Ndimapemphedwa nthawi zambiri momwe ndingayendere "kuyandikira" vuto la kunenepa kwaunyamata . Funso limafunsidwa ndi odwala mu chipatala, pa intaneti, kuchokera ku maikolofoni pamisonkhano ya Q & A pamisonkhano, komanso ngakhale ogwira nawo ntchito zachipatala. Pali chifukwa chabwino chothandizira kumvetsetsa. Pali, ndikuganiza, chinthu china chomwe chimagwirizanitsa ndi mawu akuti "kunenepa kwambiri" poyamba, ngakhale kuti izi zakhala zikudutsa pakapita nthawi ngati kuwonetsetsa nthawi zonse zatifooketsa.
Ndipo chachiwiri, munthu wamkulu wamkulu amadziwa kufooka kwa mwana. Kulimbana ndi vuto lovuta, ndipo malingaliro okhwima angapweteke kwambiri.
Zonse zomwe zingayamikire kuti yankholo ndi losavuta, kapena lodabisa, kapena lovuta. Koma kwenikweni, ndikuganiza sizinthu zapamwambazi. Ndikuganiza kuti ndizowoneka, zosavuta, komanso zophweka monga momwe zingakhalire. Ndikuganiza kuti njira yabwino kwambiri yobweretsera kunenepa kwaunyamata ikhoza kuwonetsedwa ndi mawu amodzi okha. Mawuwo ndi: chikondi.
Kawirikawiri, zomwe zili pano zidzasinthidwa. Ngati mubwerera kuno kawirikawiri, monga ndikuyembekeza kuti mukufuna kudziwa zatsopano komanso zatsopano, mutha kugwiritsidwa ntchito mofanana ndi ma hyperlink omwe amatsogolera ku zolemba zosiyanasiyana, mapepala ochita kafukufuku woonerera anzawo. Koma izi ndizosiyana pambali. Pali zofunikira zokhudzana ndi mabuku, koma ndikuvomereza izi ndizochokera mumtima. Izi ziri ndi zambiri zokhudzana ndi kukhala kholo monga dokotala, ndi zambiri zokhudzana ndi zaka 25 zogwirizana ndi anthu enieni m'makliniki anga kusiyana ndi kuwerenga kafukufuku wokhudza anthu omwe sindinakumane nawo.
Kuteteza Ana Anu Kuchokera Pangozi
Chikondi ndi njira yolondola.
Makolo a ana ang'onoang'ono amadziwika kuti sakudziwa kwenikweni kulemera kwa ana awo. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa kuvomereza "kunenepa" mwa mwana kumaganiziridwa ngati choipa kwa onse okhudzidwa: kubadwa kwa kholo, thupi la mwana. Koma kunyalanyaza vuto sikulikonze, ndipo osadetsedwa, kunenepa kwambiri kuyambira ali mwana kumasonyeza moyo wochepa: zaka zochepa za moyo, osakhala moyo zaka zambiri.
Palibe kholo lokonda. Choncho chifukwa chozindikiritsira ndi kuchitapo kanthu kunenepa ndiko: chikondi.
Palibe chopweteka chomwe chimagwirizanitsidwa ndi kuteteza anthu omwe timawakonda ku chirichonse chomwe chingakhoze kuwavulaza. Palibe manyazi, kulakwitsa, kulakwa, kapena chiweruzo chomwe chimaphatikizapo kuteteza ana athu kuopseza. Fufuzani, ndipo muchitapo kanthu kumayambiriro oyambirira a ubwana wambiri kunenepa chifukwa chazomwe mulibe kanthu kochita ndi kunyada, kapena manyazi, kapena thupi la thupi; kupambana, kapena kulephera. Ikani zonsezi ndi chikondi. Ngati mumakonda ana anu, chitani zonse zomwe mungathe kuti muwateteze. Ife monga makolo (kapena agogo) sitikuimba mlandu kuti tikukhala m'dziko loopsya limene lingapeze ana athu, olemera kwambiri ndi sequelae pakati pawo. Koma ife nthawizonse timakhala ndi udindo, ndi chikondi monga cholinga chathu, pochita zonse zomwe tingathe kuti tipewe.
