Pali zochita zothandiza ndi zachikondi zimene mungachite kuti muthandize mnzanu wakufa kapena wokondedwa wanu. Kuphunzira momwe mungamuthandizire wokondedwa wanu ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yomwe mungathere pavuto lovuta kwambiri, losasangalatsa, kapena lopweteka. Koma kuwonjezera pakuchita zinthu zothandiza, palinso zinthu zomwe simuyenera kuchita. Phunzirani momwe mungapewere zolakwa zomwe mumakhala nazo pamene mukuyenda ulendo wovuta wa mapeto a moyo ndi zoperekera zisanu.
Musamangodandaula Kwambiri Kapena Chiyembekezo
Mukufuna kusonyeza wokondedwa wanu nkhawa - kuti mumasamala zomwe zikuchitika kwa iwo ndipo mukuda nkhaŵa za moyo wawo. Komabe, muyenera kupewa kupewa nkhawa kapena kudandaula kwambiri. Peŵani kunena zinthu monga "Tidzachita chiyani," "Mukutanthauza kuti simudzakhala bwino," ndi "Kondwerani miniti iliyonse tsopano chifukwa zongowonjezereka kuchokera pano." Ngati awa akunena kuti ndi openga kwa inu, iwo sali okondedwa kwambiri. Ndamva anthu ammabanja omwe akufuna kutchula zabwino.
Musanyoze Mmene Munthuyo Akuyankhira Matenda Awo
Mnzanuyo sangakhale ndi zomwe mukuyembekezera ku matenda ake. Mutha kuyembekezera kuti akumva wokwiya , wokonzekera kumenya nkhondo, kapena kuti akukumana ndi matenda ake molimba mtima ndi mphamvu. Ngati zomwe anachitazo n'zosiyana ndi zomwe munkayembekezera, mungayesedwe kuti muzitsutsa kapena mumutsutse. M'malo mwake, yesetsani kuthandizira kulikonse komwe akukumana nawo ndikumverera kulikonse komwe akumva.
Ngati akumva kuti akukuthandizani, adzakhala wokonzeka kutsegulira ndi kufotokoza zakukhosi kwake.
Musachepetse Zotsatira za Matenda
Zingamveke zothandiza kunena zinthu monga "Musalole kuti khansa ikumenyeni!" Kapena "Muyenera kukhala achangu. Pitirizani kusuntha! "Pamene wokondedwa wanu akumva kufooka kwa matenda .
Kulankhula zinthu ngati izi ndiko kuchepetsa momwe matenda akumukhudzira. Chilichonse chimene matenda akuchitira thupi lake, malingaliro, kapena maganizo ake ndi enieni. Yesetsani kumuthandiza mwa kunena zinthu monga, "Ndikudziwa kuti khansara iyi imakupangitsani kukhala ofooka kwenikweni. Kodi ndingatani kuti ndithandize? "Ndi" Mukuwoneka kuti muli pansi. Kodi mukufuna kukamba za izo? "
Musapewe Kuyanjana
Pamene simukudziwa chomwe munganene kapena choti muchite ndi kuopa kunena ndi kuchita chinthu cholakwika , mukhoza kuyesedwa kuti musamamuone mnzanuyo. Kuchita zimenezi sikungangokhudza wokondedwa wanu koma kungabweretsere kudzimva chisoni ndikudzimvera chisoni. Ino ndi nthawi yolimbikitsa ubale wanu, ziribe kanthu momwe zingakhalire zovuta. Kumbukirani kuti nthawi yanu pamodzi simukuyenera kudzazidwa ndi mawu kapena zochita. Kungokhala kathupi ndi mwamaganizo, ngakhale mutakhala chete, kumatha kukulitsa mgwirizano womwe mumagawana nawo.
Musaiwale Kuzisamalira nokha
Monga kukhalapo kwa wokondedwa wanu wakufa ndikofunika, ndifunikanso kuzindikira kuti padzakhala nthawi yomwe mukufuna nthawi yopuma. Ndizokwanira kuti muzimva chisoni kwambiri nthawi zina. Chinthu chabwino kwambiri pa nthawiyi ndi kukhala woona mtima ndi wokondedwa wanu.
Muuzeni kuti mukukhala ndi nthawi yovuta ndipo mukusowa kupuma. Muuzeni kuti mumakhala nthawi zonse pamene akukufunani koma kuti mumasowa nthawi yochepa.