalika. Kwa ena, kusintha kuchokera ku thanzi labwino kwa imfa kungachitike mofulumira-mkati mwa masiku angapo kapena ngakhale maola.

Izi zinati, ngakhale kuti palibe chidziwitso chakufa kwa anthu onse, anthu ambiri akuwonetsanso kufanana kwa thupi, maganizo, ndi maganizo monga imfa ikuyandikira. Kawirikawiri, munthu angayambe kuchoka kwa abwenzi ake, abwenzi ake, ndi okondedwa ake, kapena kusonyeza chidwi pang'ono kapena zosakhudzidwa ndi zokambirana, zosangalatsa, ndi / kapena ntchito zomwe iye anali nazo kale. Ena angakhalebe osangalala komanso amalandira alendo koma amasonyeza kuti sakwiya kapena amavutika kuti azigwirizana nawo kapena kusamalira .

Pa nthawi yotsiriza ya moyo, si zachilendo kuti anthu ayambe kuchita zinthu mwadongosolo, ngati sali kale. Izi zingaphatikizepo nkhani zothandiza, monga:

Komanso, nthawi zambiri kufa kumaganizira za moyo wawo ndipo kungayesetse kuthetsa ubale wovuta kapena kuthana ndi zodandaula zilizonse. Kugwira ntchito kudzera mu " Ntchito Zisanu za Kufa " kungathandize anthu kunena zabwino kwa okondedwa awo, kupeza mphamvu yotsekedwa, ndi kukhala ndi mtendere ngati imfa ikuyandikira.

Anthu ena akufa angakhale ndi zozizwitsa zotchedwa " kuyandikira chidziwitso cha imfa " -kuzindikira kuti chinachake chikuchitika kwa iwo ngakhale kuti sangathe kufotokozera mokwanira. Nthawi zina amatsutsidwa ndi osowa chithandizo ngati kupuma kosatha kapena kumapeto , wodwala wakufa akhoza kulankhula kapena kuchita ngati akufuna kukonzekera ulendo kapena kugawana "masomphenya" owona wokondedwa wake wakufa kapena "malo okongola."

Nthawi zina munthu wakufa angasinthe malingaliro amodzi omwe amachititsa kuti anthu asokoneze maganizo awo. Wodwala akhoza kusonyeza izi, mwachitsanzo, ndi:

Pamene imfa ikuyandikira, nthaƔi zambiri anthu amene amafa amafa chifukwa cha chakudya chawo kapena zakumwa zawo-ndipo amalephera kulemera. Ngakhale izi zikhoza kuchititsa chidwi kwa okondedwa a wodwalayo, izi ndizochitika mwachibadwa pa ulendo womaliza chifukwa thupi la munthu limasowa mphamvu zochepa. Ndipotu, maselo a thupi la munthu angasinthe panthawiyi ndipo amachititsa kuti munthu azifa mofatsa.

Kuwonjezera pa kusadya kapena kumwa, munthu amene amwalirayo nthawi zambiri samalankhula pang'ono, ngati sangathe kuyankha mafunso kapena kukambirana kwa ena.

Iye akhoza kugona kwambiri, ndipo zochitika zolimbitsa thupi zidzakula ngati sizikhala kwathunthu kwathunthu.

Chakumapeto kwa njira yakufa, thupi la munthu lidzayamba kusonyeza zina mwa izi:

Pamene thupi la munthu limayamba kutseka, manja ndi miyendo yake ikhoza kukhala yoyera komanso yooneka bwino. Phokoso la khungu limeneli limatha kupitirira pang'onopang'ono kutsogolo mikono ndi miyendo.

Maso a munthuyo akhoza kukhala otseguka kapena otseguka, koma iye sangawone malo awo ndipo kawirikawiri sadzakhala omvera.

Kawirikawiri akatswiri amakhulupirira kuti kumva kwathu ndikumapeto kotha imfa isanachitike. Choncho, wokondedwa wa wodwalayo akhoza kukhala ndi kulankhula ndi munthu wakufa panthawiyi, ngati akufunayo.

Pomaliza, kupuma kwake kudzatha ndipo mtima wake udzasiya kugunda. Imfa yachitika.

Panthawiyi, thupi la munthu limayamba pomwepo pang'onopang'ono . Izi zikuphatikizapo:

Kukonzekera Msonkhano wa maliro, Utumiki wa Chikumbutso, kapena Kupembedzera

Munthu wokondedwa akamwalira, pali ntchito zambiri zomwe opulumuka amayenera kuchita nthawi yomweyo komanso ntchito zosiyanasiyana zomwe angafunikire kukwaniritsa m'masiku ndi masabata omwe amatsatira imfa .

Pambuyo poti apolisi apereke chigamulo chokhudza imfa, banja lawo kapena wachibale wa womwalirayo kawirikawiri amayamba kukonzekera maliro kapena msonkhano wachikumbutso , pakati pa ntchito zina zambiri zofunika. Ngati wokondedwa wanu akukonzekera kapena akukonzekera mwambo wake wa maliro kapena mwambo wa chikumbutso, ndiye kuti mufunsane ndi wothandizira yemwe wasankhidwa kuti akambirane mfundozo ndi kumaliza kukonzekera.

