Sitifuna kukamba za khansa yothetsera . Mawu okhawo akhoza kubweretsa misonzi ndi kumverera kwa kutaya chiyembekezo. Komabe ngakhale mutapatsidwa chidziwitso cha khansara yotsiriza kapena yotsiriza pali chiyembekezo. Nchiyani chingakuthandizeni kuthana ndi kubwezeretsa chiyembekezo kumapeto kwa moyo?
Zomwe Zimatanthauza Ngati Khansara Ili Kutha
Ndikofunika kuti tidziwe tanthauzo la khansara.
Ngakhale kuti matanthauzira osiyanasiyana amasiyana, kuganiza kuti matenda omwe ali ndi matendawa amatanthauza kuti khansa sichiritsidwe ndipo pali nthawi yochepa yokhala nayo. Kumalo osungirako odwala, izi zingatanthauzidwe ngati miyezi isanu ndi umodzi koma zikhoza kukhala zazifupi kapena zotalika. Njira ina yofotokozera matenda a khansa monga matenda ndi pamene nthawi imabwera pamene zotsatira za mankhwala oyenera kupititsa patsogolo moyo wawo zimaposa phindu la mankhwalawa.
Kuwuza kuti khansara ndi yotsirizira sikutanthauza kuti mankhwala onse amasiya. M'malo mwake, nthawi zambiri zimatanthauza kuti m'malo momangogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala ochiza khansa kapena kukhala ndi moyo wathanzi, m'malo mwake mankhwala amatha kupereka chitonthozo ndi moyo wabwino kwambiri panthawi yomwe yatsala.
Malangizo Otsutsana
M'munsimu muli malangizo omwe athandiza anthu ena kuthana ndi matenda a khansa yotsiriza. Monga momwe anthu onse alili osiyana, mungapeze ena mwa malangizowa kukhala othandiza, pamene ena samakwaniritsa zosowa zanu.
Kuonjezera apo, monga pali magawo ambiri achisoni omwe sichimachitika kuti ziganizo zina zikhale zothandiza tsiku limodzi koma osati zina.
Onjezerani Mutu wa Zosangalatsa
Mnzanga wapamtima adapeza kuseketsa kukhala malo oyamba a masiku ake otsiriza ndi khansa. Anapempha abwenzi kuti atumize mawu ake oseketsa ndi ndemanga zake, kutumiza makhadi odabwitsa ndi kubweretsa mavidiyo ake oseketsa kuti awone.
Anapeza kuti kuseka sikungomuthandiza kuthana ndi tsiku lililonse koma kunachepetsanso ululu wake.
Ndikofunika kuti mukhale osamala ngati muli ndi wokondedwa wanu akulimbana ndi matendawa ndikumakhululukira nokha ngati mukukumana ndi matenda anu othetsera matenda. Padzakhala masiku pamene simukufuna kuseka. Padzakhala masiku pamene muyenera kufotokozera chisoni chanu ndi masiku pamene chinthu chomaliza chomwe mukufuna kuti wina aliyense atchule kuti mukhale "otsimikiza." Komabe-kutsegula mtima wanu ku mphamvu ya kuseka ndi kuseketsa.
Sankhani Mbale Wanu wa Banja Kapena Wokondedwa monga Wolankhulirani
Zingakhale zodetsa kwambiri kuti mupitirize kuyankha mafunso okhudza momwe mukuchitira, osati kuyankhula za kufotokoza zomwe mwasankha kapena osapanga pa chithandizo. Ganizirani za munthu wamtima wofanana pakati pa abale ndi abwenzi anu. Mwachidziwikire munthu wamphamvu, ndani angakuuzeni zomwe mukulakalaka pamene simukudzimva nokha. Ganizirani za munthu yemwe amatha kusintha (n'kovuta kudziwiratu pamene mungafunikire chithandizo chawo) ndi wina yemwe saganizira zoimbira, kutumiza maimelo, ndi kukonzanso tsamba lanu la Caring Bridge ngati muli nalo.
Dzisangalatseni Ndi Anthu Omwe Amalingalira ndi Opindulitsa
Tiyeni tiyang'ane nazo. Tonse tili ndi anthu m'miyoyo yathu omwe timasangalala nawo, ndipo anthufe timangolekerera.
Mukauzidwa kuti ndinu otsiriza, abwenzi ndi abwenzi akhoza kutuluka m'nkhalango akuyembekezera kukuwonani nthawi yomaliza. Mwina mungachite mantha kuti mudzakhumudwitsa okondedwa anu mwa kuima molimba pamene simukufuna alendo kapena mukusowa nthawi yokha. Palibe cholakwika ndi kukhala owona pa zosowa zanu ndi malingaliro anu. Palibe chodzikonda chofuna kukhala ndi nthawi yokha ndi anthu omwe akukulimbikitsani. Zingathandizenso kutenga nthawi ndikukambirana ndi anthu anu mmoyo wanu ndi woyankhula wanu ndikukamba za njira zochepetsera koma mwakhazikika kukhazikitsa malire omwe mukufunikira kuti mukhale ndi anthu omwe angakuthandizeni kusangalala ndi masiku anu otsiriza mokwanira.
