Elisabeth Kubler-Ross adalimbikitsa kuti anthu nthawi zambiri amadutsa muyeso pamene akulimbana ndi imfa yosapeŵeka. Izi ndi kukana, kukwiya, kukambirana, kukhumudwa, ndi kuvomereza. Sikuti aliyense amapita kudera lililonse, ndipo sikuti nthawi zonse amakhala mu dongosolo, koma anthu ambiri akufa adzapeza chidutswa cha mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo.
Mkwiyo ndizochitika mwachibadwa ku imfa yaikulu.
Munthu wakufa amatha kutaya chirichonse ndi aliyense amene ali wofunika kwa iye. Amamva kuti wadwala matenda ake. Ngati amakhulupirira kuti ali ndi mphamvu zoposa, akhoza kuimba mlandu Mulungu wake chifukwa choyambitsa matenda kapena kuchiritsa. Angakwiyire ngakhale achibale ake ndi mabwenzi ake kuti apitirize kukhala ndi moyo wawo pang'onopang'ono atasokonezeka. Angaganize kuti dokotala sali wolunjika naye, anamwino ake samayankha mwamsanga zomwe akufuna, komanso kuti dziko lapansi layamba kale kumuiwala.
Kuchita ndi Mkwiyo wa Munthu Wopanduka
Mkwiyo umawonetsedwa mosavuta kwa ena, choncho mwachibadwa ngati mkwiyo wa wokondedwa wanu ukuloledwa. Ngati mukupeza kuti mukuchita ndi munthu wokwiya, apa pali mfundo zisanu zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuwathandiza.
- Sungani Maubwenzi Akuluakulu: Nthawi zambiri zimakhala zosavuta kuchiza munthu wodwala ngati mwana; Ndimunthu waumunthu kusamalira ndi kuchepetsa odwala. Mukagwa mu ndondomekoyi, zomwe poyamba munkakhala munthu wamkulu wamkulu zimakhala chimodzi mwa mwana wamkulu. Kuchiza munthu wamkulu wakufa monga momwe mwana angayankhire ndi kuonjezera mkwiyo munthu wakufa akumva kale. Mwinamwake wagwa mu ndondomeko iyi osadzizindikira, ndipo iwe ukhoza kuwona mkwiyo wakufikitsidwa kwa iwe pochita zimenezo. Zimakhala zokhumudwitsa komanso zonyaditsa mokwanira kuti mutayaye ufulu wanu komanso zachinsinsi popanda kuchitidwa ngati mwana. Munthu wakufa nthawi zambiri amafuna kukhalabe wodziletsa okha, moyo wawo, ndi zosankha zawo malinga ndi momwe angathere. Kulimbitsa munthu wakufa kuti apange zosankha zawo, kufotokoza maganizo awo, ndi kukhalabe odziimira momwe angathere ndi njira yofunikira yowathandizira kuti ayambe kupsa mtima.
- Musati Mutengereni Munthu: Anthu owopsya amayang'ana wina kuti awatsutse. Pamene mkwiyo ukuloledwa kwa inu, ndizovuta kuti musatengepo nokha ndikudabwa, ndidatani? Ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti munthu wakufa sakusakwiyirani, koma chifukwa cha matenda komanso mkhalidwe wake wonse. Ngakhale kuti mkwiyo wake ukhoza kulunjikidwa kwa inu, sikuli ndi vuto lililonse lanu.
- Onetsetsani Kuwona Maganizo Awo: Pamene sikutheka kudziŵa momwe munthu wina akumverera, kuyesera kuwona zinthu kuchokera pakuwonekera kungakuthandizeni kumvetsa chifukwa chake akuchita mwanjira inayake. Ganizirani za moyo wa munthu wakufayo-aliyense yemwe amamukonda, ntchito zomwe amasangalala nazo, ntchito yomwe adachita, maloto omwe ali nawo m'tsogolo-ndikuganiza kuti akunyalanyaza moyo wonsewo. Poyang'ana pa njirayi, n'zosadabwitsa kuti akukwiya. Iye amayima kuti ataya aliyense ndi chirichonse chimene chamunenapo chirichonse kwa iye.
- Pitani Patsogolo ndipo Pezani Madokotala ... pa Matenda Omwe: Kumvetsetsa kuti mkwiyo wa munthu wakufa ukuchokera kukuthandizani kuzindikira kuti mkwiyo wake ndi wolondola. Kutsogoza mkwiyo ku matenda kungathandize munthu wakufa kuthana ndi maganizo awo. Zingakhale zothandiza kukwiya ndi cholinga chenicheni cha munthu wakufayo. Pambuyo pa zonse, iwe umayima kuti utaya chinachake. Pitirizani kukwiya ndi matenda.
- Kumvetsa Mkwiyo Wolungama: Munthu wakufa angakhale wamanyazi, wamanyazi, kapena wodabwitsidwa atakwiya. Iye akhoza kunena chinachake monga, "Ine sindikukhulupirira kuti ine ndangonena izo. Izo siziri ngati ine nkomwe. "Inu mukhoza kukhala mukuganiza chinthu chomwecho. Kuzindikira ndi kuvomereza mkwiyowo ndi wachibadwa ndipo kulondola kungathandize munthu wakufa kumamatira ndikuyenda kupyola mu mkwiyo wa njira yakufa. Kuyankhula za mkwiyo wolungama pamodzi ndi kugawidwa kwakumverera kungachepetse mavuto.
> Zotsatira:
> Maganizo Pamene Inu Mukuyandikira Mapeto a Moyo. American Cancer Society. Chiwongoladzanja.
> Wang-Chen R. Kulimbana ndi Kuleza Mtima Kwakuleza Mtima. Ntchito Yothandizira Pakati pa Wisconsin. https://www.mypcnow.org/blank-xfjmi.