Ego Wake Ikhoza Kupeza Njira Yothandizira Zabwino
Ambiri aife tinakumana ndi dokotala wodzikuza kapena wodzikuza. Iye amabwera ngati wamphamvu-kuposa iwe, amawoneka ngati wachikulire, wapamwamba kapena wodzitamanda ngati kuti tikuyenera kukhala ndi mwayi wokhalapo pamaso pa munthu uyu, kapena woopa kwambiri kuti sitiyenera kumuoloka.
Pamene sitikumva bwino, ndichifukwa chake tikuyendera munthu uyu, kuyamba pomwe, ndikukumana ndi umunthu waukuluwo kungatipangitse mantha, kukwiya, kukhumudwitsidwa, kapena zowawa zina, palibe zomwe zimathandiza kuti tikhale ndi thanzi labwino.
Chidaliro ndi kudzidalira ndizo zabwino za dokotala. Tikufuna kudziwa kuti madokotala athu ali ndi chidaliro pa ntchito yawo ndipo ali ndi mphamvu zowathandiza kuti atithandize. Koma odwala anzeru amadziwa kuti palibe malo odzikuza, kudzikweza kapena kudzichepetsa kwa akatswiri odzipiritsa odwala. Kulephera kwawo kulemekeza zosoŵa zathu, ndi umunthu wawo wovuta, kudzitetezera mgwirizano umene tikufunikira kuti ukhale nawo, ndipo sitingapeze chisamaliro chomwe tikusowa kwa iwo.
Nawa malingaliro ena omvetsetsa, ndikuchita ndi madokotala ovuta:
Kukula Kwambiri Ndikokuphimba
Akatswiri a zamaganizo adzakuuzani kuti munthu wina amene amadzikuza kapena wapamwamba, amachita zimenezi chifukwa amadzidalira. M'malo moona kuti ndi wamtengo wapatali, m'malo mwake, amamva kuti ndi wotsika. Kotero iye adzagwiritsa ntchito mantha, kapena kuchita chidwi kuti atsimikize kuti kusowa kudzidalira. Mu sukulu, dokotala uyu anali wopondereza. M'madera azachipatala, manthawo amachititsa mawonekedwe odzikuza.
Dokotala uyu wakhala moyo wake wonse ndi umunthu wake ndipo sungathe kusintha. Choncho, zosankha zanu ndizofunika kuphunzira kuti azigwira ntchito kuzungulira kapena kupeza dokotala wina .
Mukudziwa bwanji njira yoti mutenge? Mufuna kuwona kufunika kwa dokotala uyu ku thanzi lanu. Kodi izi zidzakhala ubale wa nthawi yayitali kapena nthawi yayitali?
Kodi dokotala uyu ali ndi chidziwitso kapena maluso apadera omwe ena samatero? Kapena kodi pali madokotala ena omwe alipo kuti akuthandizeni kotero kuti simukuyenera kupirira izi?
Dziwani bwino njira zopezera dokotala watsopano musanawotchedwe Dr. Arrogant. Ngakhale ndikanakonda kukuuzani kuti mupeze dokotala wina, izo zimakhala zosavuta kunena zomwe sizinapangidwe pa chisamaliro chapadera, ndi zina zapadera.
Mmene Tingakhalire Kuchita Ubale ndi Dokotala Wodzikuza Kapena Wogwira Ntchito
Ngati mwasankha kukhala ndi dokotala uyu kapena mukukhulupirira kuti mudzatha kukhazikitsa chibwenzi, pano pali njira zomwe mungachite kuti muchepetse zotsatira za zovuta za umunthu wake:
- Choyamba, kumvetsetsa kuti munthu uyu sangakane kuti ndi wodzikuza, angakane kuti ndi wotsutsa kapena ali wovuta kwambiri. M'choonadi, ali ndi umunthu umenewo chifukwa umagwira zolinga zake; anthu amawopa kwambiri moti samayesa kumudziwa bwino. Iye safuna kukhala wokondwa, wokoma mtima kapena wokoma mtima chifukwa ndiye anthu angadziwe kuti ndi wotsika bwanji.
