Musanayambe kugonana ndi mnzanu woyamba, pali zinthu zambiri zomwe ndi zofunika kuganizira. Izi zimaphatikizapo chirichonse kuchokera ngati mukufuna kugonana ndi momwe mungadzitetezere ku matenda opatsirana pogonana. Ndi chifukwa chake tayikidwa pamodzi mafunso awa kuti mudzifunse nokha ndi mnzanuyo. Palinso mndandanda wa zinthu zomwe muyenera kuganizira.
Mwanjira imeneyo mudzakhala wokonzeka kuyankha mafunso omwe mnzanuyo ayenera kukufunsani.
Zinthu Zomwe Mudzifunseni
Mafunso awa akhoza kukuthandizani kutsimikizira kuti mukupita ku zinthu zomwe mumakondwera nazo ndipo simudandaula pambuyo pake.
- Kodi mukufunadi kugonana ndi munthu uyu kapena mukufuna kugonana nawo pazifukwa zina? (kupanikizika, kudziimba mlandu, kukhuta, kumwa mowa, etc.)
- Kodi muli ndi zipangizo zomwe mukufunikira kuti muteteze kugonana ? (Makondomu, maboma a mano , lube, ndi zina zotero)
- Kodi kutenga mimba kumakhala kotheka ngati mukugonana ndi munthu uyu? Kodi mungatani ngati kugonana ndi munthu uyu kumabweretsa mimba? Ngati mimba ndi zotsatira zosavomerezeka, kodi mungatani kuti mupewe? (Kulera, kupewa kugonana, kugwiritsa ntchito mapiritsi am'mawa pokhapokha ngati pali vuto la kulera, etc.)
- Kodi mumamva bwanji ngati kugonana uku kumayambitsa matenda opatsirana pogonana?
- Kodi mungasangalale ndi chisankho chomwe mukupanga mukadzuka m'mawa?
Zinthu Zofunsana Wanu
Mafunso awa akhoza kukuthandizani kuti mudziwe zambiri zofunika zokhuza kugonana kwa mnzanuyo. Akhoza kukonza zokambirana zanu kuti azigonana mosamala . Angakuthandizeninso kuti kugonana kwanu kusangalale komanso kosangalatsa mwa kukudziwitsani zomwe mnzanuyo angalowemo ndikudziwitsanso ngati muli nawo.
- Kodi muli ndi chidwi chogonana? (Funso lofunika kwambiri limene mungapemphe. Ngati simunapemphe, simungadziwe yankho.)
- Kodi kugonana kumatanthauza chiyani kwa inu? Kodi ndi kudzipereka? Kodi mupitirizabe kugona ndi wina aliyense?
- Kodi pali chilichonse chomwe muyenera kudziwa ponena za bwenzi lanu, lomwe simukulidziwa, musanagonane?
- Kodi ndinu okonzeka kuchita zachiwerewere? Bwanji za kugonana kwachamwa ?
- Kodi nthawi yotsiriza yomwe munayesedwa ndi matenda opatsirana pogonana , ndi liti ndipo munayesedwa matenda otani?
- Kodi ndi khalidwe liti loopsa lomwe mwakhala mukuchita kuyambira pachiyeso chanu chotsiriza? Kodi mwakhala ndi abwenzi atsopano ogonana nawo pafupi pomwe munayesedwa kapena kuyambira pamenepo? Kodi atayesedwa? Kodi nthawi zonse mumakonda kuchita zachiwerewere?
- Kodi mukugwiritsa ntchito njira iliyonse yobereka (ngati ikuyenera)?
- Kodi ndingatani kuti izi zikhale zabwino kwa ife tonse?
Zomwe Wokondedwa Wanu Akufunsani (... Kapena Kuti Muwauze)
Awa ndiwo mafunso amene wokondedwa wanu angasamalire. Nchifukwa chiyani mukufuna kuti iwo aganizire za zinthu izi? Yankho ndi lophweka. Ngati akufunsani, iwo mwina adafunsanso anthu ena omwe agona nawo. Ichi ndi chizindikiro chabwino cha thanzi lanu. Komabe, ngakhale ngati sakufunsa, izi ndi zinthu zomwe muyenera kuziganizira.
- Nthawi yotsiriza yomwe munayesedwa pa matenda opatsirana pogonana komanso matenda omwe munayesedwa nawo.
- Ndi angati omwe munagonana nawo kuyambira pachiyeso chanu chotsiriza, ngati mutachita nawo chiwerewere chotetezeka, komanso ngati atayesedwa musanakwatirane.
- Ngati panopa mukugonana ndi wina aliyense.
- Zomwe zimayambitsa zokhudzana ndi maganizo zomwe zimayenera kudandaula za pamene ali ndi iwe.
- Chimene kugonana ndi iwo kumatanthauza kwa inu-kaya ndi kudzipereka kapena madzulo osangalatsa.
- Chilichonse chomwe akufunikira kuti adziwe kuti chidziwitso chanu chisangalatseni inu nonse.
Cholinga ndi Erotic
Kodi mukufuna kugonana bwino? Zili ndi izo ndi cholinga. Izi zikutanthawuza kugonana chifukwa mukufuna, ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi chidwi chokhala ndi iwe.
Zimatanthauza kuganiza za zomwe mukufuna kuchita, kuyankhula za izo, ndi kukhalapo pakanthawi. Izi zikutanthawuza cholinga cha moyo wogonana umene uli wodzaza ndi zosankha, osadandaula.