Inu mwaima pamtunda mukuyang'ana kunja pa madzi. Mukudziwa kuti tsunami ikubwera koma palibe chimene mungachite kuti muyimitse ndipo palibe malo oti muthamange.
Umu ndi momwe mkazi wina adanenera kuti akuyembekezera imfa ya mwamuna wake. Anali ndi chisoni choyembekezereka, akumva chisoni kwambiri ndi imfa ya wokondedwa wake asanafe.
Chisoni chodzidzimutsa si chosiyana kwambiri ndi chisoni chomwe chimakhalapo munthu akamwalira.
Zingaphatikizepo kukhumudwa kwakukulu, kupsinjika maganizo, ndi kudera nkhaŵa wokondedwa wanu wakufa. Kuchita mantha, mkwiyo, ndi kukana ndizochilendo.
Mosiyana ndi chisoni chimene chimachitika pambuyo pa imfa yadzidzidzi, chisoni choyembekezereka chimapereka mpata woti mutseke. Pang'onopang'ono kusintha kwa moyo wanu popanda wokondedwa wanu, popeza sangathe kuchita zinthu zina zomwe mudakondana nazo ndipo zikuwoneka kukhala munthu wathunthu pokhapokha ngati ali pafupi kufa, zingakhale zosavuta kulandira imfa. Anthu omwe amatha kufa mwadzidzidzi amakhala ndi mkwiyo waukulu ndipo amavomereza kuvomereza kuwona kwawo.
Chisoni choyembekezeranso chimapereka mpata wolankhula zinthu zisanu zofunika:
- Kodi mungandikhululukire?
- Ndakukhululukira.
- Zikomo.
- Ndimakukondani.
- Zabwino
Kukhala ndi mwayi wobweretsa chiyanjano chathunthu kumabweretsa chidziwitso cha kutsekedwa ndikupangitsa kuti chisoni chikhale chosavuta kufa.
Werengani zambiri za zinthu zisanu izi zomwe ndikuwerenga pa bukhu lakuti "Zinthu Zinayi Zofunikira Kwambiri" ndi Ira Byock, MD
Sikuti aliyense amakumana ndi chisoni chambiri asanafe imfa yake. Chisoni ndizochitika zaumwini ndi zoyembekezerapo chisoni siziri zosiyana. Amafuna kuvomereza kuti chenicheni cha imfa, ndipo siyense amene adzamverera kuti ali wokonzeka kuchita zimenezo. Anthu ena angamve ngati akuvomereza imfa, makamaka, kusiya wokondedwa wawo.
M'malo mowona chisoni choyembekezereka monga kuchoka kwa wokondedwa wanu ndi ubale umene mumagawana nawo, mukhoza kuwuona ngati mwayi wapadera wolimbitsa ubalewo ndi kuwufikitsa kwathunthu.