Kupeza Kutsekedwa ndi Mtendere pa Mapeto a Moyo
Anthu ambiri akamaganizira za ntchito zomwe munthu wakufa ayenera kuchita , amaganizira za zofuna zake, kuyembekezera, dongosolo lachipatala komanso kukonza maliro . Zoona, pali ntchito yambiri yofunika kuti ichitike pokwaniritsa kukondana ndi ubale wamtendere .
Chinthu chofunika kwambiri m'moyo ndi ubale wathu ndi anthu omwe timawakonda. Ntchito zisanu za kufa zikufuna kuthetsa ndi kugwirizanitsa maubwenzi awa.
M'buku lake lakuti Four Things That Matter Most , Dr Ira Byock akutiphunzitsa zinthu zinayi zofunika zomwe munthu wakufa ayenera kuchita asanalowere kwa okondedwa ake. Ngakhale ntchito izi siziyenera kukhudza anthu akufa - tonsefe tiyenera kukumbukira kugwira ntchito zonse nthawi zambiri-ndizofunika kwambiri pa ntchito ya akufa.
Funsani Kukhululuka
Tonse tachita zinthu m'miyoyo yathu zomwe zapweteka anthu omwe timawakonda, kaya mwadala kapena mwadzidzidzi. Tonsefe timanyamula mabala ndi ife omwe abwenzi ndi abwenzi atipangitsa ife ndipo tonse takhala ndi mabala pa iwo omwe timawakonda. Machiritso ofunika kwambiri kumapeto kwa moyo si machiritso, koma makamaka machiritso a zilonda zamaganizo.
Dr. Byock akuyerekezera kuchiza kwa mabala amtima mpaka mabala. Kuti chilonda chakuthupi chichiritse, mafinya onse ndi kachilombo amayenera kutsukidwa; Chifukwa cha ululu wamachiritso, machiritso onse pakati pa anthu awiri ayenera kutsukidwa.
Njira yabwino yoyeretsera maubwenzi anu a zofukiza zawo ndi kufunafuna chikhululuko.
Kupempha chikhululuko si kophweka, makamaka ngati tikuganiza kuti sitinamvetsetse kapena kuti ndife oyenera pa zochita zathu. Koma mosasamala kanthu momwe mumamverera za mpikisano wanu, kupempha chikhululukiro kungakhale kumasulidwa komanso kungakonzekerere ubale wanu pa ntchito yonse yomwe iyenera kuchitika.
Perekani Chikhululukiro
Imeneyi ndi ntchito zina zovuta kuti ambirife tikwaniritse. Kupereka chikhululukiro kwa wina yemwe timaganiza kuti sanachipeze ndi kovuta kwambiri. Koma ndizofunika kudziwa kuti kukhululukira munthu amene timamukonda sikumamukhululukira. Kukhululukira ndikumapeto kwa mphatso yomwe timadzipereka tokha; pamene tikhululukira, mzimu wathu umamasulidwa ku mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo.
Kuwonjezera pa kukhululukira ena, ndizofunikira kwambiri kuti tidzikhululukire tokha. Mosakayika inu mwachita zinthu zomwe simuli nazo. Tonsefe tachita zinthu zomwe timanong'oneza bondo, tachita zolakwa zazikulu, ndipo tonse tiri ndi zinsinsi zamanyazi. Ndife anthu opanda ungwiro! Koma nthawi zambiri timakhala ovuta pa ife eni kuposa ena. Ngakhale mnzanu kapena wachibale wanu wakupatsani chikhululuko, mungakhalebe ovuta kudzikhululukira. Koma kudzikhululukira nokha ndizochita zokhazokha zokhazokha, kukulolani kuti mupeze chiyanjano ndi chikondi.
Perekani Kuyamikira kuchokera pansi pamtima
Tonsefe tiri ndi chosowa chachiyero choyamikira ndikudzimva kuti tikuyamikira. Ambiri a ife timakhulupirira molakwika kuti sitiyenera kunena kuti "zikomo" mokweza. Timaganiza kuti okondedwa athu amadziwa kuyamikira kwathu zonse zomwe watichitira. Choonadi ndi chakuti, okondedwa athu nthawi zambiri sadziwa kuti timayamikira kwambiri.
Kupereka chiyamiko chifukwa cha ntchito zachifundo ena kwa inu kwachangu ndi kophweka. Zimatenga nthawi ndi khama pang'ono kunena kuti "zikomo," komabe zingakhale ndi zotsatira zothetsera maubwenzi ofunika. Mungapeze chinachake chothokoza chifukwa cha ubale uliwonse m'moyo wanu. Mu Zinthu Zinayi Zofunika Kwambiri , Dr. Byock amapereka chitsanzo cha Avi ndi bambo ake Simon. Simon anali wochenjera kwambiri kuti Avi akule. Ngakhale izi, Avi anatha kukhululukira abambo ake ngakhale kumuthokoza chifukwa chomupatsa moyo. Mchitidwe wa Simon wopereka moyo kwa Avi unali wokwanira kuti uyamikire.
