Lekani Kuchita Zinthu Izi Ngati Muli ndi Khansa Yamimba
Pali zinthu zambiri zomwe timauzidwa kuti tichite ngati tili ndi khansa, komabe palinso zinthu zomwe sitiyenera kuchita.
Musadandaule. Ili si mndandanda wa zinthu zomwe mungawonjezere ku "muyenera kukhala / mutakhala ndi" mndandanda womwe umakupangitsani inu kukhala wamisala. Ndipotu, ndikuganiza kuti mudzadabwa kwambiri ndi zinthu zina zimene muyenera kusiya ngati muli ndi khansara yamapapo.
1. Yesani kuyesera kuti mupite nokha
Palibe aliyense wa ife amene akufuna kukoka okondedwa athu kuti akakhale ndi vuto ngati khansa. Tikufuna kuti tisawonongeke. Ife tiribe kusankha koma kupatula ulendowu, ndipo timamva kuti tili ndi mlandu woika ena ulendo. Koma ndilo liwu la kulankhula kwathu. Anthu akufuna kuthandiza. Anthu akufuna kukhala ndi ife. Ndipo osati kokha kuti chikhumbo chawo, koma miyoyo yawo ikhoza kupindula mwa kugawana ulendo wathu.
Njira ina yowonera kulandira thandizo kuchokera kwa okondedwa anu ndikuzindikira kuti kuvomereza thandizo lawo ndi njira yolemekezera anthu omwe akufuna kukhala pafupi ndi inu. Ngati simukuwalola kuti achite nawo gawoli, mukuwakana mwayi wokhala ndi mwayi wokhala ndi chithandizo chamtunduwu, koma mwapamwamba kwambiri omwe angakhale odziwa bwino ngati mwakhalapo komweko. Tsegulani mtima wanu ndi malingaliro anu kuti alole anthu kuyenda ulendo uno ndi inu.
Zonsezi zinati, zimatengera mudzi kuti umuthandize munthu amene ali ndi khansa , ndipo mnzanu kapena bwenzi sangathe kuchita yekha.
Kuphatikiza pa izo, pali zinthu zomwe munthu "wakhalapo" angathe kumvetsetsa. Kupeza gulu lothandizira ndikuwerenga nkhani za ena omwe akhala ndi kansa ya m'mapapo ndi kuyamba koyamba.
2. Siyani Kuthetsa Ululu
Ululu sikuti umatikhudza ife mwathupi koma ukhoza kuyika mthunzi pa chilichonse chimene timanena ndi kuchita.
Mavuto a khansayo amakhudza umunthu wathu wonse-thupi, malingaliro, ndi mzimu. Pakati pa mthunzi umenewo, nthawi zambiri timafunikila kupanga zisankho zazikulu zokhuza chithandizo chamankhwala. Zimakhala zovuta kukomana ndi zosankhazo ndikukambirana ndi okondedwa athu ngati tili opanda ululu. Kuponya ululu mu equation kungapangitse kuti zovuta zikhale zovuta nthawi zina.
Koma simukusowa kukhala ndi ululu. Anthu ambiri omwe akulekerera ululu akukhala motere chifukwa sadapemphe-kapena kufunsa-kapena kachiwiri. Wachikulire wanu akufuna kuti inu muyankhule za ululu wanu ndipo mukufuna kuti mukhale omasuka. Chomwe chimadetsa nkhaŵa ndikuti kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala opweteka kungabweretse chizoloŵezi koma mofanana ndi khansa yomwe imakhala yochepa kwambiri. Kafukufuku wochulukirapo akuwonetsa kuti kuchuluka kwa mankhwala opweteka omwe amagwiritsa ntchito nthawi zambiri kumakhala kuchepa pamene anthu amakhala pamwamba pa ululu wawo.
3. Kusiya Kuganiza Dokotala Wanu Amadziwa Zonse
Masiku ano ndikulandira chidziwitso chachiwiri (kapena chachitatu, kapena chachinayi) pamene muli ndi khansa ndi lamulo, osati ayi. Monga momwe mungayankhulire ndi ojambula angapo kuti muzisankha zomwe mumaganiza kuti zingathe kugwira bwino ntchito, mungafunikire "kufunsa" madokotala angapo / malo okhudzana ndi khansa kuti musankhe omwe mumamva bwino.
Ndipo mutasankha mosamala dokotala / malo a khansa omwe akugwirizana ndi zosowa zanu, musaope kufunsa mafunso. Chidziwitso chochuluka cha khansa yomwe ikubwera tsiku ndi tsiku chimapangitsa kukhala kosatheka kuti munthu mmodzi akhalebe pamwamba pa zonse. Funsani mafunso a dokotala wanu, ndipo musaope kumufunsa kuti afunse mafunso.
- Pamene Mukusowa Maganizo Achiwiri ndi Momwe Mungapezere Mmodzi
- Mmene Mungadzilimbikitsire Monga Khansa Woleza Mtima
4. Lekani Kukhala Wodabwitsidwa ndi Chinyengo
Khansa ya m'mimba imanyamula zonyansa zambiri. Imodzi ndi manyazi a kusuta. Pali malingaliro osatsutsika pakati pa anthu kuti mwinamwake anthu omwe amayamba khansa ya m'mapapo "amayenera" chifukwa iwo amasuta.
