Gawo Lina ndi Ntchito Zachisoni

Mfundo Zokhudza Mmene Anthu Amalimbana ndi Chisoni

Ngakhale anthu ambiri amva za Elisabeth Kübler-Ross ndi "DABDA" lingaliro lake la magawo asanu a chisoni chomwe chimachitika ndi imfa, ziphunzitso zina zowawa zomwe zimakhudza magawo, magawo, kapena ntchito zilipo. Fufuzani mwachidule zokhudzana ndi zowawa ziwiri zokhudzana ndi magawo anayi achisoni ndi ntchito zinayi zachisoni.

Zomwe mukuchita ku imfa ya wokondedwa ndizokhazikika payekha ndipo aliyense adzamva chisoni chawo mosiyana.

Mukhoza kudutsa mwapang'onopang'ono, mwachitsanzo, kapena pang'onopang'ono; mutha kudutsa mwa iwo mu dongosolo lina, kapena mutha kudumpha gawo kapena ntchito palimodzi, kapena mukumva chimodzimodzi kamodzi. Komabe, mutadutsa mukudandaula, khulupirirani kuti izi zidzakhala njira yoyenera kwa inu mutasintha kwenikweni kuwona.

Masautso Anai

M'zaka za m'ma 1970, Colin Murray Parkes ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo a ku Britain, dzina lake John Bowlby, adalongosola lingaliro la magawo anayi kapena magawo achisoni:

1. Kusokoneza ndi Kukhumudwa: Gawo ili limangotayika imfa. Munthu yemwe ali ndi chisoni amamva kuti ali ndi chibwibwi, zomwe zimadzitetezera kuti azitha kukhalabe ndi moyo panthawi yomweyo.
2. Chilakolako ndi Kufunafuna: Kumatchedwanso kuti pining, munthuyu ali ndi chilakolako chokhumba kapena akulakalaka wakufayo kuti abwerere kudzaza chosoweka chomwe chimaphatikiza imfa yake. Maganizo ambiri amadziwika ndi nthawiyi, monga kulira, kukwiya, nkhawa, nkhawa, ndi chisokonezo.

1. Kusokonezeka ndi Kukhumudwa: Munthu wovutika nthawi zambiri amafuna kuchotsa ndi kusokonekera kwa ena komanso ntchito zomwe ankakonda nthawiyi. Pambuyo povomereza zochitika zenizeni, imfa ya munthu amene wamwalirayo imakhala yochepa kwambiri pamene chisamaliro, mkwiyo, kukhumudwa, kusowa chiyembekezo, ndi kuwonjezeka kwa mafunso.

1. Kubwereranso ndi Kubwezeretsa: Pomaliza, munthu wolirayo akuyamba kubwerera kudziko latsopano "labwino." Kulemera kwa kuchepa kwakumverera panthawi yachisoni chachikulu kungathe kusintha, mphamvu za mphamvu zimakula, ndipo chidwi cha zinthu zosangalatsa zimabwerera. Chisoni sichitha, koma maganizo achisoni ndi kukhumudwa amachepetsedwa pamene kukumbukira bwino kwa wakufayo kumatha.

Chifukwa chakuti aliyense amadandaula mwa njira yake komanso ali ndi kayendetsedwe kake, palibe nthawi yeniyeni kapena "nthawi yeniyeni" imene anthu amapezera / kumaliza magawowa. Nthawi zina, kulandira uphungu woferedwa ndi / kapena kulowa mu gulu lothandizira osowa kungathandizire munthu wovutika kuti ayende kudutsa mozizwitsa.

Ntchito Zinayi za Kulira

Mu 1982, katswiri wa zamaganizo wa ku America William J. Worden anafalitsa buku lake "Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy," lomwe limapereka lingaliro lake pa ntchito zinayi zachisoni:

1. Landirani Chowonadi cha Kutaya: Kudzaza nkhope yodzaza ndi chenichenicho kuti munthuyo wamwalira ndipo sadzabwerera ndi ntchito yoyamba yomwe munthu akufunikira kumaliza. Popanda kukwaniritsa izi, simungathe kupitilira kudandaula.
2. Ntchito Kupyolera mu Ululu Wa Chisoni: Zimene mumachita pa imfa ya wokondedwa wanu nthawi zambiri zimakhala zopweteka, ndipo mumakhala ndi maganizo osiyanasiyana, monga mkwiyo, kudzimva chisoni, mantha, kupanikizika, chisoni, kukhumudwa, ndi zina. Ntchitoyi imatenga nthawi . Zimapangitsa woferedwa kuvomereza malingaliro osiyanawa ndi ululu, m'malo mopondereza kapena kupeŵa malingaliro ameneŵa, kuti agwire nawo ntchito.

1. Sinthani Malo Amene Ambiri Akusowa: Kuwonjezera pa kusintha kwa maganizo ndi / kapena maganizo, ntchitoyi ingafunike kutenga mbali kapena ntchito zomwe wakufayo anachita, ndipo zimasiyana malinga ndi chikhalidwe cha chiyanjanocho. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu amwalira, ntchitoyi ingakhale ikuphatikizapo kusamalira ndalama zapakhomo, kulera mwana yekha, kupeza ntchito kapena kubwerera kuntchito, ndi zina zotero.
2. Pezani Chiyanjano Chokhalitsa ndi Kutayika Pamene Mukuyamba Kupeza Moyo Watsopano: Ngakhale palibe chomwe chingakukakamizeni kuti muiwale za ubale wanu ndi wakufayo, cholinga chanu ndi kupeza malo oyenera mu moyo wanu wamaganizo kupita patsogolo ndikuyamba kukhala ndi moyo. Izi zingafunike kusiya kupita kumagulu kuti ziyanjano zatsopano zitha kuyamba kupanga.

Kugwira ntchito kupyolera mu ntchito zinayi zachisoni kungathandize oferedwa kukhala omvera ndi kutayika kwawo ndikubwerera ku chikhalidwe chatsopano. Apanso, kutenga nawo mbali m'magulu othandizira osowa kapena kufuna uphungu wothandauzira kungathandize anthu kudutsa ntchitoyi.