Kunenepa kwambiri nthawi zambiri kumakhala kovuta. Kulemera kwakukulu sikungakhale kovuta kunyamula, makamaka ngati pali kulemera kwakukulu kokwanira kuteteza ntchito kapena kusokoneza ntchito zosangalatsa. Pali zovuta zomveka bwino ngati kukhupa kwambiri kumabweretsa mavuto, monga mtundu wa shuga 2. Koma zovuta zowonongeka zonse zimangolankhula za nkhaniyo.
Choyamba, chilankhulo cha kunenepa kwambiri chikuvutitsa-kuyambira ndi mawu akuti "kunenepa kwambiri". Palibe chifukwa chake mawu amenewa ayenera kumveka kunyoza kapena kutulutsa manyazi, koma chikhalidwe chathu chachititsa kuti achite zomwezo. Mawu akuti "kunenepa kwambiri" amatha kuchititsa, m'madera ambiri, kukhala wincephera.
Liwu lachikhalidwe la mafuta owonjezera-mwachiwonekere silili bwino. Ndipo kuyesayesa kwapadera kuyendayenda movutikira mau omwe sitimakonda ndi mawu omwe tingakonde bwino (bulky, beefy, ndi zina zotero) nthawi zambiri zimangowonjezera vutoli powonetsa zoyesayesa zathu kuti tipeze njira yozungulira.
Kulankhula za kunenepa kwambiri sikungakhale kovuta. Kotero, mosadodometsa, ndakhala ndikuwonetseratu zovuta izi nthawi zosawerengeka pazaka 25 zanga-zandisamalire ndikusamalira: Ndikulankhula bwanji ndi _______ wanga wolemera?
Pali anthu ochuluka omwe angakhalepo pa "_______". Ndakhala ndi makolo akufunsa momwe angayankhulire ndi makolo awo.
Kawirikawiri, ndakhala ndikupeza mbali ina: agogo ndi agogo akufunsa za ana awo akuluakulu. Ndakhala ndi abwenzi ndikufunsa za abwenzi, abale anga amafunsa za abale anga, ndipo okwatirana amafunsa za okwatirana.
Komabe, nthawi zambiri, zovuta ndi zovuta kwambiri pa zochitikazi zimakhudza ana. Makolo kapena agogo, kapena okondedwa ena, akudera nkhaŵa za kulemera kochepa kwa mwana, nthawi zambiri amatha kutchula momwe angalankhulire mutuwo.
Kuti zikhale zomveka, kunenepa kwambiri sikuyenera kukambidwa konse ndi ana aang'ono kwambiri, mmaganizo anga. Iwo sangamvetsetse ndipo sakuyendetsa zinthu zowonjezera-zakudya, masewera olimbitsa thupi tsiku ndi tsiku-mwinamwake. Zikatero, vutoli limabwereranso kwa anthu akuluakulu omwe ali okhudzidwa kulankhula ndi anthu ena akuluakulu omwe sangakhale okhudzidwa kwambiri, potsutsa, kapena pokhapokha atayika.
Kulankhulana kwachindunji ndi mwana kumangomveka bwino pamene mwanayo amatha kumvetsa komanso ali ndi mphamvu pazochita zoyenera. Palibe chiwerengero cha kukula kwa chiwerengero cha izi, koma pa zaka zisanu ndi zitatu kapena zisanu ndi zisanu ndi zisanu ndi ziwiri zimaganiziridwa moyenera .
Mtima wa Nkhaniyi
Njira iliyonse-kaya kukambirana kuli molunjika ndi mwana, kapena ndi wamkulu wamkulu m'malo mwa mwanayo, yankho liri losavuta, lothandiza, ndipo mwinamwake ngakhale lodziwika-ndilo chikondi.
Chimene ndikutanthauza ndikuti, kwenikweni, kukambirana kumayambira ndi chikondi. "Ndimakukondani ..." kapena "Ndimakonda zidzukulu zanga ..." Mmawu ena, pakunena zovuta zomwe ndi mnzanu, "Ndikusamala za inu" zingakhale njira zina zomveka.