- Podziwa kuti sakufuna kukhala wochezeka, musayese kumupanga kukhala bwenzi lanu. Cholinga chanu chingokhala kutenga mbali zoopsya kunja kwa ubale kuti mutha kupeza thandizo lomwe mukusowa.
- Dziwani kuti umunthu wake wovuta siwonetseratu mphamvu zake monga dokotala. Angathe, kapena ayi, kukhala dokotala wabwino, wokhoza kukwaniritsa zosowa zanu zachipatala. Angathe kukumana ngati dokotala wabwino / dokotala wa mankhwala / kapena "chinthu china chirichonse" chomwe chiripo, ndipo mwinamwake iye ali. Koma mwinamwake iye sali. Muyenera kugwira ntchito kuti mudziwe ngati angakuthandizeni kwenikweni, kapena kuti kudzikuza kukuphimba zofooka mu luso lake.
- N'zosadabwitsa kuti mwina zingatheke kuti dokotala wodzichepetsawa akugwiritseni ntchito. Ngati muli ndi matenda ovuta kapena zizindikiro zododometsa, ndipo akhoza kukuthandizani kapena kuthetsa chinsinsi chanu, chomwe "chimatsimikizira" kupambana kwake. Kupambana kwake monga dokotala kumamuthandiza kuti asapitirize kudzimva kuti ndi wochepa.
- Kumbukirani kuti kulankhulana pakati pa inu ndi kofunika kwambiri , choncho onetsetsani kuti maganizo ake sakulepheretsani kulankhulana za zofunikira za matenda anu kapena chikhalidwe chanu.
- Dokotala uyu angaganize kuti chilichonse chimene akukuuzani ndi cholondola, kapena yankho labwino kwambiri. Pankhani ya kukhala wodwala wanzeru zomwe zimaphatikizapo kufunsa mafunso abwino, kapena kugawana nzeru zomwe mwaphunzira zokhudza matenda omwe mumapeza kapena mankhwala, dziwani kuti Dr. Arrogant adzakana kukambirana, akhoza kukunyalanyazani kapena kukwiya. Ngati izi zikuchitika, yesetsani kuwonetsa zokambiranazo powauza kuti mumvetsetsa zomwe wakufotokozerani, kuti mukudziwa kuti nonse muli ndi cholinga chomwecho - kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino - komanso kuti apange mphoto nonse mwa inu pofotokozera zambiri zowonjezera. Musati muwopsezedwe chifukwa cha kukambirana! Koma dziwani kuti muyenera kuyandikira munthu wovutikirayo mosiyana ndikuyenda mozungulira.
- Ngati mukumana ndi vuto ndi chithandizo chanu (mwachitsanzo, mankhwala omwe adawalembera sagwira ntchito bwino), onetsetsani kuti mukulongosola vutoli moyenera monga momwe mungathere. Wopseza angayesere kuti aziwoneka ngati kuti ndiwe vuto, wodwalayo. Kumuuza kuti mukukhala ndi vuto kumamveka ngati kuti mukumuimba mlandu, kotero muyenera kuyendetsa m'mphepete mwawo.
Chofunika kwambiri pa ubale ndi dokotala ndikuti muyenera kugwira ntchito mwakhama kuti mutsimikizire kuti mungathe kufunsa mafunso omwe mukufunikira kufunsa, kupeza mayankho omwe mukufunikira kukhala nawo, ndi kusamala ndi ntchito zomwe mukuyenera.
Kafukufuku waposachedwapa awonetsa mgwirizano pakati pa kudzikuza, kunyada, ndi zolakwika zachipatala. Mukakhala bwino kapena mutakhala ndi mphamvu, mungasankhe kuthandizira kuthetsa mitunduyi ya egos ku ntchito ya mankhwala. Ngati ndi choncho, pali malo oti afotokoze khalidwe loipa loperekera ndi cholinga chokhazikitsa khalidweli kapena kuchotsa mankhwalawa kuchokera kuchipatala.
Zolemba:
- > Kuchokera ku Institute for Practiced Practices Practices
- > Kuchokera ku Journal Neurology , nkhani ya Alan H. Rosenstein, MD, MBA ndi Michelle O'Daniel, MHA, MSG