Makhalidwe Othandiza Kuswa
Ngati wokondedwa wanu ali ndi matenda a Alzheimer's or dementia, mumadzidzimutsa madalitso ndi mavuto a kukhala wosamalira. Koma kuti mupereke chisamaliro chabwino koposa, nthawi zina ndi bwino kupatula nthawi yoti muime ndikuyang'ana zomwe muyenera kuchita komanso musamachite. Kodi mumadziona nokha ndi zizoloŵezi zilizonsezi?
- Lekani kuika zoyembekeza zosatheka. Kaya akuyesera kutuluka mnyumbamo nthawi, kukumbukira komwe wokondedwa wanu amamuika magalasi ake kapena kutsatira njira zingapo, yesetsani zomwe mukuyembekezera kuti wokondedwa wanu achite. Lekani kuyembekezera kuti athe kuchita zonse monga momwe ankachitira, nthawi zonse. Pakati pa lingaliro lomwelo (ndipo nthawizina limakhala zovuta kwambiri): Dziwani zomwe mumadzifunira nokha.
- Lekani kupeŵa mafunso ovuta. Nthawi zina, ndi zosavuta kumapeto kuti asadziwe mayankho a mafunso ovuta. Koma pamene tikupitiriza kuyenda, kuyang'ana pang'ono kungathandize kwambiri. Matenda a Alzheimer's disease; kukonzekera kutsogolo kungathandize. Nazi malo ochepa omwe amanyalanyaza koma ayenera kuwongolera:
- Ngati muwona zizindikiro za Alzheimer's kapena dementia wina mwa wokondedwa wanu, musanyalanyaze kusintha kumeneku. Kuwombera mutu wanu mumchenga sikusintha, ndipo kusamalira mankhwala a Alzheimers kungayambitse matendawa mofulumira.
- Phunzirani zomwe mungathe pa matenda a Alzheimer ndi zomwe mungayembekezere.
- Lankhulani ndi wokondedwa wanu zomwe akufuna m'tsogolomu. Zingakhale zosavuta kukambirana zinthu izi, koma mudzatha kukhala ndi chidaliro pazochita zanu, podziwa kuti mukuchita chimene akufuna kuti muchite. Zokambiranazi ziyenera kuphatikizapo zosankha zothandizira kuti matenda ake apitirire, mphamvu ya oimira milandu, ndi moyo-zomwe akufuna.
- Lekani kuganiza kuti palibe amene amamvetsa. Kodi nthawi zina mumalakalaka kukambirana ndi munthu yemwe ali pakati pa mitunda? Osakayikira. Koma ngati munthu ameneyo sapezeka mosavuta kapena ali wotanganidwa kwambiri pokhala muzitsulo zomwe zimakhala zovuta kulumikizana, perekani wina kuyesera. Ngakhale kuti sangathe kumvetsetsa kuchokera kumudzi komwe mukuchokera, angakhale olemekezeka kumvetsera. Musanyengere wina mwa mwayi wokhala bwenzi lanu chifukwa chakuti mwaganiza kuti sangamvetse mavuto omwe mukukumana nawo.
- Lekani kuyesera kuchita izo zokha. Ife tonse tamva ichi, chabwino? Ndipo komabe pazifukwa zina, ndizovuta kuchita. Pano pali zifukwa zochepa zomwe timagwira mu "I-zitha-ndi-ndekha" momwemo ndikukaniza thandizo:
- Ena mwina sangakhalepo kapena akufuna kukuthandizani. Koma kumbukirani: Pali njira zomwe mungasamalire kunyumba, zomwe mungaganizire, komanso magulu othandizira komanso magulu a anthu omwe ali ndi Alzheimer's.
- Mwinamwake mumakonda kukhala wodalirika. Izi ndi zabwino, koma kamodzi kanthawi mumayenera kusiya zinthu kuti mupitirizebe kugwira bwino ntchito pamoyo wanu. Taganizirani izi mankhwala othandiza; Konzani thandizo lina kamodzi.
- Mwina munapanga lonjezo losamalira wokondedwa wanu. Kumbukirani kuti lonjezoli silinakufunseni kuchita izo solo. Mungathe kusunga lonjezanoli ndikuthandizani pang'ono.
- Lekani kukhala ndi chilango chodziimba mlandu. Iwe wakhalapo uko, kulondola? Malingaliro akuti "Ndili ndi ngongole" kapena "Nthawi yotsiriza yomwe ndimagwiritsa ntchito chithandizo, wothandizira anali woopsa" kapena "Ndi ntchito yanga, komanso pambali pake, iye anandiuza zambiri." Kulakwitsa kwathu ndi udindo wathu zingatigwire. Zindikirani kuti ndizotheka kulemekeza ndi kukonda wina ndipo, panthawi imodzimodzi, pikani nthawi. Ndipo mwa "nthawi kutali" ine ndimatanthawuza onse kutali ndi thupi ndi maganizo ndi kulekanitsidwa. Sizolandiridwa kuti muchite izi, ndizoluntha. Sizitanthauza kuti mumasamalira wokondedwa wanu.