Onani malingaliro awa pa kukhala ndi maganizo abwino ndi khansara , ndikukumbukira kuti nthawi zonse simuyenera kukhala ndi maganizo abwino. Yambani ndi anthu abwino omwe amakulolani kukhala nokha ndikuwonetsa maganizo anu okhudzana ndi khansa.
Khalani Panopa
Mungapeze kuti magawo otsiriza a khansara amatha kumasulidwa. Kusakhala ndi tsogolo labwino kungakulepheretseni kukhala pano-nthawi yokha imene aliyense wa ife ali nayo. Sitingasinthe zakale, ziribe kanthu kuchuluka kwa nthawi yomwe timagwiritsira ntchito.
Onaninso Zosankha ndi Zosankha
Mukapatsidwa matenda opatsirana, matendawa amakhudza gulu lonse la abwenzi ndi abwenzi anu. Kuopa imfa yanu, mkwiyo umatha ndipo kusagwirizana kumachitika pakati pa mamembala. Ngakhale izi ziri zovuta, ndi zachilendo. Tonsefe timalimbana ndi nkhani zomvetsa chisoni m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Ndizofala kwambiri kuti mamembala azilimbikitsa chithandizo chimodzi chokha. Kapena mwinamwake mankhwala ena kapena kuyenda ku Germany.
Choyamba ndikumvetsa zomwe mukufuna. Kutenga kanthawi kochepa kuti mumvetsere mabwenzi anu abwino komanso achibale anu kumasonyeza kuti mumawalemekeza. Koma pambuyo pake, okondedwa anu akuyenera kukulolani kuti mupange zosankha zanu komanso kukulemekezani. Mwinamwake kupeza lingaliro lachiwiri kapena kufufuza chimodzi mwa mayesero ovomerezeka a kachipatala kudzathandiza othandizira anu kufika pa siteji yomwe tsopano mukuvomerezedwa.
Kukumana ndi Mantha
Mantha angakhale opweteka pamene mukumva kuti matenda anu ndi otsiriza. Mwinamwake mukudandaula za ululu . Kodi mukuopa imfa? Kodi chidzachitike ndi chiyani kwa banja lanu? Ndipo chimodzi mwa mantha aakulu, mantha a kufa yekha. Kutenga nthawi kuti abweretse mantha awa kuchokera mu chikumbumtima chanu kungawathandize kuwoneka okhwimitsa komanso osawopsyeza.
Thokozani Okondedwa Anu Chifukwa Chokuthandizani
Zikuwoneka ngati kulankhula zakuthokoza sikungakhale koyenera. Inde, mumayamikira anthu omwe akuthandizani. Ife tikuwonjezera izi osati chinthu chomwe mukufunikira kuti muchitire ena, koma nokha. Inde, okondedwa anu amadziwa kuti mumawakonda ndipo amayamikira kukhalapo kwanu m'moyo wawo. Komabe, pokambirana ndi anthu ambiri pafupi ndi imfa, mafunsowa akubwereranso. " Kodi okondedwa anga adzadziwa momwe akundichitira? " " Kodi okondedwa anga adzadziwa momwe ndimawakondera ?"
Mwinamwake tengani mphindi zochepa ndi woyankhula wanu ndipo lembani kalata kwa okondedwa anu osagwiritsa ntchito china china koma kunena "Zikomo" komanso "Ndikukukondani." Inde, okondedwa anu amadziwa. Koma mukadzuka mafunso awiri koloko m'mawa, mukhoza kubwereranso kukadziwa kuti inde, munatenga nthawi yowonjezera kuti mutchule mawuwo.
Dzifotokozere Wekha
Ngati pali chinachake chimene mukufuna kunena, musaope kuti mufotokoze nokha. Simukuyenera kukhala "olimba mtima" ngakhale mabungwe omwe amawoneka akutamanda kunyalanyaza malingaliro anu enieni.
Konzekerani Kuti Ndinu Wosauka
Ngati mukumva ululu, mwinamwake wokhumudwitsidwa ndi matenda ochedwa kuchedwa kapena malire a chithandizo chamankhwala ndi kulira moyo umene anali kuyembekezera umene sudzakhalapo, mungafunikire kufotokoza mkwiyo wanu. Zomwe zimachitika kuti mkwiyo nthawi zambiri "umatayika" pa iwo omwe akuchita bwino kwambiri komanso okonda kwambiri. Kupeza mphindi kuti mupepese kungathandize okondedwa anu kuti aziyenda bwino kwambiri m'masiku otsatira.