Mwamwayi, anthu ambiri amapewa kulankhula za imfa panthawi ya moyo wawo. Choncho musayambe kukambirana za zofuna zawo zomaliza ndi wokondedwa, wachibale kapena mnzanu. Choncho, mungafunikire kupanga zokonza zanu nokha. Chisankho choyamba muyenera kusankha chomwe mukufuna kuchita ndi thupi la wokondedwa wanu-mawonekedwe omaliza. Muli ndi njira zingapo:

Mabanja ambiri amagwira ntchito ndi wogwira ntchito, monga mtsogoleri wa maliro kapena celebration , pamsonkhano wa maliro kuti apange utumiki woyenera, wogwira ntchito womwe umathandiza okondedwa kukumbukira ndi kukumbukira wakufayo akulimbikitsana ndi kuthandizana. Pamene mukukonzekera msonkhano, mudzafunsidwa kuti mupereke zomwe mukufunikira kuti mulembe zolembazo ndipo mungasankhe kulemba ndi kupereka zolemba pamaliro a mwambo wa maliro kapena chikumbutso.

Mabanja ena amasankha kutsogolera ntchito zoterozo pa zifukwa zosiyanasiyana. Pazochitikazi, amatha kusankha manda enieni kapena mwamsanga kapena kuwotcha kutentha . Monga wogula, muyenera kupenda ndi kumvetsetsa "Funeral Rule" ya Federal Trade Commission, yomwe imateteza ufulu wanu pamene mukugula katundu kapena ntchito kuchokera kwa eni eni (makamaka nyumba za maliro).

Kulimbana ndi Chisoni ndi Kutayika

Chisoni ndi yankho lamphamvu, lodziwika bwino, komanso losasinthika limene anthu amakumana nalo pambuyo pochitika zowawa kapena zowawa, monga imfa ya wokondedwa. Ngakhale kuti chisoni ndi chikhalidwe choyenera komanso chofunikira kuchitayika, munthu aliyense adzalira chifukwa chake ndi nthawi yake yapadera.

Ngakhale kuti chisoni chimakhala chachikulu, ambiri akulirabe amatha kusonyeza makhalidwe ena otsatirawa m'masiku, masabata, kapena miyezi yotsatira imfa ya wokondedwa:

Ngakhale pali malingaliro ambiri omwe anthu ambiri amamva ponena za chisoni chimene chingathe kukhumudwitsa chisoni ndi imfa ya munthu amene timamukonda, palibe kutsutsana kuti chisoni chingasokoneze moyo wathu wamba komanso zochitika.

Chisoni ndi zopweteka zomwe zimadza chifukwa chachisoni zingathe kuwonetsa thupi lathu, monga mavuto am'mimba, kupweteka ndi kupweteka, ndi kulemera kapena kutayika. Mwinanso mungavutike kubwerera kuntchito kapena ofesi yanu pamene mukulira. Chifukwa chakuti mungakhale ovuta kuganiza momveka bwino panthawiyi, pali ziganizo zambiri za moyo muyenera kuchedwa kupanga kanthawi, ngati n'kotheka.

Palibe "masitepe" odalirika a kulira . Mmalo mwake, momwe timachitira mpaka imfa ya wokondedwa ndi munthu waumwini ndipo aliyense wa ife ayenera kupeza njira zothetsera ntchitoyi kwa ife. Anthu ena amakonda kudzimva okha ndipo safuna kapena akusowa thandizo. Ena akhoza kufunafuna ndi kupeza chitonthozo pogawana ululu, mkwiyo, kupsinjika maganizo, ndi maganizo ena omwe amamva kutsata imfa mwa kuphatikiza gulu lothandizira anthu osowa m'dera lawo. Apo palibe njira "yolondola" yolira.

Ngati mukufuna kupereka chithandizo ndi chitonthozo kwa wachibale wanu wokondedwa kapena bwenzi lanu, pali njira zambiri zomwe mungathandizire pamene akulimbana ndi imfa yawo. Ngakhale kuti zimawoneka zovuta kupeza mawu abwino oti atonthoze munthu wodandaula -ndipo anthu ambiri amanena zinthu zolakwika -komwe ziri zenizeni , zowonjezera mawu achifundo omwe mungapereke. Koma mwinamwake mphatso yamtengo wapatali imene mungapereke kwa wina wakulira imfa ndi kukhala chete kwanu, kukhalapo kwanu ndi kuthandizira, kosaganizira.

> Zotsatira:

> Barbara Karnes, RN: Sindikuthawa: Kuchita Zochita

> Hospice Foundation ya America: Wotsogolera Wotsogolera Kuchita Zowonongeka

Sherwin B. Nuland, MD: Momwe Timafa: Zomwe Zimalingalira Mutu Womaliza wa Moyo