- Lekani kuganiza kuti wokondedwa wanu sangathe kutenga nawo mbali pazochita zilizonse. Zingakhale zosavuta kuiwala kufunsa bambo anu za maganizo ake kapena zomwe amakonda. Koma kawirikawiri, munthu amene ali ndi matenda a 'dementia' angakhalebe wokhoza kufotokoza maganizo ake ndipo amalemekezedwa ndi kutsimikiziridwa mukapempha. Ngakhale kukumbukira kwake sikungakhale kopambana, akhoza kukuuzani zomwe akuchita komanso sakufuna kapena maganizo ake pankhani ya chithandizo. Nthawi iliyonse yotheka, yikani wokondedwa wanu pakasankha kapena kusankha.
- Lekani kunyalanyaza nkhawa zanu. Kodi kupanikizika kwa magazi kwanu kulipo kapena maganizo anu akuvutika maganizo? Kodi mwakhala mukulandira kulandila kwa dokotala wanu zosakondweretsa kuona kapena kudandaula? Ndikudziwa kuti kupereka nsembe kumakhalapo pamene mumasankha zofunikira. Koma ngati ndi thanzi lanu mukulekerera, imani ndikuganiza miniti. Ngati mumanyalanyaza thanzi lanu ndipo pamapeto pake simungathe kukhala wothandizira kapena kukhala pafupi ndi wokondedwa wanu, simunamuthandize aliyense kusankha.
- Lekani kunyalanyaza banja lanu. Kodi ana anu akuyendayenda mofanana ndi khalidwe la ana la ana omwe amafunsa, "Kodi ndinu amayi anga?" Musati muwononge banja limodzi kuti muyesere kusunga chosiyana. Ngati muli m'badwo wa sandwich, kumene mukusamalira makolo anu onse ndi ana anu, khalani ndi cholinga mwadongosolo lanu la nthawi yomwe mumapereka kwa aliyense.
- Lekani kukhulupirira wokondedwa wanu akusankha momwe amachitira kapena zomwe amaiwala. Kodi munayamba mwamvapo kuti mwadzidzidzi anaponyera mwakachetechete kuti mutha kuchedwa ndi dokotala? Kodi mwakhumudwa chifukwa mumamva kuti amakumbukira zinthu zina zomwe ziri zofunika kwa iye ndipo amakumbukiranso zinthu zina, monga zinthu zomwe zikukukhudzani? Yesetsani kuyang'ana nkhani izi chifukwa cha matendawa, m'malo mochita kusankha mwadala mwapadera kuti mukhumudwitse kapena kukupwetekani. Izi zidzakuthandizani kupirira bwino kwambiri ndi matenda a maganizo. Ndangoyankhula kumene ndi munthu yemwe ananena mobwerezabwereza kuti mkazi wake akusankha kukhala wovuta. Izi zinawonjezera kukhumudwa kwake chifukwa zinamveka ngati iye akuchita mwanjira imeneyi mwadala. Pamene adayamba kunena kuti anali ndi makhalidwe oipa , matenda ake adachepa ndipo adatha kupirira .
- Lekani kudzipereka nokha ndikuyendetsa zopanda kanthu. Yerekezerani izi: Mukugwira ndodo zingapo zosiyana ndi mbale zomwe zimayendayenda payekha, ndipo nthawi zonse mukuyesera kusunga mbale yonseyo kuti isagwe. Kodi ndiwe spinner apa, kuyesera kusunga thanzi lanu, ntchito, makolo, ana, ukwati kapena maubwenzi ena-nthawi zonse kusamalira wokondedwa wanu? Pomalizira pake, mbale idzawonongeka. Sankhani izi zisanachitike zomwe mungathe kuchotsa mbale yanu (kapena kuti pulogalamu yani kuti musiye kuyendayenda) mmalo mokhala ndi chiganizo chanu pamene wina akugwa. Nthawi zina zimakhala ngati palibe chosankha pano. Koma ngakhale mu zovuta kwambiri, nthawi zambiri mumatha kusiya chinachake. Chimene ndakhala ndikuwona nthawi zambiri ndi kukwapula kwa mbale yomwe wina amafuna kwambiri kuti ayambe kupota koma sakanatha chifukwa sakanatha kuchita zonsezo. Khalani ndi zolinga komanso mwachangu ndi komwe mumapatsa nthawi yanu ndi mphamvu zanu. Kukhalabe ndi moyo wabwino kumapindulitsa aliyense wogwira nawo ntchito, komanso kuti wokondedwa wanu ndi Alzheimer akufuna kuti inu muchite.