Makolo ambiri ali ndi zolinga zenizeni za ana awo - komanso zolinga zowonjezereka kwa ana awo ndi autism. Kawirikawiri, zolinga zimenezo zimayamba ndi "Ndikufuna mwana wanga akondwere." Chimwemwe, komabe, ndi chovuta kuwerengera.
Kodi mukutanthauza kuti "Ndikufuna kuti mwana wanga asamangodandaula, mantha, kapena chisoni, komanso kuti akhale ndi chilakolako chilichonse pomwepo?" Kodi mukutanthauza kuti "Ndikufuna kuti mwana wanga akhale ndi moyo umene umakwaniritsa zofuna zake ndi zolinga zake?" Kapena kodi mumatanthauza kuti "Ndikufuna kuti mwana wanga akhale ndi moyo umene ndimamuyembekezera?"
Makolo ochepa amafunitsitsa ana awo-ngakhale ana awo autistic-kuti azikhala ndi moyo wachimwemwe wa ma TV ndi mazira a mbatata, omwe amachokera kuzinthu zonse zenizeni. Koma amayi ambiri ndi abambo ambiri amasangalatsidwa kwambiri ndi masomphenya awo a chimwemwe kusiyana ndi zikhumbo zenizeni za mwana wawo.
Izi zimakhala zomveka ndithu: Ana omwe ali ndi autism akhoza kukhala ndi nthawi yovuta kulingalira kapena kufotokoza malingaliro enieni a zomwe akufuna m'moyo. Ngakhale achinyamata kapena achikulire pa masewera angakhale okhudzidwa kwambiri pamphindi kuposa nthawi yayitali. Ndipo kupanga zolinga kumafuna kulingalira kwapadera ndi dongosolo la utsogoleri zomwe zingakhale zopanda nzeru kuyembekezera.
Vuto limabuka, komabe, makolo akamakwaniritsa zozizwitsa zawo zomwe zili zabwino, zosangalatsa, zokhazikika, kapena zosangalatsa. Chifukwa chakuti ziyembekezo ndi maloto a munthu wamkulu wamagulu sagwirizana kwambiri ndi ana a autistic, achinyamata, kapena achinyamata.
Momwemonso zolinga za makolo nthawi zambiri zimalengedwa, osati ndi mwana wawo weniweni wa autistic, koma ndi chiyembekezo (nthawi zina chosamvetsetseka) kuti mwana wawo wa autistic adzakhalanso ndi moyo mpaka wamkulu.
Pambuyo pake, makolo ambiri akuyembekeza ndikulota, mwana wawo amatha kukhala ndi zikhalidwe ndi ziyembekezo za anthu - motero amayi, agogo, agogo, ndi anthu ambiri amakhala osangalala komanso omasuka.
Zolinga Zowonongeka ndi Makolo a Ana Ovomerezeka
Kodi chilichonse mwa zolingazi ndi chodziwika bwino?
- "Ndikufuna mwana wanga akhale ndi mabwenzi abwino."
- "Ndikufuna kuti mwana wanga azikhala yekhayekha ."
- "Ndikufuna kuti mwana wanga akwatira ndipo akhale ndi banja."
- "Ndikufuna kuti mwana wanga azikhala ndi maganizo abwino."
- "Ndikufuna kuti mwana wanga agwire ntchito yabwino ndikupitirizabe ntchito yake."
Monga momwe mwawonera, cholinga chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe zili pamwambazi - zonse zomwe zimafotokozedwa ndi makolo a ana autistic - zimamangidwa motsatira zokonda ndi luso lomwe limafuna luso loyankhulana bwino, luso lokonzekera bwino, kukonda kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi m'magulumagulu, ndi zilakolako zambiri zaumwini. Amakhalanso ndi chilakolako chofuna kupeza wokondedwa wokhazikika komanso (kutengera) kubereka ana.
Anthu omwe ali ndi autism ali ndi mphamvu, luso, zofuna, ndi zikhumbo zambiri. Koma chifukwa chakuti iwo ali autistic, iwo sangathe kukhala amphamvu, maluso, zofuna, kapena zikhumbo zomwe zimakhudzana ndi magulu a anthu kapena chikhumbo chokondweretsa ena.
Anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi autism amasankha kukhala okhaokha m'magulu. Anthu ena omwe ali ndi autism amakhala awiri, koma ambiri amapeza ubwenzi wapamtima wokhala wolimba.
Komanso, ndi munthu wamba amene ali ndi autism yemwe ali ndi chilakolako chofuna kusangalatsa komanso kutulutsa anzake kapena makolo ake.
Zolinga Zodalirika kwa Mwana Wotchedwa Autism
Kotero, ndi zolinga zoyenera ziti za mwana ndi autism? Monga ndi zina zonse zokhudzana ndi autism spectrum, mayankho adzasiyana - ndipo adzadalira mphamvu, zofuna, ndi zikhumbo za mwana wanu.
Kodi njira yabwino bwanji yothetsera ndi kukhazikitsa zolinga, ndiye? Ngati mwana wanu ali ndi mawu komanso amatha kukambirana za nkhani zovuta, yambani kukambirana za kukonzekera kwa nthawi yaitali. Ngati sichoncho, ndipo ngati mukufuna kukhazikitsa zolinga za cholinga chokonzekera kusintha , penyani ndikuyanjana ndi mwana.
Amakonda chiyani? Kodi ndi zabwino zotani? Ndi liti pamene ali womasuka, womasuka, komanso wogwirizana?
Mwana wanu yekha angakuuzeni zomwe zingamupindulitse.