Zina ndizo manyazi onsene. Khansara ya m'mimba imayesedwa ndi chilango cha imfa kwa anthu ambiri.
Kukhala ndi khansa ya m'mapapo Ndikutsimikiza kuti mwamvapo zina mwa ndemanga. "Unasuta utali wotani?" "Sindikufuna kuti ukanasiya kusuta kale?" "Mnansi wanga anali ndi khansara yamapapo ndipo adamwalira."
Sitikusintha dziko lapansi, koma lingathandize kukonzekera bwino ndikuganiza momwe mungayankhire mafunso awa ndi ndemanga kuti asakukokerereni. Musamachite manyazi ndikugwera mumsampha wakumverera kuti mukuyenera kukhala ndi khansara yamapapu. Palibe amene amayenera khansa.
Kodi mungayankhe bwanji mwachifundo pamene wina akulankhula mosamveka?
Mungaganize kuti, "inde, ndimasuta, koma pali zifukwa zambiri za khansa ya m'mapapo ndi kusuta ndi imodzi yokha." Kapena m'malo mwake, "Ndine mmodzi mwa anthu omwe ali ndi kansa ya m'mapapo koma osasuta-zomwezo ndizofala. Mwina mungathe kukhala mbali yothetsa manyazi. "Ndipo, ndi zomwe zimawopseza ponena za kupulumuka, ndemanga yosavuta yonena kuti mukukonzekera kugunda matendawa ndipo mungagwiritse ntchito chithandizo ndi ndemanga zabwino ziyenera kukhala zokwanira.
zifukwa zambiri za khansa yamapapo
Popeza cholinga chanu ndikulingalira pa chithandizo chanu, nthawi zina ndi bwino kupereka nthumwizo ndi ndemanga izi kwa wokondedwa wanu. Kodi mumadziwa kuti ndiwe wanzeru ndipo angasokoneze mau osalankhula mwachifundo ndi moganizira?
- Nkhanza za Khansa ya M'mimba
- Kulimbana ndi Malingaliro Opanda Phindu
- Kulimbana ndi Mlandu Wosuta Fodya
5. Siyani "Osati Kudzinenera" Thandizo
Tikukhala mu nthawi yachuma pamene kuli kovuta kwa anthu omwe alibe khansa. Kuonjezerapo ndizofunika za kansa ya mankhwala komanso mwina kuchepa kapena kusakhoza kugwira ntchito nthawi zonse ndipo zotsatira zingakhale zowawa mtima. Koma thandizo likupezeka. Musaope kufunsa.
Ndikudziwa kuti n'zovuta kulandira chithandizo, makamaka ngati mwakhala wodziimira nokha ndipo ndiwe amene mumathandiza ena. Koma kulola bwenzi lanu, kapena bungwe lothandizira, kapena zopanda phindu kuthandizira panopa ndi njira imodzi yokhala ndi thanzi labwino ndi mapazi anu mokwanira kotero kuti mutha kubwerera kuumwini wanu wowolowa manja mukakhala bwino. Ndipo ngati sichoncho, kodi ndizofunikadi? Kumbukirani kuti mabungwe ambiri osapindulitsa ndi mabungwe a boma adapangidwa kuti athandize anthu omwe akukumana ndi zomwe mukukumana nazo. Vuto lalikulu la moyo.
6. Pewani Kusinkhasinkha pa Mapeto a Chithandizo, ndipo Yambani Kukhala Ndi Tsiku Lililonse
Ndi zophweka kuika moyo wako pamtanda mpaka mankhwala opatsirana khansa apangidwa, koma osafuna kuchokapo nthawi izi. Ndalankhula ndi odwala ambiri a khansa omwe amayang'ana mmbuyo nthawi ya chithandizo chawo ndipo akukhumba kuti iwo sanafune nthawi imeneyo. Kodi nthawi zambiri mumakhala ndi mwayi wotani nthawi ndi kuyandikana ndi anzanu ndi okondedwa anu omwe mukuchita panthawi ya chithandizo cha khansa? Mwinamwake chinthu chothandiza kwambiri chomwe ndachichita pamene ndikudwala khansa ndekha ndikusunga magazini yoyamikira. Momwemo tsiku lililonse ndimalembera (inde, nthawi zina zinali zovuta) zochitika zabwino ndi madera a kukula kwa moyo wanga. Kuyambira potsirizira chithandizo ndapeza kuti kusunga magaziniyi ndi chinthu chomwe ndikufuna kuchita, ndipo ndikusangalala kuti sindinagwire moyo wanga ndikudzibisa nthawi imeneyo! Onani malangizo awa momwe mungayambire nkhani yanu ulendo wanu wa khansa .
