Kukonzekera maliro , chikumbutso, ndi / kapena ntchito yopereka malire sikumakhala kosavuta, koma ntchitoyo sichithabekebe. Nkhaniyi imapereka zolakwa zitatu zomwe anthu ambiri amapanga maliro omwe muyenera kuzipewa, kaya mukukonzekeretsa nokha kapena wokondedwa wanu kapena pambuyo pa imfa.
Mphungu 1: Osasanthula Zopereka Zondomeko
Malingana ndi kafukufuku amene Edmunds anagulitsa m'chaka cha 2014, anthu ogula galimoto yatsopano anapita kukagulitsa magalimoto awiri ndipo anachititsa mayeso awiri.
Kuonjezera apo, 89% mwa anthu omwe anafunsidwapo anapeza kuti "amakonda kukhala okonzeka ndi kufufuza zambiri momwe zingathere" asanayambe kugulitsa.
Mosiyana ndi anthu omwe amagwiritsira ntchito malingaliro a maliro (89%) adanena kuti adayendera kapena kuimbira foni imodzi pokhapokha panyumba ya maliro, malinga ndi kafukufuku wofalitsidwa mu May 2015 ndi National Funeral Directors Association (NFDA) yomwe inkayesa maliro a maliro -makondomeko amakonda ndi makhalidwe. Malingana ndi kafukufuku waposachedwapa wa NFDA, zifukwa zinayi zoyambirira zomwe anafunsidwa panyumba ya maliro zimakhala ndi zochitika zam'mbuyomu; iwo ankadziwa kale mtsogoleri wa maliro; malo; ndi mbiri yake.
Ngakhale kuli kovuta kukangana ndi ntchito yabwino yapitayi kapena mgwirizano waumwini, kufufuza kumeneku kukusonyeza kuti ogulitsa ambiri amawoneka kuti ndi ofunikira kwambiri pofufuzira zosankha zawo pamene akugula galimoto yatsopano kuposa momwe amachitira popeza wothandizira oyenerera kuti athetse imfa ya wokondedwa.
(Kukhala chilungamo, anthu ochepa amakakamizika kugula galimoto yatsopano masiku awiri kapena asanu, monga momwe zimakhalira nthawi yosankha maliro akamangomwalira.)
Ziribe kanthu, ngati n'kotheka, kutenga nthawi yoyerekeza maliro ndi / kapena osungira malire m'dera lanu akhoza kukupulumutsani ndalama komanso / kapena kukuthandizani kupeza "nyumba yabwino ya maliro", manda, kutentha, kapena kukukonderani .
Zomwe zimakhudzana ndi mapeto a moyo zimatha mosiyana malinga ndi wothandizira zomwe zimagulitsa / ntchito, kotero musaganize kuti aliyense m'deralo amawerengera ndalama zomwezo. Chofunika kwambiri, kupeza wothandizira amene angakuthandizeni kukonzekera utumiki wokhutiritsa, womwe umakhutiritsa womwe umasonyeza ndi kulemekeza moyo wapadera wa wakufa, pamene ukuthandizani komanso ena akulira ndi / kapena kukondwerera moyo wake, nkhani zambiri ponena za mtengo mudzalandira.
Chida 2: Osati Akufunsa Mafunso
Chisoni chimene chimayambitsa imfa ya munthu amene timamukonda chingamve nthawi zina. Kuwombera mkuntho wowoneka wopanda malire wa chisoni ndi chisoni, maola, masiku ndi masabata pambuyo poti imfa imayendayenda mofulumira ngati oferedwa amavutika kukumbukira zinthu zina kuposa chisoni chawo.
Mwatsoka, anthu ambiri amayenera kukonza maliro ndi / kapena kupembedzera kwa okondedwa awo panthawiyi, zomwe zingaphatikizepo kupanga zosankha zambiri ndi zisankho. Ndizomveka kuti chisoni chingakulepheretseni kudziwa zomwe mukuchitazo ndipo zingakulepheretseni kufufuza zonse zomwe mungapeze. Choncho, mosasamala kanthu kuti mukukonzekera mwambo wa maliro, kapena mutatha kufa, muyenera kufunsa funso lirilonse limene muli nalo ponena za utumiki wanu ndi malingaliro anu musankhe mwakukhoza kwanu ndi musanayambe kulemba chirichonse.
Wosamalira bwino, kaya kumanda, kumanda, kutentha, kapena okondwerera, ayenera kuyankha mafunso anu onse modzipereka ndipo asakupangitseni kuti mumveke mwamsanga pamene mukukonzekera, kapena kukupangirani maonekedwe ena a maliro omwe simukuwathandiza. t ndikufuna. Momwemo, iye angatenge nthawi yoyamba kumvetsetsa mtundu wa mautumiki omwe mumawakonda ndikutsatira mwaufulu zosiyanasiyana mankhwala ndi zosankha zomwe zilipo kukuthandizani kupanga ntchito yopindulitsa, yapadera.
Ngati sichoncho, ndiye kuti mwinamwake mukachezere wina amene angakupatseni ngati mukufuna kukonzekera nokha kapena wina amene mumamukonda.
Ngati mukukonzekera maliro ndi / kapena kupembedzera pambuyo pa imfa ya wokondedwa wanu, ndizokwanira ndikupempha munthu wina yemwe mumamukhulupirira kuti adzakhale nawo pamsonkhano wa maliro ngati mukuganiza kuti simuli payekha kapena mukufuna kuti mumve lingaliro lofunika kwambiri musanapereke chinachake.
