Lero, mwamuna wanga ankakonda kucheza ndi mnzanga yemwe amadziwa mwana wathu Tom. Tom ali ndi zaka 14, ali ndipamwamba kugwira ntchito autism ; Iye amalankhula, wokondweretsa, koma momveka bwino "osiyana." Wodziwikayo anali atamva za malo okhala pafupi ndi akuluakulu a autism, ndipo anandiuza mwamuna wanga. Lingaliro lake linali kuti lingakhale njira yabwino kwa mwana wathu nthawi ina mtsogolo.
Mwamuna wanga amamuyamikira, koma amuuzeni kuti cholinga chathu kukhala ndi mwana wathu amakhala ndi ife, makamaka pa tsogolo lapadera (pokhapokha atadzuka kupita ku koleji kapena kupanga zina za maphunziro kapena ntchito zomwe zimamuchotsa kunja ). Ngati zikuwoneka ngati zomveka, tikhoza kumuthandiza kupeza nyumba kapena zochitika zina pafupi, ndi kupereka zothandizira pamene akufunikira.
Lingaliro ili linkawoneka lodabwitsa kwa anzathu. Koma tili ndi zifukwa zingapo za momwe timaganizira.
Choyamba, zimawoneka zachilengedwe ndi zachibadwa kukhala ndi mamembala a mibadwo yosiyana akukhala m'banja limodzi. Ndipotu, lingaliro lakuti munthu mmodzi angapite yekha kuti apange nyumba yokha, kusamalira mbali zonse za moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, ndizo zamakono (ndipo, mwa lingaliro langa, osati zofunika kwenikweni). Pambuyo pa nkhondo yachiwiri yapadziko lonse, sizinali zachilendo - ngakhale lero, ndi ntchito zovuta kwambiri, ana ambiri akuluakulu akupitirizabe kukhala ndi makolo awo mpaka zaka makumi awiri ndi kupitirira.
Anthu ambiri, autistic kapena " neurotypical ," amapeza nkhawa ya moyo yekha, ali ndi udindo wokha, kugula, kuphika, kuyeretsa, ngongole, kukonzanso kunyumba, kukonzetsa galimoto, kugwirizanitsa anthu, kukonza maulendo ndi zina, kukhala opambana. Kodi kukopa kwakukulu ndi chiyani?
Chachiwiri, ngakhale pali khalidwe lapamwamba, zosankha zothandizira akuluakulu ndi autism , ndizochepa ndipo ndizochepa.
Palibe chabwino pambali pangodya kuchokera kwa ife. Ndipo ngakhale zinthu zabwino zingasinthe pakapita nthawi, antchito akutembenuka ndipo anthu amabwera ndikupita. Panthawi imene mwana wathu ali ndi zaka za m'ma 20, padzakhalanso zosankha zambiri; pakuti tsopano, komabe, lingaliro lapakhomo la gulu kapena zochitika zofananamo ndizochepa nkhaŵa zopweteka.
Chachitatu, tagwira ntchito mwakhama (ndipo tidzapitirizabe kugwira ntchito mwakhama) kuthandiza mwana wathu kugwirizana ndi dera lawo. Tikukhala m'tawuni yaing'ono, ndipo patatha zaka zitatu amadziwa ndipo amadziwika bwino ndi anthu ambiri omwe amakambirana nawo nthawi zonse. Olembera, odikira, ngakhale anthu omwe ali pa bowling amadziwa dzina lake, amamvetsa kusiyana kwake, ndipo adaphunzira kulankhula naye momasuka.
Chachinai, Tom adayamba kupeza malo amalemekezedwe m'dera lino, makamaka chifukwa cha luso lake loimba. Iye amadziwika kale chifukwa cha mphamvu yake monga clarinetist wa jazz, ndipo iye akusewera ndi gulu la tawuni posachedwa. Izi zikuchitika osati chifukwa Tom ndi khalidwe labwino, koma chifukwa luso lake ndi maluso athu ochezera amachepetsa kuti athe kukomana, kuyanjana ndi kudziwa ena mwa oimba nyimbo kumudzi kwathu. Ngati atachoka m'tawuni yathu, zonsezi zimagwirizana - ndipo ulemu umene wapatsidwa - umatha.
Chachisanu, timakonda kucheza ndi mwana wathu wamwamuna. Tili ndi malo ambiri, ndipo sitikukonzekera. Amachita ntchito yabwino yosamba ndi kupukuta zovala, kudyetsa zinyama, ndi kudzidzimangira yekha ndi kuthandiza pakhomo. Kodi wina aliyense wa ife angapeze chiyani mwa kukhala kumudzi wina ndi anthu omwe sanakumane nawo?
Pomalizira, timafuna kuti mwana wathu akhale ndi nyumba komwe akumva bwino komanso komwe amadziwika komanso wokondedwa. Lero, iye ali nafe. M'tsogolomu, angapeze bwenzi lomanga nalo banja, anzake, kapena malangizo ena. Ngati sichoncho, patapita nthaŵi, tidzadziwa kuti ali ndi nyumba m'dera lomwe amakhalamo kwa moyo wake wonse.
Ngati akusowa, tingathe kukhazikitsa chithandizo chaumwini ndi zachuma tikatha. Ngati sakusowa - chabwino, palibe chomwe chataya.
Inde, si mabanja onse omwe ali ndi autistic omwe ali ndi ndalama kapena ndalama kuti mwana wawo azikhala nawo - kapena pa nickel - kosatha. Ndipo makonzedwe oterewa ndi ophweka kwambiri ndi munthu wodalirika kwambiri kuposa munthu wamkulu wamkulu yemwe amafunikira kusamaliridwa nthawi zonse. Komanso, ambiri achikulire omwe ali ndi autism angakonde kukhala kunja kwa makolo awo (ndipo mwana wathu angathe, akhale mmodzi wa iwo).
Kodi maganizo anu ali pati pa funso ili? Kodi mukuganiza kuti tsogolo lanu lidzasintha? Kagulu ka gulu? Kapena muli ndi ndondomeko yosiyana yambiri?
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