Ndithudi inu mukhoza kupeza chinachake choti muziyamika mu ubale uliwonse mu moyo wanu. Ino ndiyo nthawi yoti muwauze kuti "Zikomo!"
Perekani Maganizo a Chikondi
Uh o. Tsopano ife tikupeza mushy ndi mwachifundo. Usanayambe kugwira ntchitoyi kuganiza kuti ndi "chachikazi" kapena "wokondweretsa," imani kwa kanthawi ndikuganiza za maubwenzi omwe akukukhudzani kwambiri. Kodi mungazindikire chikondi cha aliyense mwa anthuwa? Ngakhale izo zingakhale zosiyana ndi munthu wina, chikondi kwa ena ndi chachibadwa kwambiri ndi chofunikira cha malingaliro aumunthu. Koma kunena kuti "Ndimakukondani" kungakhale kovuta kwambiri kuti anthu ambiri anene.
Ngati mukulumikizana ndi "mbali yanu yovuta" ndikupeza kuti kosavuta kufotokoza malingaliro anu ponena kuti "Ndimakukondani," ndiye pitirizani kuchita. Ngati inu, mofanana ndi anthu ambiri, mumapeza kuti mawu aang'ono atatuwa akuwopsya koposa kudumpha kuchokera mu ndege popanda parachute, pali njira zina zomwe mungasonyezere chikondi.
Anthu ena akhoza kukhala okonzeka kufotokoza chikondi mu kalata yolembedwa kapena khadi. Ena sawona zoonekeratu, koma njira zofanana zowonetsera chikondi. Mu Zinthu Zinayi Zofunikira Kwambiri Nkhani imauzidwa za Gunter yemwe bambo ake amwalira. Mfuti sanamve bwino kuti amamukonda bambo ake; sizinali zochitika m'nyumba yawo ya Chilutera cha ku Germany. Kenako Gunter anazindikira pempho la abambo ake lakuti Gunter am'pezeretse ngati njira yoti amugwire komanso kumukonda. Mfutiyo anayamba kukonzekeretsa bambo ake tsiku ndi tsiku ndikumusamalira mwachikondi monga bambo ake anakana. Ntchito yosavuta yosamalirako ndi kukhudzidwa mwachikondi inali njira yaikulu kuti Gunter ndi bambo ake azisonyeza chikondi chawo.
Ndi njira ziti zomwe mungapangire zolinga pofotokozera chikondi chanu?
Nenani Zabwino
Chakudya ndi chofunikira kwambiri kwa anthu ambiri akufa. Ife omwe timagwira ntchito ndi akufa timatha kufotokoza nkhani za odwala akufa amene anakhalapo kwautali kuposa momwe ziyenera kukhalira kuti athe kuwayamikira kwa okondedwa. Nkhani zodabwitsa za zochitika izi zingapezeke m'buku lotchedwa Final Gifts la Maggie Callanan ndi Patricia Kelley. Nkhani za anthu omwe akhalapo pakati pa moyo ndi imfa, kuyembekezera kuti awonongeke, akukumbutsa kuti sitiyenera kuyembekezera mpaka mphindi yomaliza kuti tipeze masitepe 1-4.
Tonsefe tamva nkhani zokhudzana ndi nkhani za anthu amene amapita kumalo osaneneka kuti azinena zabwino kwambiri- amayi omwe anagula ndi kukulunga mphatso kuti mwana wawo atsegule tsiku lililonse la kubadwa ndi tsiku lake laukwati; mwana yemwe analemba makolo ake buku la ndakatulo; bambo yemwe anapanga kanema kanema kwa ana ake mosalekeza moyo wake ndi kuvomereza chikondi chake pa iwo. Zonse zabwino sizingakhale zofunikira. Mukadapyola ntchito yoyambayi, zonse zomwe zatsala kuchita ndikuzindikira kufunika kwa moyo ndikusangalala ndi kukhalapo kwa omwe mumakonda.
Kuwombera kumapweteka koma sikuyenera kukhumudwitsa. Ngati mwatsiriza maubwenzi anu ofunika kwambiri pakuchita ntchito 1-4, kunena zabwino kungakhale njira yowawa kukukumbutsani anthu omwe mumakonda kuti moyo umatha msanga. Zingakhale njira zabwino zoganizira kukhala moyo mwathunthu ndikuganizira zinthu zofunika kwambiri-ubale ndi omwe timawakonda.