Kuphatikiza Ubale Wogawanika
Mukauzidwa kuti ndinu othawa, mukhoza kumva kuti mukufunikira kuthetsa kusiyana kwa ubale. Nthawi zina izi ndizotheka, nthawi zina, siziri. Kodi alipo wina amene mukufuna kuti muyankhule naye kwa mphindi?
Kukondwerera Moyo Wanu
Anthu ena amafuna kusewera pokonzekera zikondwerero zawo (maliro) pamene ena alibe chidwi. Palibe chabwino kapena cholakwika ndipo banja ndi abwenzi ayenera kulemekeza zosankha zanu. Ngati akufuna kuti mupange malingaliro ndipo simukufuna, ndizo zabwino. Kapena iwo sangakonde kukamba za maliro anu ndi inu, koma anthu ambiri amatenga zambiri pochita nawo ntchito yawo yotsiriza ndipo muli ndi ufulu kuti muchite zimenezo. Zingakhale zosankha nyimbo zomwe mumazikonda. Kapena kugawana malingaliro ndi kufotokoza chokhumba kwa nthawi zina kuti muphatikizidwe mu eulogy.
Kupeza Chiyembekezo
Kodi mumapeza bwanji chiyembekezo m'masiku anu otsiriza? Tanthauzo lophiphiritsira la chiyembekezo limatanthauza chokhumba kapena chikhumbo chakuti chinthu chabwino chidzachitike. Kusintha kwa matenda omwe amatha kusintha, koma kulibe chiyembekezo. Mutha ku:
- Chiyembekezo cha chimwemwe mu masiku anu otsiriza
- Chiyembekezo cha chitonthozo
- Chiyembekezo cha moyo wotsatira ndi kuyanjananso ndi okondedwa
- Chiyembekezo cha madalitso kwa ana anu ndi okondedwa omwe adzatsalira pambuyo panu apita.
- Chiyembekezo kwa banja lanu
- Chiyembekezo cha dziko.
Anthu ambiri amapeza chiyembekezo pa zomwe zimadza pambuyo pa imfa.
Ndipo kaya zikhulupiliro zanu zimagwera kapena ayi, anthu ambiri amalimbikitsidwanso powerenga nkhani za anthu omwe adakumana nawo pafupi ndi imfa, zomwe zimawachitikira aamwino odwala omwe akumva za omwe akufa "akuyendera" ndi achibale awo kale, ndi nkhani za ena omwe adawona zochitika zomwe zimabweretsa chitsimikizo chokhudza moyo wam'tsogolo. Zomwe timakonda kwambiri ndizozigawo Zosatha Zathu: Zolemba Zenizeni za Moyo Wosatha ndi Moyo Wolembedwa ndi Wachidziwitso Wachizadzuwa wogawidwa ndi Janis Amatuzio, katswiri wa zachipatala yemwe adafotokozera nkhani zomwe mamembala adamuwuza nazo zaka zambiri zomwe zatonthoza kwa ambiri.
Mawu Ochokera
Afe omwe alibe khansara yotsiriza nthawi zambiri timamva kuti tikuthandizira ponena za zina zomwe mungachite. Izi zikachitika, anthu omwe ali ndi matendawa samangofunika kuthana ndi malingaliro awo ndi mantha awo okha koma amatha kuyesa kutithandiza.
Monga gulu, tifunikira kuphunzira zambiri pothandiza anthu kumapeto komanso osagwirizana ndi "kupambana" powonjezera masiku angapo. Kukhala ndi moyo wabwino ndikukumana ndi imfa yabwino n'kofunikira kwa aliyense wa ife. Ndipo kuti athe kuwonjezera chiganizo kuti "chabwino" kwa onse awiri, tifunika kukhala ndi chiyembekezo chopindulitsa. Ziribe kanthu kuti mukudwala bwanji, ziribe kanthu chikhulupiriro chanu, ndipo ziribe kanthu momwe mulili ndi ubale wanu, pali zifukwa zopezera chiyembekezo.
Masiku otsiriza ndi miyezi ya moyo ingakhale nthawi yabwino yokumbukira nthawi zabwino, kukonzanso (ngati n'kotheka) maubwenzi osweka, onetsetsani kuti muli ndi chisankho chokhazikika cha mankhwala anu, ndipo mukatero, mutonthozedwe kumapeto kwa moyo . Kukhala ndi khansara yowonongeka si nthawi yokhalapo. Ngati mukulimbana ndi izi, ganizirani za chitsanzo chomwe mukufuna kusiya kuti okondedwa anu atsatire. Kodi mukufuna kuti anzanu ndi abambo anu atsegule zomwe zili mumtima mwao ndikufotokozera momwe amamvera? Ino ndiyo nthawi yoti muchite chimodzimodzi. Kulimbana ndi khansa yowonongeka kumapweteketsa mtima anthu omwe akufa komanso omwe akutsalira. Koma pamene inu kapena wokondedwa wanu akadakondabe, pakalibe nthawi yodalirika.
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