Mayi aliyense yemwe wafotokozera "mbalame ndi njuchi" kwa mwana amadziwa kuti ngakhale kuti zokambiranazi zingakhale zovuta komanso zosasangalatsa nthawi zina, kukambirana za kugonana, chikondi, ndi kubereka ndi mwana wamwamuna n'kofunika kwambiri ndi zofunikira. Mwamwayi, kukambilana momasuka chikhalidwe china chaumunthu chomwe aliyense adzachiwononge, kufa ndi imfa, kawirikawiri amanyalanyazidwa.
Nkhaniyi ikupereka zifukwa zisanu zomwe zimagwiritsira ntchito mapepala apamadzi apaderali apamtunda akhoza kukuthandizani kuti mukambirane ndi munthu amene mumamukonda.
Kodi Masewera a Khadi la Moyo Wotsiriza / Deck ndi Chiyani?
Masiku ano, paliponse zapadera za makadi zomwe zingathandize anthu kuyambitsa zokambirana za mitundu yonse yofunikira, monga ndalama ndi ndalama zaumwini, ukwati ndi ubale, makhalidwe ndi maluso, komanso zina. Mosiyana ndi masewera a kakhadi a zikondwerero omwe amasewera masewera, masewera apaderawa saganizira kwambiri mpikisano ndi kupambana ndi zambiri pazochita zokhudzana ndi chiyanjano ndikupanga ophunzira kuti "atsegule" wina ndi mnzake. Ngakhale kuti nthawi zambiri amasangalala, cholinga cha zambiri mwazinthuzi ndikulimbikitsa kukambirana moona mtima ndi zokambirana.
Ichi ndi cholinga cha masewera a masewera a mapeto a moyo: Kulimbikitsa ndi kukambirana zokambirana pakati pa ophunzira za maganizo, malingaliro, ndi zikhumbo zawo zokhudzana ndi zovuta zakufa ndi nkhani zakufa.
Masewera a pakompyuta monga awa angakhudze zambiri mwazofunikira, zakukhosi, monga mankhwala opulumutsa moyo; zomwe ziri zofunika kwambiri ngati imfa ikuyandikira; zinthu zomwe wina akuyembekeza kukwaniritsa, aka awo "ndandanda mndandanda"; maliro enieni, zikumbutso ndi zofunsira; momwe akuyembekeza kukumbukiridwa; ndi zina.
Chifukwa Chogwiritsa Ntchito Masewera a Khadi
Ngati mukufuna kukambirana za imfa ndi / kapena imfa ndi munthu amene mumamukonda kuti muphunzire zokhumba zawo zomaliza koma zimakuvutani kuyambitsa zokambiranazi, ndiye mumagwiritsa ntchito masewera / mapepala a mapeto a mapeto. zomwe zikuwonetsedwa pa chithunzi pamwambapa) zingakuthandizeni kuyamba kukambitsirana pa zifukwa izi:
1. N'kosavuta Kufotokozera
Nthawi zambiri, vuto lalikulu lomwe timakumana nalo pakukambirana za mapeto a moyo wamunthu nthawi zambiri limapezeka m'maganizo mwathu pamene tikuvutika kuti tiwone m'mene tingachitire ngakhale "nkhani" yakufa ndi / kapena imfa ndi wokondedwa . Mofananamo ndi makolo angati omwe amatha kufotokozera "mbalame ndi njuchi" kwa mwana poyamba amawopa nkhaniyi, zimakhalanso zachilendo kulingalira momwe kukambirana za kumapeto kwa moyo wa wokondedwa wanu kukukhudzirani. Nthaŵi zambiri, timagwiritsa ntchito kusungidwa kulikonse kapena vuto lomwe tikuganiza kuti ndilo chifukwa china chochotsera kukambirana kovuta ndipo sizingatheke.
Chowonadi n'chakuti simudzapeza nthawi yabwino, malo kapena mawu oti muyambe kukambirana za anthu za imfa kapena imfa ndi wokondedwa wanu, chifukwa chake mndandanda wa mapepala / sitimayi yothetsera mapeto angathe kuthandizira.
M'malo movutikira kunena, "Hey, wokondedwa, kodi mukufuna kuti ndikaike kapena kuwononga thupi lanu?" mungapeze zosavuta kunena, "Hey, wokondedwa, Ndikufuna kusewera masewera a pakompyuta ndi iwe ..." kukuthandizani kupeza yankho la funso ili ndi zina zambiri.
