Moyo umabweretsa mavuto. Ngati inu kapena wokondedwa wanu mwapezekapo ndi matenda otsiriza kapena a moyo, matenda aakulu, zingakhale zovuta pamoyo wanu. Kumva mawu akuti "khansa" kapena "Alzheimer's" kapena "matenda a shuga" kapena "Parkinson" kapena "matenda a mtima" zikutanthauza kuti simunangokhalira kuthana ndi thupi, koma ndikumva ululu wamaganizo komanso wamtima.
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Ndondomeko Zothetsera Mavuto Ovuta KwambiriZolakwika zachipatala ndi zolakwika mu chisamaliro chaumoyo zimapangitsa mamiliyoni ambiri omwe amazunzidwa atsopano chaka chilichonse. Anthu amalephera kufooka kwa nthawi yochepa kapena moyo wonse. Mazana a zikwi akufa . Kwa iwo amene adwala zolakwa zachipatala, kapena omwe omwe okondedwa awo amazunzidwa chifukwa cha kulakwitsa, zotsatira zikhoza kukhala kusintha kwa moyo. Iwo ndi masoka, nawonso.
Mmene timapiririra zovuta zathu, ndi zotsatira zake pa moyo wathu wonse, zimatanthauzira momwe timakhalira miyoyo yathu kuyambira nthawi imeneyo. Zotsatira zake zingakhale zogwirizana ndi thupi, maganizo, ndi maganizo.
Nthawi zina njira yowadutsa ili bwino. Mwachitsanzo, antibiotic ikhoza kupha matenda opatsirana ndi chipatala . Nthawi zina, iwo sakhala omveka bwino chifukwa cha zizindikiro zosadziwika. Muzochitika zonse, padzakhala zotsatira zamaganizo ndi zamalingaliro zomwe tiyenera kuthana nazo kwa ife eni ndi okondedwa athu, nawonso.
Enafe timadabwa ngati ndife achibadwa. Kulimbana kumakhala chinthu chomwe sichikutheka kwa ena, ndi chiyeso kwa ena. Ngati mwapezeka kuti muli ndi matenda othetsera matenda, kapena ngati moyo wanu wawonongedwa ndi vuto lachipatala, mungatani kuti musadwale nkhawa ndi chisoni? Ndipo mukuyenera kupirira motani?
Mwina mungadabwe kumva kuti pali zitsanzo zomwe zingakuthandizeni kumvetsetsa ndi kudutsa njira yakulira, ndikuyika siteji kuti ikuthandizeni kuyamba kuthana nawo.
Makhalidwe Asanu A Chisoni Kuchokera kwa Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
Gawo lachisanu la chisoni linapangidwa ndikufotokozedwa ndi Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross mu 1969 m'buku lake, On Death and Dying . Zigawo zimenezo ndi kukana, kukwiya, kugonana, kukhumudwa, ndi kuvomereza. Iwo amatchedwa Kubler-Ross Model ndipo nthawi zina amatchedwa DABDA .
Tisanayang'ane chitsanzo, tiwona "malamulo" omwe amapita nawo limodzi kuti mutha kumvetsa siteji iliyonse, mutha kudziwa momwe mulili ndi zomwe mukuyenera kuyang'ana kutsogolo ngati muli ndi vuto kapena vuto lovuta kulimbana nalo.
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Malamulo Otsogolera Pamayendedwe A Chisoni ndi Kusintha KwakeNazi malamulo omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito ku Kubler-Ross Mavuto Akumva. Mukamvetsetsa malamulo awo, mumvetsetsa bwino momwe mungakhalire panopa, ndipo muyenela kusintha njira ziti.
Mutu # 1: Iwo Angagwiritsidwe Ntchito pa Chilichonse Chimene Chimakupwetetsani Chisoni
Mwinamwake izi zidzakhala zozizwitsa zanu zoipa, kapena mwinamwake inu munagwidwa ndi vuto lachipatala. Kapena, mwina mwatayika mkazi wanu, kapena galu wanu wamwalira. Ngakhale pamene mnzanuyo akuphwanyani ndi inu kapena nyumba yanu yawonongedwa ndi amayi - chikhalidwe chimene chimakupwetekani chidzachititsa kuti Kubler-Ross Model ikugwiritseni ntchito.
Lamulo # 2: Mayendedwe May, kapena May Not, Be Chronological
Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukumva zolakwa zachipatala, mukhoza kuyamba kukwiyira, musanayambe kukumana nazo. Malinga ndi chitsanzo cha Kubler-Ross, sikuti dongosolo lachisoni limatenga nthawi zambiri, koma izi zikhoza kukhala zochitika zanu.