7. Musadandaule Chifukwa cha Zinthu Zing'onozing'ono
Izi zikhonza kukhala bwino kunena kuti "musadandaule pamene anthu ena akudandaula pazinthu zazing'ono." Ngati khansara ili chinthu chimodzi, zimatipatsa chithunzi chachikulu pa zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri pamoyo. Ndipo pochita izi, ndi zovuta kuti musakhumudwe pamene anzanu ndi okondedwa anu akudandaula za "zinthu zazing'ono." Ndimakumbukira kumenyera moyo wanga ndikumvetsera wina akudandaula za kupeza malo abwino opaka magalimoto. Zingakhale zodetsa nkhawa nthawi zina.
Ndinaona kuti n'kopindulitsa kukumbukira kuti monga momwe malo osungirako magalimoto ankawonekera kukhala ofunika kwambiri kwa wina, okondedwa anga ayenera kuti anali okhudzidwa ndi zinthu zambiri pazinthu zanga "zofunika kwambiri". Kukumbukira kuti ndife onse okhululukidwa osiyana ndi okhululukira ena kuphatikizapo kukhululukira tokha-komanso kuphatikizapo kuseka kungathandize.
8. Lekani Kuyesa Kukhala Okhazikika Nthawi Zonse
Ndikudziwa kuti "mabukuwa akunena" kuti ndikofunika kukhala ndi chiyembekezo komanso chiyembekezo pamene muli ndi khansa. Ine sindikukana izo. Komabe ndizofunikira kuthana ndi mantha ndi zovuta zathu ndikukhala ndi nthawi yakulira. Kukhumudwa kungapangitse kutaya ufulu wanu, kapena tsitsi lanu, kapena kutayika kwa malingaliro amatsenga omwe sitingathe kufa nawo omwe tinadalitsidwa ndi achinyamata. Tenga nthawi yakulira. Tulutseni ndi bwenzi labwino lomwe limamvetsetsa kufunika kwa "chisoni chachikulu" ndipo sichitha nthawi yake ndi inu kuyesera "kukonza." Izi zingafunike kupeza bwenzi limene limakhala ndi moyo wake wokha. Sungani nthawi yakulira, ndikukondweretsani.
9. Siyani Kukonzekera ndi Kumaliza Malangizo Anu Oyambirira
Ndikhoza kunena moona mtima kuti ndatsiriza ndondomeko zanga zokha posachedwapa. Malamulo apatsogolo ndilolemba lofotokoza zomwe mukufuna kuti mupeze mankhwala (ndi zina) ngati simungathe kudziyankhula nokha.
Anthu ambiri amaletsa kudzaza mndandanda pa mafomu awa. Ndikudziwa kuti sindiri ndekha pochedwa kuchepetsa njirayi mwamsanga. Koma ndi mtendere kwambiri kudziwa kuti ndalemba maganizo anga. Zingamveke ngati ndondomeko yowopsya. Ena mwa mafunsowa ndi osakongola komanso apamwamba. "Ngati mtima wanu ukuleka kumenya, kodi mungakonde ogwira ntchito zachipatala kuti ayese kuyambiranso?" Koma palinso zambiri kuti mupititse patsogolo malangizo, monga mwayi wothandizira okondedwa anu kukonzekera utumiki wanu wa chikumbutso panthawi yomwe maganizo awo sangathe khalani mukuganiza moyenera.
Ndipo mosiyana ndi lingaliro loopsya lomwe mungayembekezere kubwera ndi kudzaza mafomu akukamba za nthawi yomwe simungathe kudziyankhulira nokha, anthu ambiri amapeza njira yotenthedwa mtima-ndipo ngakhale ikulimbikitsa. Pamene ndikulemba za zomwe ndikanafuna ana anga ngati ndapita, ndinaganizira kwambiri zomwe ndingathe kuti ndizindikiritse zoona lero. Ndipo malingaliro olakwika omwe ine ndinawayika polemba kuti mwina iwo asatayike-amtengo wapatali.
Nkhaniyi ikukamba za kukonzekera kutsogolo, ndi mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya malangizo oyambirira .
10. Musayambe Kufunafuna Mipata Yowona Chiyembekezo M'moyo Wanu
Musataye chiyembekezo. Chiyembekezo sichiyenera kutanthauza kuti mukuyenera kudziganizira nokha ngati marathons a zaka 20 omwe akuthamanga. Izo sizikutanthauza ngakhale kuti iwe udzapulumuka khansara yako kwa nthawi yeniyeni. Izi zikutanthauza kuti nthawizonse mumakhala ndi chinachake choyembekezera. Izo zikhoza kukhala pa dziko lino kapena ayi. Zikhoza kukhala kuganiza maloto kwa zidzukulu zanu zomwe simungathe kuzidziwa ngakhale mutakhala kuti muli 120. Musasiye kuyembekezera.
Ngati mukukhala ndi khansa ya m'mapapo, onetsetsani malangizo awa kuti mukhale ndi maganizo abwino ndi khansara , koma kumbukirani kuti nkofunika kufotokoza maganizo oipa.
Ngati ndi wokondedwa wanu amene ali ndi khansara, yesani maganizo awa pa zomwe zimakhala ngati mukukhala ndi khansa komanso malingaliro othandizira kuthana ndi wokondedwa wanu ali ndi khansara .
Chitsime:
National Cancer Institute. Kutenga Nthawi: Thandizo kwa Anthu Amene Ali ndi Khansa.