Chonde dziwani kuti izi sizikutanthauza "kumunyengerera" wina kuti agwire nkhani yovuta-koma yofunikira ! Mwachiwonekere, wokondedwa wanu adzazindikira mwamsanga momwe zimakhalira zokambirana mukangoyamba kugwiritsa ntchito sitimayi, ndipo pamene angakane kusewera, zokambirana zanu zingapitilirebe mutangoyamba nkhaniyo.
2. Mungadalire Makhadi
Monga momwe mungavutike ngakhale kufotokoza nkhani ya imfa ya wokondedwa wanu ndi zomwe angakonde, pogwiritsa ntchito mapepala okonda mapeto angakuthandizeni kufunsa funso ngati muli ndi vuto kukumbukira kapena kupeza N'zovuta kufunsa chinachake mokweza. Pamene makadi awa akupereka njira zambiri zothetsera kukambirana kwa moyo wamtunduwu ( onani "Kulimbikitsa Kukhazikika / Kukonzekera" pansipa ), zimangokhala zosavuta kudalira mawu a khadi lirilonse mosasamala kanthu momwe mumasankha kugwiritsa ntchito mapepala awa.
Monga tanenera kale, kukambirana za mapeto a moyo wa wokondedwa kungakhale kovuta nthawi zina, chifukwa chake timapewa kukambirana izi poyamba. Choncho, ngati mutapeza kuti mukukula m'malingaliro, mukhoza kuiwala kufunsa funso kapena kumva kuti simungathe kufotokozera mawu omwe mukufuna kapena muyenera kuwadziwa. Muzochitika izi, kudalira pachitetezo cha khadi la mapeto komanso mapemphero ake omwe angasankhidwe akhoza kukuthandizani kuti mutenge kukambirana kwanu, komanso / kapena kukuthandizani kuthetsa nthawi zovuta.
3. "Sindinaganize Zomwezo"
Zowonjezereka, ngati mutapemphedwa kuti alembe funso lililonse limene mukufuna kufunsa wokondedwa wanu zokhumba zake zomaliza, mukhoza kukhala ndi 10 kapena mwina 20. Phindu lina logwiritsa ntchito khadi lapadera la moyo Masewera ndi ambiri omwe amakhala ndi mafunso ofunikira, ndipo ambiri amakhudza zomwe simungaganize.
Mwachitsanzo, chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe anthu alibe chiyanjano cha moyo ndi chifukwa chakuti ambirife timaopa imfa komanso imfa ndipo sitingafune kuganiza zaife. Kuopa kotereku, kungathe kupanga komanso kukhudzidwa ndi zikhumbo zathu zomaliza, koma kodi mutaganiza kuti mufunse wokondedwa wanu kuti afotokoze mantha ake ponena za kufa kapena zomwe zimamuwopsyeza za imfa? Yankho lake likhoza kukhala lofunika kwambiri ndipo limakonza zokambiranazi koma mwina simungadziwe ngati simukufunsa.
Mofananamo, mapepala a mapeto a moyo angapangitse mafunso ena omwe sangakuchitikire, monga:
- Kodi mukufuna kuti imfa yanu iwonetsedwe pamasewero, monga Facebook kapena Twitter?
- Ndikofunikira bwanji kufa pakati pa abwenzi anu / abwenzi osati nokha?
- Kodi mwatenga njira zothetsera mikangano ya banja musanamwalire kapena mutatha kufa, monga lamulo lalamulo kapena chithandizo choyendetsera thanzi ?
- Kodi mungakonde kuti ine kapena dokotala wanu akuuzeni zoona zokhudzana ndi matenda oletsa moyo?
- Kodi mumaganiza chiyani mukamva mawu akuti "hospice"?
4. Chotsani Maganizo Ochokera kwa Munthu Mmodzi
Kodi mungamve bwanji ngati wina atayima kutsogolo kwa inu atanyamula bolodi lakuda ndi kukufunsani gulu la mafunso apamtima? Zosasangalatsa? Akufunsidwa? Mukufuna mwayi woyamba kuthawa? Mwamwayi, nthawi zambiri izi zimakhala ngati kukambirana kwa mapeto kungamveke kwa munthu yemwe akuyankha nthawi zonse pamene akukhala pamaso pomwe munthu akufunsa mafunso.
Kukongola ndi mphamvu ya masewera a mapepala / maphikidwe a mapeto ndikuti kumathandiza kuthetsa ubale wofunsana / wofunsana mwa kuchotsa zolinga kuchokera kwa munthu mmodzi, m'malo mwake, kulimbikitsa kukambirana koona pakati pa anthu awiri kapena kuposerapo. Kawirikawiri, munthu yemwe akufuna kuyamba nawo kukambirana kofunika ndi wokondedwa wake posachedwa adzapeza kuti nayenso akugawana malingaliro ndi malingaliro ake poyankha mafunso omwe ali ndi makadi awa, kapena powayankha yankho lachinsinsi, lomveka bwino ).