Chigamulo # 3: Simungathe Kukhala ndi Makhalidwe Onse
Mungavomereze mkhalidwe wanu watsopano ndikupitirizabe popanda kupsinjika mtima, kapena mutha kumasulidwa mukapeza kuti muli ndi chinachake ndipo simukukana kuti mukudwala kwenikweni. Zowonjezereka, mutha kusintha mwazo zonsezi, koma simungadziwe kuti ndizo zomwe mukuchita.
Chigamulo chachinayi: Mungathe Kukhulupirira Zitsanzo Zina
Makamaka ngati matenda aakulu akudwala, mukhoza kupitiriza kubwerera ku bargaining nthawi iliyonse mukasonyeza zizindikiro zatsopano kapena kuvutika.
Lamulo # 5: Mutha Kutsika Panyumba Imodzi
Chitsanzo chabwino ndi munthu yemwe wataya wokondedwa wake kulakwitsa kosalekeza yemwe samapyola mkwiyo. Kapena munthu amene akuvutika maganizo chifukwa cha imfa ya wokondedwa wake ndipo amakhalabe akuvutika maganizo kwa zaka zambiri zikubwera.
Lamulo # 6: Palibe Anthu Awiri Amene Akugwira Ntchito Ndi Njira Zomwezo Kapena Panthawi Yofanana
Ngati wokondedwa wanu atapezeka kuti ali ndi matenda othetsera matenda, adzalowera muzigawo izi, koma osati zofanana ndi momwe mukufunira. Ngati mwataya mwana ku zolakwika zachipatala, mukhoza kukhalabe muyeso imodzi pamene kholo lina la mwana likupitirizabe kuyenda.
Kusiyana kosiyana kwa kusintha sikukutanthauza munthu mmodzi akulira mochuluka. Iwo ali, mophweka, kusintha kwa mitundu yosiyanasiyana, monga munthu ngati iwo omwe amavutika.
Tsopano kuti mukumvetsetsa momwe malamulowa amagwiritsira ntchito pazigawo, tiyeni tiyang'ane pa masitepe a chisoni (omwe amatchedwanso magawo a Imfa ndi Kufa kapena Masitepe a Kutaya.)
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Miyendo 1, 2 ndi 3Gawo Loyamba la Chisoni: Kutaya
Tikayamba kuwonongeka, tikhoza kukhumudwa komanso kukhumudwa. Timayika maganizo athu ndi maganizo athu pa alumali, ndipo timangoyamba kudutsa mu moyo. Timadziwa bwino kuti tili ndi zambiri zoti tiphunzire, ndi zosankha zoti tichite, ndizochita, koma, poyamba, timayesa kuoneka ngati palibe chomwe chatsintha ndipo moyo sungakhudzidwe.
Kawirikawiri, simungayambe kusunthira ku magawo otsatirawa mpaka mutayamba kudutsa gawo lokana.
Gawo Lachiwiri la Chisoni: Mkwiyo
Khulupirirani kapena ayi, ngati mutapsa mtima, ndiye kuti mwadutsa kale gawo limodzi (kukana) chifukwa simungathe kukwiya ngati simunadzivomereze kuti chinachake choipa chachitika. Mkwiyo wanu ukhoza kukhala wochenjera, kapena mwina sungadziwe.
Mkwiyo udzatulutsanso zoipa zake, koma mutu wofunikira m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Mwina mungadzikwiyire nokha (sindiyenera kudya nyama yofiira kapena kupatsa shuga!). Mutha kukhala wamisala kwa wolakwira zolakwa zanu zachipatala (ngati dokotalayo anali atasamala kwambiri, mkazi wanga sakanamwalira!). Mutha kukhala wokwiyitsa amayi anu chifukwa chochotsa chinthu chofunika kwambiri kwa inu. Mwinanso mukhoza kukhala wamisala kwa Mulungu chifukwa simungadziwe kuti Mulungu wachikondi angalole vuto loterolo.
Kupeza mkwiyo ndi njira imodzi yomwe timapiririra. Makamaka ngati tingathe kufotokozera kuti ndani kapena zomwe tikukwiyira mkwiyo wathu, zimatipangitsa kuti tiwonekere. Pamene tikhoza kulakwa, ndiye kuti tili ndi kanthu kena komwe tingachite ndi mkwiyo.
Pakati pa iwo amene adwala zolakwa zachipatala, mkwiyo umenewo ndi malo omwe amalephera kumakhala nawo. Apa ndi pamene anthu ambiri amayamba kuphunzira za kulimbikitsa odwala . Ndizonso anthu ambiri amasankha kuyika milandu yolakwika .
