Kwa anthu ambiri, njirayi ikhoza kukhala ndi mtendere wamtendere komanso woyamikira
Monga munthu wakufa amadza ndi zofa zawo ndipo amayamba kukonzekera imfa, angagwiritse ntchito kubwereza moyo, kapena kuti kubwezeretsa moyo , ngati njira yothetsera kutsekedwa ndi kumaliza.
Kuwunika kwa moyo sikukutsatirani ndondomeko yodalirika, ndipo palibe anthu awiri omwe angayembekezere kupeza chiyanjanitso cha moyo mwanjira yomweyo. Izi zinati, pali magawo asanu omwe amawunikira moyo omwe akuthandizira kumvetsetsa: kufotokozera, udindo, chikhululukiro, kuvomereza, ndi kuyamikira.
Kufotokozera
Kulimbana ndi imfa yomwe ikuyandikira ndi kovuta kwambiri kwa anthu ambiri. Pamene munthu akufera akudutsa mu magawo a DABDA akulimbana , maganizo ambiri akuyendera omwe akuyenera kufotokozedwa. Mkwiyo kawirikawiri ndikumverera kwakukulu kwa nthawi zambiri.
Ndikofunika kuti munthu wakufa afotokoze mmene akumvera. Kulongosola kumverera kwakukulu ndi kumasula mkwiyo ndikofunikira kuti mupeze mtendere. Ngati munthu wakufa amaloledwa ufulu wonse wa kuyankhula, machiritso enieni pamaganizo ndi mwauzimu ndizotheka.
Munthu wakufayo angafunikire chilolezo chomveka kuti afotokoze mkwiyo wawo. Akhoza kuwopa kuti mwa kudziwonetsera yekha adzathetsa okondedwa ake. Angakhale wokwiya ndi mphamvu yapamwamba ndikuchita manyazi ndi malingaliro awo. Mwa kufotokoza malingaliro a mkwiyo - pa matenda, pa kupanda chilungamo kwa dziko, kapena pa mphamvu yapamwamba, munthu wakufa akukonzekera yekha mtendere ndi kuvomereza.
Udindo
Pamene munthu wakufa akuwonanso moyo wawo, amayamba kuzindikira momwe adathandizira zonse zomwe zawachitikira. Amazindikira kuti zochita zawo, malingaliro awo, ndi moyo wawo ndi udindo wawo wokha. Anthu ambiri amafotokoza izi ngati kumasulidwa. Amadziŵa kuti sali chifukwa cha matenda awo komanso kuti imfa sizitanthauza kuti zinalepheretsa moyo wawo.
Kuzindikira kwa udindo kumathandiza munthu wakufa kuti agwirizane ndi zonse zomwe zachitika pamoyo wawo ndikukonzekera zomwe ziri patsogolo.
Kukhululuka
Munthu akakhala ndi chikhululuko chenicheni, amadzimasula okha ku zowawa ndi zowawa. Kukhululukidwa sikutenga khalidwe lolakwika. Kukhululukidwa ndikumasula kukhumudwa ndi mkwiyo zomwe zimatilepheretsa kukhala mwamtendere.
Munthu wakufa angavutike kukhululukira ena chifukwa cha zowawa zakale koma akhoza kukhala ovuta kudzikhululukira yekha. Angadabwe ngati ena angamukhululukire chifukwa cha zolakwa zake, zazikulu kapena zazing'ono. Angathe kupatula nthawi ndikupempha ena kuti akhululukidwe, kupempha mphamvu zakukhululukidwa, ndikukhululukira ena omwe amukhumudwitsa.
M'buku lake lakuti Four Things That Matter Most , Dr. Ira Byock akukambirana zomwe anthu ambiri amanena kuti ndizofunikira kwambiri kunena musanafe: "Zikomo," "Ndikukhululukirani," "Kodi mungandikhululukire?", ndipo "ndimakukondani." Mau awiriwa ali okhudzana ndi chikhululukiro, kutsindika kufunika koti tipereke ndikuzilandira tisanamwalire.
Anthu ena adzasankha kufa mosakhululukidwa, ndipo ndizosankha. Ena ambiri amasankha kuitanitsa mtendere wamkati asanafe ndi kupereka ndi kulandira chikhululuko.
Kulandiridwa
Kuvomerezeka ndi gawo lomalizira mu chiwerengero cha DABDA cholimbana ndi imfa ndipo ndi mbali yofunika kwambiri yowunika moyo. Ife tikuwoneka kuti tatayika chenicheni kuti imfa ndizochitika zachibadwa zomwe zidzachitike kwa aliyense wa ife, posankha kumenyana ndi imfa molimba mtima kufikira chimaliziro. Pamene munthu wakufa amavomereza imfa yawo mosalephereka, sasiya moyo koma makamaka kulola dongosolo lachilengedwe lamoyo kuti lizitsirize bwalo lake.
Sitiyenera kukonda zomwe timavomereza ngati zenizeni, koma kuvomereza kuti moyo wathunthu ndi wathunthu ndi sitepe yofunikira pakufa mwamtendere. Mofanana ndi momwe mayi yemwe ali ndi vuto sangathe kulepheretsa kubereka mwana wake, ndondomeko yomaliza yomwalirayo siidzakhoza kuimitsidwa ikangoyamba.
Pamene munthu wakufa amatha kuvomereza imfa yawo yosapeŵeka, akudzipereka kuti akakhale ndi mtendere ndi kukhutira m'masiku awo otsiriza.
Kuyamikira
Pambuyo pokhala ndi mbali zina za kuwonetsetsa kwathunthu kwa moyo, munthu wakufa nthawi zambiri amawona kuyamikira kwakukulu pa moyo wawo. Adzakhala othokoza chifukwa cha anthu m'moyo wake; zomwe iye anali nazo, kaya zabwino kapena zoipa; ndipo akhoza kumva kuyamikira kwa mphamvu yapamwamba, ngati iye akukhulupirira mu umodzi, chifukwa cha moyo umene iye anali nawo. Angayamikire abwenzi ake komanso okondedwa ake ndipo amamva chimwemwe chochuluka. Izi ndizo zokhumba zedi zomwe tingafe, ndi mtima wachimwemwe komanso mzimu wamtendere.