Malingaliro Oyenera Kuchita ndi Kutayika Kwakuyembekezereka kwa Munthu Amene Mumamukonda
Ngakhale kuti mwadzidzidzi imfa ya wokondedwa ikhoza kusokoneza masautso ndi chisoni, wachibale kapena mnzanu amene amachoka pa masiku a moyo, masabata, miyezi, kapena nthawi yaitali akhoza kukhumudwitsa anthu opulumuka chifukwa cha chisoni choyembekezereka - chisoni chomwe chinamveka pasadakhale imfa.
Malangizo Olimbana ndi Chisoni Choyembekezera
Nazi zina mwa zovuta zomwe mungakumane nazo pamene mumayesedwa ndi imfa ya wokondedwa wanu, ndi malingaliro okuthandizani kuthana nawo.
Ndikumva wotopa
Mosasamala kanthu kuti mukutumikira monga wosamalira kapena ayi, podziwa kuti nthawi ya wokondedwa wanu ndi yoperewera idzasokoneza mphamvu zanu zakuthupi ndi zamaganizo. Anthu akhoza kukhala ndi moyo mwachangu mu "vuto lachangu" kwa kanthawi kochepa.
Ngakhale kutalika kwa nthawiyo kumasiyana malinga ndi munthuyo ndi mkhalidwe, kamodzi kokha malire akafikiridwa, malingaliro ndi zitsimikizo zidzayamba kutseka ngati chidziwitso chodzipulumutsa. Izi zikhoza kudziwonetsera mwa njira zambiri, monga:
- Kufunika kwakukulu koti tigone
- Kusasamala
- Kusokonezeka maganizo kapena kugwira ntchito
Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa kuti malingalirowa ndi abwinobwino ndipo sizikutanthauza kuti ndinu ozizira kapena osaganizira. Pomalizira pake, thupi lanu ndi malingaliro anu adzachira, ndipo mudzamva bwino - mpaka china chake chimachititsa kuti anthu ayambe kuganiza mozama. Muyenera kuyembekezera kuti mukumva mafilimu oterowo ndikuwona nthawi imene mumatseka ngati mukufunikira komanso wathanzi.
Izi ziti, onetsetsani kuti mukugona mokwanira, kudya bwino, nthawi yambiri ndi achibale anu kapena abwenzi, ndipo mukhoza kuzindikira zizindikiro za kusamalidwa .
Kumva Malirime
Imfa ndi nkhani yovuta kwa anthu ambiri kuti azikamba za, makamaka makamaka pamene tiyenera kuchitira umboni za imfa ya wokondedwayo.
Chifukwa chakuti sitimamvetsetsa, nthawi zambiri timayamba kuganiza mozama pamutu mwathu za zomwe wokondedwa wathu amachita kapena safuna kunena za imfa yomwe ikuyandikira, monga, "Ngati ndikulongosola momwe ndingamuphonye, zidzamupangitsa kumva moipitsitsa, "kapena" Sindidzanena zabwino mpaka mapeto kotero iye ndi ine tikhoza kupeza chisangalalo nthawi yotsala. "
Zotsatira za ukonde wa zokambirana za mkatizi nthawi zambiri sizimanena kanthu , zomwe zingapangitse munthu wakufa kumverera yekha, osasamala kapena yekha.
Zovuta monga momwe zingamvere pakalipano, kulankhulana momasuka ndi mwachindunji ndi njira yabwino yolumikizana ndi wokondedwa wakufa . Muloleni amudziwe kuti mukufuna kukambirana momwe mumamvera, komanso zomwe mungapereke nthawi yomwe yatsala pothandizira ndi chitonthozo.
Mukamayankhula moona mtima, mungathe kuzindikira kuti mantha anu pokambirana nawo anali opitirira.
Kumverera Wolakwa
Ngati munthu yemwe timamukonda amapezeka ndi matenda othawa , ndi kosavuta kuti tiganizire mozama komanso mphamvu zathu kwa wodwalayo pafupi ndi zosowa zathu. Matenda omwe amabwera chifukwa chokonda wokondedwa wakufa - makamaka kwa iwo amene amapereka chisamaliro chochuluka - nthawi zambiri amatsogolera kuchisamaliro chowasamalira monga momwe thupi, maganizo komanso ndalama zimakhudzidwira.
Ngakhale zingawoneke zosatheka, kusamalira nkhawa kungapangitse mkwiyo, kupsa mtima kapena kukhumudwa kwa wodwalayo wakufa - ndipo malingaliro awo nthawi zambiri amachititsa kukhala ndi mlandu waukulu. Ngati simunasankhidwe, malingaliro oterewa amatha kupweteka kwambiri chisoni chimene munthu amamva akamwalira, ndikuika pangozi ya kuvutika maganizo, kudzipha kapena kusokonezeka maganizo.
Ngati mukuwonetsa zizindikiro za kusamalidwa , muyenera nthawi yomweyo kulankhulana ndi anzanu kapena abwenzi anu kuti, "Ndikufuna thandizo." Mwamunthu, wina akhoza kutenga udindo womwe mwakhala nawo, ngakhale kwa kanthawi, kuti akupatseni mpumulo ndi kuchepetsa mavuto anu.
Ngati izi sizomwe mungachite, ganizirani njira yowonjezera yowonjezera, monga chithandizo cha tsiku lachikulire kapena ntchito yothandizira munthu, kuti mupereke mpumulo womwe mukuufuna.
Ngakhale zingawoneke zovuta kudzikakamiza kuti musiye kanthawi kochepa, mudzabwerera mobwerezabwereza komanso mwamphamvu ndikusamalira bwino wokondedwa wanu wakufa.
Zotsatira:
"Mmene Mungayankhire Zokoma Pamene Munthu Amene Mumamukonda Akufa." www.caring.com. Paula Spencer Scott, Caring.com. Inabwezeredwa pa July 17, 2012. http://www.caring.com/articles/how-to-say-goodbye
"Zowonjezera Pafupi Ndi Nthawi Ya Imfa." https://kambikathakalkochupusthakam.in Chigawo cha Ana a Johns Hopkins. Inabwezeredwa pa July 26, 2012. https://hopkinschildrens.org/Anticipated-Death.aspx <
"Long Road." www.jenniferallenbooks.com. Jennifer Allen. Inabwezeredwa pa July 26, 2012. http://www.jenniferallenbooks.com/grief/pdf/longroad.pdf