Imfa ndi yosasangalatsa komanso yosayenerera ya moyo, ndipo kukhalapo kwake kumatipangitsa kukhala omasuka monga momwe zingatithandizire. Ngakhale oyankhula kwambiri a anthu amavutika kuti alankhule ndi winawake amene akulira imfa ya wokondedwa. Poyembekeza kupereka chitonthozo kwa zopweteka, anthu nthawi zambiri amapita ku clichés ndi mawu ena omwe amamveka mosavuta kuti asakhale chete.
Mwamwayi, pokhala ndi zolinga zabwino, zambiri mwazinthu zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito pamaliro, zimadzuka ndipo m'makalata odzitonthoza ndizolakwika ndipo, moona, osasamala. Pano pali mawu asanu omwe simukuyenera kunena pamaliro kapena mwambo wa chikumbutso kwa wina amene akulira imfa ya wokondedwa.
"Ndikudziwa Momwe Mumamvera"
Ayi, simukutero.
Ngakhale ngati, mwachitsanzo, inunso mwafa imfa ya msinkhu wa zaka 16, yemwe adatchedwanso dzina lake Anne, pangozi yowonongeka yomwe inachitikira pamsewu womwewo, patatha masiku 22 atalandira layisensi yake, komanso kuyendetsa galimoto yamtundu wa buluu, komanso nthawi yomweyo usiku ... - ngakhale ngati zinthu zili zofanana, simudziwa momwe wina akumvera za kutaya mwana wake .
Monga umunthu wathu, njira imene aliyense wa ife amachitira ndikumva chisoni chake ndi yapadera. Kunena kuti mukudziwa momwe wina aliyense akumverera akudzichepetsa.
Njira yabwinoko : Ngati mwakumana ndi imfa ya munthu wapafupi ndikuwona kufunika koti muyitchule, chitani funso ngati lotseguka kapena ndemanga. Mwachitsanzo, munganene kuti, "Mwana wanga atamwalira, ndimadzimvera chisoni chifukwa chomulola kuti agwiritse ntchito galimoto usiku womwewo. Ngati mukumva choncho, chonde dziwani kuti ndiri pano kuti ndilankhule nthawi iliyonse yomwe mukufuna."
Ndipo ngati simukudziwa momwe munthu wakulira imfa akumverera, ndibwino kunena kuti, "Sindikudziwa choti ndinganene, koma chonde dziwani kuti ndikupepesa." (Pewani kungonena kuti, "Pepani chifukwa cha kutaya kwanu." Mawuwa ndi amtengo wapatali ndipo amalemba osakhumudwitsa omwe akulira.)
"Ali mu malo abwino tsopano"
Aliyense amene amalankhula mawuwa sanamvepo ndi kuwonongeka kwamuyaya kwa winawake pafupi chifukwa cha imfa. Mayi yemwe akuyembekezera zam'mbuyo popanda mwana wake, wamasiye woyamba kubwerera ku nyumba yopanda kanthu yomwe adayankhula ndi mkazi wake kwa zaka makumi ambiri, aliyense akuyesetsa kuti amvetse chifukwa chimene wapalasula amene anali ndi zoledzeretsa zapitazo anali adakalibe "usiku womwewo" - awa opulumuka (ndi ena ambiri akulira imfa) aganize kuti malo abwino kwambiri kwa okondedwa awo omwe anamwalira ndi abwino pambali pawo komanso pakati pa amoyo.
Kuuza ena chisoni, ngakhale mutakhulupirira kuti malo abwino ndi kumwamba, akusonyeza kuti ayenera kumangokhalira kusangalala ndi imfa yake komanso kuti kulira ndi kusonyeza kukhumudwa ndi vutoli kulibe. (Ndipo ngakhale wolirayo amakhulupirira kuti munthu akafa pambuyo pake, imfa ya munthu amene amamukonda nthawi zambiri imayesetsa chikhulupiriro. Kumbukirani, mtumwi wopembedza Petro adakana Yesu katatu, malinga ndi Baibulo.)
Njira yabwino : Aliyense amene wagwidwa ndi chisoni chachikulu kuti amvetse chifukwa chomwe wokondedwa sali pamalo amodzi - pakati pa amoyo . Kotero, apo palibe chifukwa choti inu muwonetsere kuti iye ali kumalo ena aliwonse pakali pano. M'malo mwake, sungani malingaliro omwe mumawakonda a wakufayo, ngati n'koyenera, zomwe zingathandize kukumbukira zowawa zina za moyo wake.
