Matenda Osintha Moyo Amakhudza Okondedwa Anu, Nawonso
Kusintha kwakukulu kumachitika m'moyo wa munthu amene ayenera kukhala ndi matenda aakulu, monga nyamakazi. Sizimangokhudza munthu amene ali ndi matenda koma zimakhudza kwambiri anthu omwe ali nawo pafupi , makamaka banja lawo.
Mkwatibwi
Kukhala ndi matenda aakulu a nyamakazi kungakhudze kwambiri ukwati. Kusintha kwa moyo kumakhala kochitika ngati zofooka za thupi zikufala kwambiri.
Monga zoletsedwa zikukhazikitsidwa, ntchito zina zingafunikire kuchepetsedwa. Mwamuna ndi mkazi wake amakhala ndi moyo wabwino pakati pa anthu omwe ali ndi nyamakazi chifukwa sangathe kuchita zambiri. Ngakhale ntchito zowonongeka zingakhale zofunikira kuti zithandize kuchepetsa ululu ndi kutopa wokhala ndi thanzi labwino angakhumudwitse chifukwa moyo wawo waumoyo umakhudzidwa, nawonso.
Chotsatira china chokhala ndi matenda a nyamakazi ndi momwe zimasinthira maudindo a m'banja. Ntchito zapakhomo ndi maudindo angafunike kutumizidwa kwa wachibale wina yemwe angathe kuthana nawo bwino. Izi zingachititse kuti munthu amene akuyenera kukhala ndi udindo komanso munthu amene akuyenera kuvomereza kuti adzidalira kwambiri, akhoza kukhala ndi nkhawa. Udindo wa zachuma ndi malo ena omwe angafunike kusintha ngati wodwala wamagazi wakhala akuthandiza kwambiri m'banja ndipo ngati kusintha kwa ntchito kumakakamizidwa ndi ulema .
Yankho: Kuleza mtima n'kofunika komanso kufunitsitsa kulankhulana momasuka mantha, nkhawa, ndi nkhawa. Kumvetsetsa pakati pa okondedwa kumafunika kukwaniritsa kuti apitirize kugwira ntchito monga gulu.
Ana Aang'ono
Ana aang'ono amadalira kwambiri makolo awo. Pamene kholo lili ndi matenda a nyamakazi, mwanayo amakula akuyandikira matendawa momwe amawonera kholo lawo likuyandikira.
Ngati mwana akuwona kuvomereza, amavomereza kuvomereza. Mbali yovuta kwambiri kwa kholo ndi pamene iwo akuzindikira kuti sangathe kuchita zambiri ndi mwanayo, makamaka mu thupi. Cholinga chanu chiyenera kukhala pazinthu zomwe mungathe kuchita palimodzi. Chiwerengero cha nthawi yogwiritsidwa ntchito limodzi chimakhala chachiwiri ndi nthawi yabwino.
Yankho: Achinyamata sangathe kufunsa mafunso ambiri okhudza matenda a nyamakazi, komabe, athetsere mantha awo. Adziwitseni kuti matenda a nyamakazi si matenda owopsa, ndipo amawafotokozera kumverera kuti chirichonse chikulamulidwa. Aloleni iwo amve kuti ali otetezeka.
Achinyamata
Kuchita ndi achinyamata ndi zosiyana ndi kuchita ndi ana aang'ono. Achinyamata ali okalamba ndipo amatha kuwerenga, kuphunzira, ndi kumvetsa zambiri zovuta. Iwo amakhala ndi mafunso ambiri okhudzana ndi matendawa komanso zomwe zimachitika m'banja. Achinyamata ambiri amakhala akudziimira okha panthawi imene mungawafunire zambiri. Panthawi imene thandizo lawo lingayesedwe ndi ntchito zapakhomo, ali pa siteji pamene akufuna kuchita zochepa. Kusagwirizana kungabwere chifukwa cha izi, koma ngati munthu aliyense wokhudzidwa akudziŵa kuti ndi udindo wochulukirapo umakhala ndi mwayi wapadera, kusagwirizana komweku kungasungidwe.
Yankho: Yankhulani mafunso onse amene achinyamata angayankhe, kuzindikira kuti akufunikira kumvetsa zomwe zikuchitika. Zindikirani zosowa zawo zamaganizo pa nthawi ino m'moyo wawo. Pangani ndikupitiriza kupereka ndikutengera momwe kudalirika kwawo kukudziwikiratu monga kukula ndi kupindula ndi mwayi.
Makolo
Zimakhala zovuta kuti makolo athe kupirira kuti mwana wawo wamwamuna ali ndi matenda. Kuphatikiza pa kukhumudwa chifukwa chodziwikiratu kuti mwana wawo ali ndi vuto, nthawi zambiri kholo limamverera kuti ali ndi udindo. M kholo angaganize kuti iwe walandira kuchokera kwa iwo kapena kuti iwo adayambitsa izo. Pali njira ziwiri zomwe makolo angayankhire pa matendawa.
Makolo amene amasankha kukana vutoli amakhala "osanyalanyaza." Amasonyeza chidwi chochepa, funsani mafunso ochepa komanso ochepa, ndikuchepetsa matendawa. Mosiyana ndi zimenezi, makolo angasankhe kudera nkhaŵa kwambiri. Makolo awa ali ndi udindo waukulu kwa inu ndipo amamva kufunika kowasamalira. Amanyalanyaza mfundo yakuti mungathe kudzisamalira nokha. Iwo amakhala "osuta."
Yankho: Yesani kukambirana za mkangano ndikuwone ngati kumvetsetsa kungapezeke kumene kholo ndi mwana ali nazo zosowa zawo. Ngati makolo sakufuna kusintha maganizo awo, ganizilani kuti mukhale omasuka.
Abale
Mwamuna ndi mzake ali ndi matenda ndipo wina ali ndi thanzi labwino. Mbale amene ali ndi matendawa nthawi zina amachitira nsanje, kaduka, kapena kukwiyira m'bale wake amene adalitsidwa ndi moyo wosavuta. Mchimwene wathanzi akhoza kukhala ndi nsanje nayenso, chifukwa chodziwitsidwa kwambiri chomwe chimaperekedwa kwa mchimwene wosachiritsika. Chifundo kwa achibale osachiritsika akhoza kukhalanso. Mwa kuzindikira kusiyana kwawo koma osamvetsetsa chifukwa chake alili, achibale angafunike kugwirizanitsa maganizo.
Yankho: Aliyense woganizira ayenera kuzindikira kuti zinthu ziri mwanjira inayake, ngakhale zosadziwika. Apanso, kumvetsetsa ndi kulankhulana n'kofunika kwambiri. Abale akuyenera kuvomereza kuti zenizeni ndizolola wina ndi mzake kukwaniritsa zonse zomwe zingatheke.
Chitsime:
Kulimbana ndi Matenda a Matenda a Khunyu, ndi Robert H. Phillips, Ph.D.