Mmene Mungayendere pa Nkhaniyi
Mofananamo, makolo a ana okalamba mwachiwonekere amawoneka molakwika za kulemera kwa ana awo, monga anawo enieni. Kachiwiri, izi ndi chifukwa kulemera kumaphatikizapo ndi kulingalira za kupambana ndi kulephera, kunyada kapena manyazi. Makolo sakudziwa kukambirana nkhaniyi ndi ana awo achikulire, ngakhale akuluakulu. Agogo aamuna samadziwa kukambirana nkhaniyi ndi ana awo, kukambirana ndi zidzukulu zawo.
Makolo sakudziwa momwe angamuuze agogo kuti asiye kudya zakudya zopanda thanzi.
Chikondi ndi yankho nthawi zonse. Mbale wachikondi anganene kwa mwana wa msinkhu uliwonse: "Ndimakukondani, ndipo ndikudandaula kuti kulemera kwanu kungakhudze thanzi lanu. Ndikufuna kuti mukhale ndiutali kwambiri, moyo wabwino kwambiri chifukwa ndikukukondani. Ndingathandize bwanji? "
Mayi aliyense anganene kwa agogo ake onse kuti: "Ndimadziwa kuti mumakonda zidzukulu zanu, ndipo ndikudziwa kuti kuchita zimenezi kungaoneke ngati njira yabwino yosonyezera. Koma mphatso yabwino kwambiri yomwe tingathe kupitako ndizo thanzi labwino ndi mphamvu; anthu wathanzi amasangalala kwambiri! Chonde tithandizeni kuti tipatse mwana amene timamukonda motalika kwambiri, moyo wabwino kwambiri. "
Ndipo chifukwa chake, dokotala aliyense akhoza kunena kwa wodwala aliyense kuti: "Ntchito yanga ndikuteteza thanzi lanu momwe ndingathere. Ndikuda nkhawa kuti kulemera kwanu kukuwopsyeza thanzi lanu, choncho ndikufuna kukambirana nanu ndikukambirana momwe tingachitire limodzi. Kodi izi ndi zabwino? "Ngati mufunsa funso ili ndikutanthauza: Sindinayambe ndakomana ndi wodwalayo amene anganene kuti" ayi. "
Kugwira Ntchito Pamodzi Kuti Ukhale ndi Thanzi
Pomaliza, tonse timadziwa malingaliro: mu umodzi, pali mphamvu. Imodzi mwazinthu zowonongeka kwambiri pa kuthetsa kunenepa kwambiri ndi kudzipatula tokha, ndi wina ndi mnzake. Akuluakulu amapita ku "zakudya" ndikusiya ana awo kumbuyo. Makolo akufuna malangizo kuti athetse kunenepa kwa mwana, mmalo mozindikira kuti mabanja ambiri amapeza thanzi (ndi / kapena kutaya thupi) bwino kwambiri. Banja likugwirira ntchito limodzi kuti likhale labwino kwa nthawi yayitali limapewa manyazi ndi manyazi a mwana mmodzi yekha "akuchiritsidwa" chifukwa cha kunenepa kwambiri. Kudya bwino ndi kukhala wokonzeka ndibwino kwa onse okhudzidwa, kaya pali kusowa kolemetsa, kapena ayi. Yesetsani kukhala wathanzi monga banja, chifukwa palibe mwana ali chilumba. Chifukwa mu umodzi, pali mphamvu. Chifukwa mumakondana.
Mawu otetezera amodzi amatsutsa ndi kulakwa; kunyada ndi kupweteka; chiweruzo ndi kudzipatula, ndi chikondi. Ngati chikondi chimatilimbikitsa ndikudziwitsa njira zathu, sitingathe kupita molakwika kwambiri.