Imfa imatipangitsa ife kukhala osamvetsetseka ndipo nthawi zambiri imasiya ife kutayika kwa mawu musanayambe, panthawi kapena mwambo wamaliro kapena mwambo wa chikumbutso. M'munsimu, mupeza mawu atatu omveka bwino, olimbitsa mtima omwe angakuthandizeni kuti mumve chisoni komanso mumalimbikitse munthu amene akumva chisoni ndi wachibale kapena mnzanu.
Kodi Mumakonda Zambiri Zokhudza Iye / Zake?
Mwamwayi, chifundo chachikulu chimasonyeza kuti anthu amatha kunena mwambo wa maliro kapena mwambo wa chikumbutso kapena wamaliro - monga "Ndikupepesa chifukwa cha kutayika kwanu," "Ali pamalo abwino," "Nthawi imachiza mabala onse" ndi zina mawu otere - apatseni oferedwa pang'ono njira yopezera chitonthozo chothandiza (ndipo akhoza kutsimikizira kuti ndi osafunika).
Mafotokozedwe a mtundu umenewu safunikira kuyankha, choncho, nthawi zambiri zimangopangitsa munthuyo kuti azikhala bwino mwa kunena "chinachake" ndikugonjetsa zovuta zomwe timazimva pamene tikukumana ndi imfa.
Kuonjezera apo, ndemanga zowonjezereka monga izi zingathe kumvetsetsa kuti woferedwa sayenera kulankhula za womwalirayo chifukwa palibe aliyense amene akufuna kutero ndipo ayenera "kusuntha" mwamsanga.
Ngakhale kuti sizingafunike kufunsa pamene akuyimira pa mndandanda wa mndandanda ku maliro ake / kutsegulira, kufunsana kuti afotokoze maganizo ake, malingaliro ake ndi kukumbukira za wakufa pa nthawi yoyenera akhoza kusonyeza cathartic. Imfa imatha moyo, osati ubale, komanso omwe akulimbana ndi imfa ya munthu wina mwinamwake amalandira mwayi wogawana momasuka maganizo awo ndi omvera wachifundo, wachifundo - ngakhale ngati kuchita zimenezi kumayambitsa misozi yambiri.
Ndimakukondani
Ngakhale zili ndi mau atatu okha, zolemba zina zochepa m'mbiri ya anthu zakhala ndi mphamvu yakukhudzidwa kwambiri ndi malingaliro ndi tsogolo la munthu, banja kapena mafuko onse. Mphamvu ya "Ine ndimakukondani" imakhala pazinthu zonse zomwe sizikunenedwa koma mwachindunji mwa mawu omwewo komanso momwe timvetse tanthawuzo lake, monga, "Ndimakukondani kuposa ena onse," "Ndimasangalala ndi inu," "Inu ndinu osati ndekha "ndi" Ine ndiri pano chifukwa cha iwe "(pakati pa zilankhulo zina zambiri ndi kutanthauzira).
Chifukwa chakuti nthawi zambiri anthu amamva kuti ali osungulumwa ndi chisoni, kumva kuti "ndimakukondani" kungapereke chitsimikizo chofunika kwambiri choti asamadzimve yekha pa nthawi yovutayi ndipo wina amasamala za chimwemwe chake ndipo ali wokonzeka kupereka chitonthozo thandizo m'masiku, masabata ndi miyezi yotsatira.
Dulani Mawu Onse
Anthu ambiri amavutikira kupeza "mau abwino" kunena kwa wina amene akulira imfa ya wokondedwa ngati kuti pali mawu kapena matsenga omwe angathetsere kupweteka kwa imfa ndi kupanga masiku, masabata ndi miyezi patsogolo pake mosavuta. Koma zoona zake n'zakuti chisoni sichinthu chopanda phindu ndipo, mochulukira, oferedwa sadzakumbukiranso zomwe munanena panthawi ya imfa ndi maliro. (Musati mutenge izo!)
Chimene iye angapeze chitonthozo panthawi yovuta iyi, komabe, ndipo mwina akhoza kukumbukira pambuyo pake, ndi mawu osayankhula, omveka a chifundo, chisamaliro ndi chikondi. Gwirani dzanja lake; kumbirani; perekani minofu kapena mipukutu yoyera ngati ikufunikira; muyang'ane iye pamaso kuti asonyeze malingaliro anu opanda mawu; khalani ndi dzanja pa dzanja lake kapena paphewa, kapena mudzilole nokha kuti mufuule kapena mukumva chisoni ndi chisoni chimene mumamva.
Imfa ndi yamuyaya ndipo imakhala yovuta, yosavomerezeka yomwe imatenga nthawi kuti oferedwa avomereze ndikugwirizanitsa ndi moyo wawo kupita patsogolo. Khulupirirani kuti padzakhala nthawi yochuluka yoti mukambirane ndipo, tsopano, perekani mphatso yamtengo wapatali ya kumvetsetsa mwakachetechete, chithandizo ndi kukhalapo kwa womvetsa chisoni.