Kugonana Kwachisawawa M'nthaŵi ya "Unamwali Wachikhalidwe"
Pamene ndikuyankhula ndi gulu la achinyamata posachedwapa, ndinamva mawu omwe anali atsopano kwa ine. Ambiri adalankhula za "abwenzi ndi zopindulitsa". Pokhala bambo wamasiye wa ana atatu aamuna, ndikuyenera kufunsa chomwe chikutanthawuza. Kenaka ndinadabwa kuona kuti achinyamata ambiri a zaka zapakati pa 14 ndi 18 analikulumikizana ndi mtundu watsopano wa kugonana okha.
Masiku ano, anyamata ndi atsikana ambiri "akukweza" kugonana samadziona okha kukhala pachibwenzi kapena pachibwenzi cholimba. Komanso, nthawi zambiri amaona kuti kugonana kumalankhula "kovomerezeka" mu ubale weniweni-makamaka, kuti ena amadziona ngati "atsikana" atatha kugonana.
Kafukufuku waposachedwapa wofalitsidwa m'buku la Journal of Pediatric Psychology anafufuza gulu la magawo 10 la magawo okhudzana ndi malingaliro awo ndi malingaliro awo pa kugonana. Mfundo yakuti achinyamata a m'kalasi ya 10 ankachita zachiwerewere sizodabwitsa. Chodabwitsa chinali chakuti kafukufuku amene anapeza achinyamata anali kugonana pamlomo nthawi zambiri kusiyana ndi kugonana komanso ndi zibwenzi zambiri. Chodabwitsa kwambiri chinali chakuti ambiri mwa achinyamata omwe anafunsidwapo anati sadagwiritse ntchito kondomu panthawi yogonana .
Zomwe Zimakhudza Mchitidwe Wogonana M'nyamata
Kupsinja kwa anzanu ndizomwe zimakhudza kwambiri moyo wa anyamata. Koma ichi ndi chimodzi chokha chomwe chimachititsa achinyamata kuganiza kuti achite chiwerewere.
Zifukwa zimaphatikizapo:
- Achinyamata amafuna kutchuka pakati pa anzawo. Achinyamata amakhulupirira kuti ngati agonana, amalankhula kapena kugonana amawoneka ngati otchuka kwambiri. Kafukufuku akuwonetsa mosiyana. Ngakhale kuti amawoneka ngati "otchuka" achinyamata omwe amachita chiwerewere chosatetezeka sali okondedwa pakati pa anzawo.
- Achinyamata nthawi zambiri amakhulupirira kuti kugonana kumalankhula ndi njira yabwino yothetsera kugonana, kuyambira mimba komanso matenda opatsirana pogonana. Ziŵerengero zimatsimikizira mosiyana. Miliyoni ambiri achinyamata amatenga matenda opatsirana pogonana monga chlamydia , gonorrhea , HIV , ndi herpes chaka chilichonse komanso kugonana ndikamwa ndi njira yomwe achinyamata akudwala.
Kodi Ndizoopsa Zotani Zokhudza Kugonana?
Kulankhulana Pagonana Penile
Zoopsa zapadera: Kuchita zogonana m'kamwa kapena "kupweteka ntchito" kumakhala ndi chiopsezo chotenga kachilombo ka HIV kwa wothandizana naye chifukwa chithandizo cha pre-ejaculate ("pre-cum") chamtunduwu chimatha kulowa pakamwa. Zilonda zilizonse zotseguka, zilonda zozizira, ndi zina zotero zingakhale njira zomwe kachilombo kapena mabakiteriya angalowe m'magazi ndikupatsira. Kwa wothandizana naye, pali chiopsezo chowopsa cha matenda chifukwa magazi omwe ali ndi kachilombo koyambitsa magazi kapena othandizira amatha kugwirizana ndi khungu, kudula, kapena kupweteka pa mbolo.
Zowonongeka zolembedwa: Ngakhale kuti chiopsezocho chimakhala chochepa kwambiri kusiyana ndi chilakolako cha abambo kapena chiwerewere, HIV imapatsirana kwa anzawo omwe amalandira nawo maliseche ("ntchito yopsereza"), ngakhale pamene abwenzi omwe akulumikizana nawo sakhala ndi ejaculate (cum).
Kulankhulana Kwachiwerewere-Wamagulu
Zoopsa zapachiyambi - Kuchita zogonana pamimba kwa mayi kumakhala ndi chiopsezo cha kachilombo ka HIV kwa munthu yemwe ali ndi zibwenzi (yemwe akunyengerera kapena akuyamwa mkaka) chifukwa zakumwa zamagazi ndi magazi zimatha kulowa pakamwa.
(Izi zimaphatikizapo, koma sizingatheke, kumaliseche). Chimodzimodzinso, pali chiopsezo cha kachilombo ka HIV pa nthawi yogonana kwa mnzanu wokondedwa (munthu amene ali ndi chiberekero chakumaliseche kapena kuyamwa) ngati magazi omwe ali ndi kachilombo ka mthupi kapena mavupa amagazi amakumana ndi vulvar kapena kudula kapena zilonda.
Zowonongeka zolembedwa - Kuopsa kwa kachilombo ka HIV pa nthawi yogonana kumakhala kochepa poyerekeza ndi kugonana kwa abambo ndi abambo . Komabe, pakhala pali vuto la kutengapo kachilombo ka HIV ndi matenda opatsirana pogonana chifukwa chogonana.
Malangizo kwa Achinyamata
- Kugonana kwapakhomo kumayambitsa matenda a HIV komanso matenda ena opatsirana pogonana .
- Kumbukirani kuti HIV ndi matenda ena opatsirana pogonana ndi osatha, kutanthauza kuti sangachiritsidwe.
- Ngakhale kuti mumawoneka wotchuka kwambiri, kukhala ndi kugonana kosalankhula momveka sikukondweretsa kwambiri pakati pa anzanu. Ndipotu, kafukufuku amasonyeza kuti anthu ngati inu komanso amakulemekezani pamene muli ndi kugonana kosalankhula.
- Pa nthawi yogonana, mnyamata ndi mtsikana ali pachiopsezo cha matendawa.
- Kupeza mbiri ya "chiwerewere", "slutty", kapena "mosavuta" kudzakhala ndi iwe nthawi yaitali sukulu ya sekondale itatha.
- Ngati simungathe kuyankhula ndi kholo za kugonana kwakamwa, lankhulani ndi mlangizi wanu wa sukulu, mphunzitsi amene mumamukonda kapena dokotala wanu wa banja.
Malangizo kwa Makolo ndi Aphungu
- Sungani zoopsa za kugonana kwa abambo kwa anyamata ndi atsikana.
- Adziwitseni kuti kukhala otchuka sikukutanthauza kuti akukondedwa.
- Kuda nkhawa kuti akhoza kubwera kwa inu ndikukambirana chilichonse, mosasamala kanthu momwe zingakhalire zosasangalatsa kwa inu.
- Dziwani zomwe mwana wanu akuchita, komwe akupita, ndi omwe adzakhale naye.
Phunzirani zambiri za chiopsezo cha pangozi .
> Zosowa
> Uecker, J .; Angotti, N .; ndi Regnerus, M. "Kupita Njira Zambiri:" Namwali Wachikhalidwe "pakati pa Achinyamata Achimereka." Kusanthula za Sayansi. December 1, 2008; 37 (4): 1200-1215.