Chidwi 3: Zothandizira Pambuyo pa Manda
Pali mawu achikulire- Manda si tsiku lonse, ndi moyo wa tsiku limodzi -ndipo aliyense amene wataya wokondedwa wake, kapena amapita kumaliro a maliro kapena kutsegulira kuti athandize ndi kutonthoza wina yemwe, amamvetsa bwino tanthauzo la mawu awa. Tsoka ilo, anthu ambiri molakwika amaganiza kuti maliro enieni kapena msonkhano wa chikumbutso, ndi / kapena kuikidwa mmanda kapena kutentha, amasonyeza kuti "chomveka" pamapeto pa nthawi yomwe ndizovomerezeka kumva zomvetsa chisoni za imfa ya wakufayo. ( Kutseka ndi mawu omvetsa chisoni omwe nthawi zambiri amagwiritsidwa ntchito pa nkhaniyi.)
Zoona zake n'zakuti chisoni chimatha ndipo sichimangotha pomwe mwambo wa malirowo utatha. Anthu omwe ali pafupi kwambiri ndi munthu amene adamwalira kawirikawiri amakhala "otsekedwa" akangomaliza kusamalira zotsalira ndikuchita miyambo, miyambo, miyambo ndi miyambo yofunikila. Kwa ambiri, zosankha zambiri zomwe ayenera kuchita pokonzekera mwambo wamaliro ndi / kapena womaliza pa zosowa zawo (ie, pambuyo pa munthu wakufa yemwe sanakonzekere maliro); kupezeka kwa mamembala ambiri achikondi, othandizira achibale ndi abwenzi pa ntchito; ndipo chikhalidwe cha ntchitozi / zochitikazi zikhoza kuchepetsa / kusokoneza chisoni ndi yankho lake lachisoni.
Mwachitsanzo, funsani mkazi wamasiye kapena mkazi wamasiye, momwe zinalili zovuta kuti abwerere kunyumba kwa nthawi yoyamba pambuyo pa maliro kunyumba yomwe iyeyo adagawana naye kapena mwamuna kapena mkazi wake; yesani kulingalira momwe amayi kapena abambo poyamba ankamvera atalowa mu chipinda chopanda kanthu cha mwana wawo, atagona mwana wamwamuna kapena wamkazi kuti apumule; kapena momwe kumverera kwa "chipinda cha mwana" kusinthira pambuyo pa kuperewera kwa amayi kapena kubereka. Anthu ambiri omwe akulimbana ndi imfa ya wokondedwa angawonongeke kachiwiri komanso / kapena mwakhama kwambiri pambuyo pa maliro awo.
Mfundo apa ndi yakuti "maliro abwino" sali chabe ntchito yomwe imathera mutapereka ndalamazo. Choyenera, maliro anu osankhidwa ndi / kapena operekera chithandizo ayenera kupereka zowonjezera, zowonjezera ndi zina zotumikira "pambuyocare" zomwe zimavomereza kulimbikira kwa chisoni chanu pamasabata ndi miyezi yotsatira ntchito, komanso ngakhale kupereka mwayi wopindulitsa imfa pambuyo pake. Othandiza ambiri, mwachitsanzo, akuitana abambo omwe atumikirapo ku zochitika zapadera pa zikondwerero zomwe zidzachitike, monga Khirisimasi, Tsiku la Chikumbutso, Zikondwerero, ndi zina zotero chifukwa nthawi izi zingakhale zovuta kwambiri pachisoni. Ena amapereka uphungu panyumba kapena kuwunikira kapena angakuthandizeni kupeza gulu lothandizira am'mudzi mwanu ngati mukufuna. Komabe, zowonjezereka kwambiri "laibulale yamakongole" ya mabuku ndi mavidiyo omwe mungathe kubwereka, ngati mukufuna, angapereke zidziwitso zothandiza.
Chitani Ntchito Yanu Yoyamba
Monga tafotokozera pamwambapa, ngati imfa ya wokondedwa wanu idachitika modzidzimutsa, mosayembekezereka kapena popanda ndondomeko yothetsera mapeto a moyo, ndiye kuti kufufuza mwambo wanu wa maliro-komanso otsogolera omwe angapereke chithandizo kumakhala kovuta chifukwa cha nthawi yomweyo. Chifukwa chake, musamangoganiza kuti wothandizira amene munamupeza panthaŵi ya kusowa. Izi zikuti, ngakhale wokondedwa wanu wamwalira, mufunsabe kufunsa pamsonkhanowu momwe mungapezere thandizo lachisoni pambuyo pa maliro, ndipo funsani funso lililonse lomwe mungakhale nalo pazomwe mungasankhe ndi katundu, mautumiki, ndi ndalama zomwe zimakhudzidwa mu utumiki (s) omwe mukukonzekera musanayambe kulemba chirichonse.
Ngati mukukonzekera mwambo wanu wamaliro / kudzipereka, kaya nokha kapena munthu amene mumamukonda, pitirizani kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yochuluka mwa kufufuza mosamala ndi kuyerekezera maliro a anthu omwe akukhala nawo m'dera lanu kuti mupeze "zoyenera". Kuphatikiza pa kufufuza kwa intaneti ndi kuyerekezera mtengo kwa zogulitsa ndi mautumiki omwe mukufuna, mukhoza kuyendera wothandizira aliyense. Ngakhale kuti phindu lazomwe zilipo pa intaneti, palibe chodzidzimutsa chokhazikika ndi "lingaliro" inu mumapeza za luso la antchito othandizira ndi kufunitsitsa kukuthandizani kupanga maliro oyenera, eni ake, mwambo wa chikumbutso, kapena mwambo wamaliro.
> Zotsatira:
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> "Chidziwitso cha Odziwitsa Azimayi ku 2015 ndi Maphunziro," May 2015. Association Association of Directors Funeral. Zolemba za wolemba.