Komanso, si zachilendo, mukangoyamba kukambirana, kwa achibale ena ndi abwenzi omwe "amangofuna kumvetsera" kuti ayanjanenso kukambirana komaliza pamene akumva mafunso ena kapena mayankho omwe aperekedwa.
5. Kumalimbikitsa Kukhazikika / Kukhazikitsa
Mapulogalamu ambiri a mapepala otsiriza, kuphatikizapo omwe asonyezedwa pa chithunzi pamwambapa, amapereka malangizo a momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito sitimayi kuti mutenge mwayi wapatali pa chida chofuna ichi. Zina zimasonyeza kuti wophunzira aliyense ayankhe / akambirane funso lomwelo asanasankhe khadi latsopano, pamene ena amalingalira kuti anthu amatha kupanga makadi onse malinga ndi zomwe iwo amalingalira kwambiri - zofunikira kwambiri asanapitirize, kapena chinachake chapakati.
Kuonjezera apo, mapeyala a makadi monga awa ambiri amapereka kusintha kwakukulu kwa anthu angati omwe angatenge nawo gawoli. Ngakhale kuti nthawi zambiri cholinga cha kukambirana kwa anthu awiriwa kumakhala kofunika kwambiri, pafupifupi masewera onse okhudzana ndi mapepala / mapepala amatha kukhala ndi anthu atatu kapena angapo, omwe angalimbikitse kukambirana pakati pa mwana ndi makolo ake onse, Mwachitsanzo, kapena m'banja lalikulu, kapena ngakhale gulu lalikulu la anthu, mosasamala kanthu ngati / akugwirizana bwanji.
Komanso (ndipo ndikugawana izi kuchokera pazochitikira zanu), ngati mutagula imodzi mwa masewera / mapepala a mapepala otsirizawa, ndizosatheka kuti musasunthike padoko lanu ndikuganizira momwe mumamvera pa mafunso osiyanasiyana omwe mukufunsapo wekha. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, masewera ambiri okonzekera mapepala / mapepala, kaya ndi mapangidwe kapena mwachikhalidwe cha nkhani yawo, adzakuyesani "kusewera" solo.
Osakonzekera kapena ayi, kuyang'anizana ndi malingaliro anu enieni ndi malingaliro okhudza imfa zakufa-ndi zakufa zomwe makadi awa akuchita pamene akusewera "solitaire" zingakhalenso bwino kukukonzekeretsani ku zokambirana za kutha kwa moyo zomwe mukufuna kugwirizana ndi wina.
Potsirizira pake, ngakhale ambiri a masewera kapena mapepala a khadi amapereka malangizo, musadabwe ngati zokambirana zanu zomaliza, zomwe zinayambika, zimachoka komanso zimayendayenda "kuchoka pa script" ngakhale kuti zakhala zoyenerera. ) Kuphatikizira malangizo omwe amaperekedwa ndi masewera a mapeto / masewera a khadi omaliza omwe amakhala ochepa kwambiri kusiyana ndi kukambirana momveka bwino ndi wokondedwa wanu malingaliro, malingaliro ndi zikhumbo zawo zokhudzana ndi zovuta zakufa ndi nkhani zakufa.
Momwe Mungagulire Deck
Chifukwa chachinsinsi cha chida cholankhulana ichi ndi nkhani yake, mutha kupeza malo otsiriza a masewera / mapepala pa intaneti osati malo ogulitsira njerwa. Ambiri mwa mapepala awa amagulitsidwa ogula-mwachindunji ndi bizinesi kapena bungwe lomwe lawapanga. Ngakhale kuti pali mapeyala ena, mungapeze zambiri zokhudza masewera okonda mapeto a khadi omwe ali pamwambapa pa:
• Masewero a Kukambirana, Kukambirana kwa Moyo
• Fink: Kukonzekera Kusamalira, Makhadi a Fink
• Masewera Ofuna Kufuna, Coda Alliance
• Mtima wamva: Kukonzekera kusamalira, kukambilana maulangizi
Mphatso Yanga ya Chisomo, Kuchita Kawirikawiri
Mlembi ayamikike moona mtima makampani omwe ali pamwambawa kuti apereke makalata ovomerezeka a mapepala awo panthawi yokonzekera nkhaniyi.
Zotsatira:
"Kudya ku America: Kukulitsa Ulemu ndi Kulemekeza Zosankha Zokha Kumapeto kwa Moyo" ndi Institute of Medicine, pa September 17, 2014. Mndandanda wa olemba.