"Usafuule" kapena "Uyenera Kukhala Wolimba"
Kupereka ndemanga pa momwe wina akuyankhira kapena kuthana ndi vuto lirikudzichepetsa ndipo sagwira ntchito ina koma kupanga kudziimba mlandu kapena / kapena mkwiyo. Kawirikawiri, anthu amakhala ndi magawo angapo ofanana kapena magawo achisoni chifukwa cha imfa yayikulu, koma nthawi ndi momwe wina amasonyezera kuti akumva chisoni.
Kuuza womva chisoni sayenera kufotokoza malingaliro mwachibadwa kungapangitse kuyankha kwachisoni chosavuta kapena chovuta chifukwa munthuyo sangathe kuchita, ndipo potsiriza amalandira, kumverera komwe kumayenderana ndi imfa.
Njira yabwino : Chotsani ntchito yanu yodziwa kanthawi kochepa ndikudzilola nokha kuyankha. Mawu ndi ofunika kwambiri pakalipano; kuyamikiridwa ndi kukumbukiridwa kudzakhala ndi dzanja limodzi ndi zanu zonse, kukumbatirana kwanthawi yaitali, kumverera kwa dzanja lanu pamapewa, kapena misonzi yogawana.
"Amawoneka Wachilengedwe"
Kodi munayamba mwamuyang'ana munthu wamoyo ndipo munanena chinthu chonga ichi? Inde ayi, chifukwa munthu amene amawoneka mwachibadwa m'moyo amangoyang'ana, chabwino ... zachirengedwe . Mwa kuyankhula kwina, sitimva kufunika koyankhapo. Kulongosola ndemanga iyi pamene mukuyang'ana munthu wakufa akugona mu sikiti, komabe, kumangogogomeza kuti iye sali moyo.
Kuonjezerapo, chimodzi mwazochita zamantha zomwe anthu ambiri amaopa kumakhala nazo ndizoti banja lingaganize kuti wokondedwa wodzozedwa ndi wokonzedwanso sakuwoneka mwachirengedwe, mwachitsanzo, momwe iye anachitira pamene akukhala. Choncho, kukhala oyamba kufotokozera za maonekedwe a wakufa sikungakhale kwanzeru chifukwa simudziwa chomwe wachibale kapena wokondedwa wanu wapamtima akuganiza.
Njira yabwino : Mwachiwonekere, ngati wakulira akukufunsani momveka bwino, "Kodi sakuwoneka bwino?" ndiye muyenera kuvomereza mosavuta. Posakhalitsa, pewani ndemanga iliyonse pa maonekedwe a womwalirayo pa malo ophimbidwa kapena okonzedwa, monga kuwuka kapena kuthamangitsidwa. M'malo mwake, sangalalani kukumbukira mokondwera komwe mumamverera / kumatchula chinthu chapadera chokhudza munthu amene adamwalira.
"Ndidziwe Ngati Ndikhoza Kuthandiza"
Kuwuza wina yemwe akumukhumudwitsa chifukwa cha imfa - ndipo atatopa kale ndi zisankho zambiri zomwe adachita m'masiku angapo apitawo - kuti mukufuna kuti chisankho china chisamveke komanso cholemetsa. Zowonjezereka, munthuyo sanaganizire mozama za zofunikira ndi maudindo a moyo wake "wamba" chiyambireni imfa. Kufunsa funsoli, chifukwa chake, limangowayika pamalo pomwepo kuti akudzimva kuti ndi osathandiza.
Njira yabwino : Ngati mukufunitsitsa kuthandiza wodwalayo panthawi inayake, ndiye kungonena kuti mudzamuimbira telefoni mlungu wotsatira kamodzi katha. Panthawiyi, osati maliro ndi malipiro a msonkhano, komabe alendo omwe ali kunja kwa tawuni adzabwerera kwawo.
Ndipo pamene muitanitsa, muyenera kupereka kupereka lingaliro lapadera kapena ziwiri mmalo mozisiyira munthu amene waferedwa. Mungapereke kukadula udzu, kutsanulira galimoto kapena kuchita ntchito zina zapanyumba zakunja. Kuyeretsa nyumba, kukonza zovala kapena kugula zakudya kungakhale zothandiza, komanso. Mwinamwake woyamikiridwa kwambiri adzakupatsani chakudya chokha ndikumangopatula nthawi yongomvetsera, ngati munthuyo akumva ngati akuyankhula, kapena kuti azikhala naye mwamtendere.
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