Gawo Lachitatu la Chisoni: Kukambirana
Iyi ndi sitepe "ngati" yomwe idzayendetsedwa kwa ife eni, kapena kwa munthu amene timaganiza kuti akhoza kuthandizira. Ndi malo omwe timayesayesa kuyembekezera kuti tipewe mavuto, pamene tikufuna kugulitsa malingaliro athu pazinthu zina ndipo tingathe kulonjeza kuti sichidzachitikanso. Iyi ndi siteji kuti omwe akuvutika amatha kulowa, kapena kubwereza mobwerezabwereza.
"Zikanakhala kuti sindinachite zakuti-ndi-zakuti" kapena "ndikulonjeza kuti sindidzachitanso X."
Kuyankhulana ndi malo omwe anthu ambiri amagwiritsa ntchito pemphero, kuyembekezera kuti aliyense yemwe ali Mulungu wawo adzawathandiza pazochitika zawo, akulonjeza kwa Mulungu wawo kuti ngati vutoli liyanjanitsidwa, iwo adzachita zabwino pobwezera.
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Miyendo 4 ndi 5Tsopano mwadutsa magawo atatu oyambirira achisoni (ngakhale kuti simungadutse mwadongosolo), tikupita ku magawo awiri omaliza.
Gawo Lachinayi la Chisoni: Kupanikizika
Khulupirirani kapena ayi, kufika pamapeto a kuvutika maganizo kungasonyeze kuti mukulimbana ndi chisoni chanu - zotsatira zabwino. Mukakhumudwa chifukwa cha vuto lanu kapena kutayika kwanu, zimasonyeza kuti muli pachigawo choyambirira kwambiri cha kuvomereza izo komanso kuti mwatsala pang'ono kuthana nayo. Mumamva kuti mulibe chiyembekezo, chisoni, mantha, chisoni komanso kusadziwika, koma mukudandauliridwabe. Maganizowa adakali ovuta kwambiri komanso ovuta kwambiri.
Koma mwa njira, ndi uthenga wabwino kuti muli pa malo ovutika maganizo. Kukwanitsa kukumana ndi malingaliro amenewo pamene mukuchita ndi vuto lanu kungatanthauze kuti mukukonzekera nokha pa gawo lomaliza - kuvomereza. Zingakhale zovuta kukhulupirira, koma kuchita izi ndi chizindikiro chodalira kuti nthawi zina, mutha kudutsa chisoni chanu.
Chachisanu Chigawo Chachisoni: Kulandiridwa
Choyamba, dziwani kuti kuvomereza mwanjira iliyonse kumatanthauza kuti zovuta zilizonse kapena zoopsa zomwe mwachita nazo zinali zabwino kapena kuti zinali zolondola. Zimangotanthauza kuti mwakonzeka kusunthira - kuti muthane ndi zochitika zanu. Ndi njira yotulutsira kuchokera kumverera, ndi chitukuko cha "nthawi yoti mupitirize nayo" malingaliro. Ndi malo omwe mumadziwa kuti mukukumana nawo.
Kulandiridwa ndi kupambana. Zimatimasula ife ku nsonga za mkwiyo ndi kulakwa, kapena kufooketsa nthawi zonse kuchokera ku kupsinjika maganizo. Izo zimatilola ife kugwiritsa ntchito mwayi wa siliva linings, nawonso. Kwa iwo omwe ali ndi mwayi wokhala ndi moyo wopweteka chifukwa cha zolakwa zachipatala, zimatithandiza kuti tiwongolenso miyoyo yathu, kuyang'ana pa ubale wathu wofunika kwambiri ndi kufotokozera zomwe zimapangitsa kukhala moyo wabwino. Kwa omwe akudwala matendawa, amawathandiza kupeza chimwemwe panthawi yomwe achoka.
Tikamvetsetsa magawo achisoni komanso momwe amachitira ndi moyo wathu, timamvetsa kuti ziribe kanthu momwe timakhudzidwa ndi zoopsa kapena kutayika, timachita mwachizolowezi, komanso kuti pangakhale njira zina Tidzakambiranapo nthawi ina mtsogolo zomwe zidzatipangitsa kukhala ndi moyo wabwino.
Mutu: Chachisanu Ndi chimodzi Chakumva Chisoni
Gawo lachisanu ndi chimodzi lachisoni ndilo gawo lomasula kwambiri ndipo limapezeka kwa anthu omwe amayamba kutenga zomwe akumana nazo ndikupanga chinthu chabwino kwa ena. Icho chimatchedwa "kupulumutsidwa mwakhama." Izo sizinazindikiridwe ndi Kubler-Ross, koma zikhoza kukhala machiritso kwambiri a magawo onse a chisoni.