Chifukwa chiyani nkhaniyi? Choyamba, ngati simumasuka kukambirana nkhani yolemetsa mwachikondi, ndiye kuti siwe munthu woyenera kutero. Zifukwa zokhazo zokambirana za kulemera kwa wina ndizo ngati: (a) pali chifukwa chomveka chodera nkhawa kuti kulemera kwake kumapangitsa kapena kuvulaza thanzi lawo , ndipo (b) mumasamala za thanzi lawo chifukwa mumawakonda.
Ngati muli ndi kukayikira za izi-ngati, mukuganiza kuti mungafunike wina kuthana ndi kulemera kwawo chifukwa mukuzichita manyazi-ndiye kuti mulibe bwino kuti musakhale womasuka. Inu simukuyenera kukambirana izo; inu-mumakhululukire momveka-osayenera. Chikondi chimakupangitsani kukhala woyenerera.
Musakambirane kulemera kwake ndi wina aliyense, mwana kapena ayi, ngati kulemera kwake, payekha, kukukhudzani. Musakambirane kulemera ngati nkhawa yanu ikukhudzana ndi maonekedwe kapena kukhudza chiweruzo. Ngati, komabe, mukudandaula za thanzi la kulemera kwa munthu amene mumamukonda, kuphatikizapo mwana, muli ndi ufulu wofuna kuthana nawo, monga momwe mungafune kutetezera munthu ameneyo kuchokera pachiopsezo china chilichonse.
Izi ndizo zomwe muyenera kunena kuti: " Ndimakukondani, ndipo ndikudandaula kuti kulemera kwanu kungakhale koopsa kwa inu-ndipo ndikufuna kuthandizira kutsimikizira kuti palibe. Ndingathandize bwanji? "
Zotsirizazo, "ndingathandize bwanji," zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kwa achinyamata komanso akuluakulu kusiyana ndi ana. Ana sangayembekezere kudziwa yankho, kotero sikungakhale kwanzeru kufunsa funsolo. Kachiwiri, palibe kufanana-kukula-zonse-zikalata. Koma njira yowonjezereka ndi yachilengedwe chonse. Choncho, ngati mukuyankhula ndi mwana wanu, munganene kuti " ... ndipo ndikufuna kuthandiza, kodi ndizovuta?"
Mofananamo, ngati mukuyankhula ndi munthu wamkulu, kupempha thandizo kungakhale msanga. Mwina funso lofunika kwambiri, ndiloyamba: " Kodi tikhoza kukambirana zimenezi? "
Zovuta Kwambiri
Mafuta owonjezera a thupi si nthawi zonse oopsa, koma nthawi zambiri. Kuwonjezeka kwa chiwerengero kumapitiriza kukula pakati pa anthu akuluakulu ndi ana padziko lonse , ndipo zotsatira za kunenepa kwambiri-kuphatikizapo kufa msanga-zikukwera m'mwamba. Kukhala wokhudzidwa ndi izi ndi zomveka. Kulankhula payekha payekha ndiko, ngati cholinga chanu chiri chikondi ndi kudera nkhawa, osati chiweruzo.
Zomwe muyenera kuchita mutatha kufalitsa mutuwo, zimadalira. Nthawi zina ndi nkhani yogwirira ntchito pamodzi pokonza zakudya ndi zochitika; nthawi zina, khama liyenera kutsogoleredwa mwachindunji kuchokera kwa katswiri wa zaumoyo. Pali wina aliyense padziko lapansi, ngakhale kuti: Onse ayenera kusewera pamlingo wa banja osati mwana aliyense.
Pamene cholinga ndi thanzi osati kulemera, ndi chikondi osati chiweruzo, palibe chifukwa chomwe mwana ayenera "kukonza" kulemera kwake payekha. Iwo ayenera, mmalo mwake, kukhala gawo la banja likugwira ntchito limodzi kuti akhale athanzi, ndi kuthandizana wina ndi mzake, chifukwa amakondana. Mu umodzi, pali mphamvu.
Ngati chilichonse chimene mungachite kuti muchepetse vuto lolemetsa mwana mukamachita monga banja, ndipo mukalankhule chifukwa cha chikondi, simungathe kupita molakwika kwambiri. Yambani zokambirana zanu molingana.
Dr. Katz anali mkonzi woyambitsa mutu wa magazini, omwe anawonedwa ndi anzawo, Childhood Obesity.