Kodi mungagwiritse ntchito bwanji komanso kuti mugawane bwanji khansa yanu pachibwenzi
Kodi muyenera kudziwa chiyani za khansara? Kodi nthawi yoyenera kugawana ndi chiyani, ndipo muyenera kuchita bwanji izi?
Kuyanjana Pambuyo Khansa
Tiyeni tiwone izi: chibwenzi ndi chovuta masiku ano. Ndi wodzaza ndi zosankha zosatetezeka, pozindikira nthawi yayitali kuyembekezera musanaitane, kusankha nthawi yoyenera kukomana ndi makolo. Koma pamene mutaya matenda a khansa ndi mankhwala kuchipatala, zingakhale zovuta kwambiri.
Chisankho chowulula khansara ku chikondi chatsopano sichingakhale chophweka kuchipanga. Kodi iwo adzachita chiyani? Kodi mungawopsyeze? Kodi iwo adzakuganizirani mosiyana?
Kusankha Amene Tiyenera Kuwuuza Ndikofunika
Amene mumasankha kunena za khansa yanu ndi chisankho chaumwini. Anthu ena amasankha mwachindunji omwe amavomereza, pamene ena amakhala otseguka kwambiri ndi ulendo wawo wa khansa. Ndikofunika kudziwa kuti simukuyenera kuuza aliyense yemwe mumacheza naye kuti muli ndi khansa. Khansara ikhoza kukhala gawo lalikulu la moyo wanu, koma sichikutanthauza kuti ndinu ndani.
Pomwe zikunenedwa, komabe muyenera kuuza omwe akukhala ovuta, mwinamwake mapulani osatha m'moyo wanu.
Kusankha Nthawi Yokamba za Khansa Yanu
Funso kenako limakhala, ndi liti nthawi yoyenera kuwauza? Nazi malingaliro angapo omwe angakuthandizeni kusankha nthawi ndi momwe mungamufotokozere munthu watsopano m'moyo wanu za khansa yanu:
- Mvetserani ku intuition yanu. Mwinamwake mungadziwe mwadzidzidzi kuti nthawi yeniyeni yolongosola chikondi chanu kuti muli ndi khansa. Kudziwa kwanu, kapena matumbo kumverera, kukudziwitsani kuti nthawiyo ndi yolondola. Zitha kukhala pa chakudya chamakono kapena paulendo wautali. Zingakhale zosankha zodzidzimutsa kapena zingathe kukonzekera. Kumbukirani kuti ngati simukutsutsa za khansara yanu, izi sizikutanthauza kuti mnzanuyo adzamva momwemo. Mawu akuti "khansa" amachititsa anthu mantha. Auzeni nthawi yomwe imawalola kuti azichita bwino zomwe mwabweretsa poyera.
- Musachedwe motalika kwambiri. Ngati mwakhala mukudikirira mpaka mwambo wokumbukira ukwati wanu kuti uwulule chinsinsi chanu, ndiye kuti mwachedwa kwambiri. Inde, pali nthawi yoyenera yogawana uthenga wofunikira ngati umenewu, koma sikuti muyenera kusiya. Ngati mudikira motalika kwambiri, mnzanuyo akhoza kukwiya, kupweteka kapena kuperekedwa. Ubale wathanzi umapindula pa kukhulupilira, ndipo ngati simukukhala woona mtima, ndiye kuti mnzanuyo angatenge ngati chizindikiro kuti mungakhale onyenga muzinthu zina.
- Khalani woona mtima ndi kubwera. Mukasankha kukamba za matenda anu, ndizofunika kuchita motero. Pakali pano mwazindikira kuti khansara yanu siinakukhudzeni kokha, komanso ena omwe akuzungulirani. Wokondedwa wanu ali ndi ufulu wodziwa momwe matenda anu alili ndi momwe angakhudzire moyo wawo pokhala paubwenzi ndi inu.
- Konzekerani kuyankha mafunso. Bwenzi lanu la chibwenzi limakhala ndi mafunso ambiri kuti akufunseni za mtundu wanu wa khansa komanso momwe zimakukhudzirani. Wokondedwa wanu angafunike kudziwa za matenda anu, mankhwala anu, kapena ngati mukufa. Mafunso ena angawoneke ngati oopsa, koma kumbukirani kuti ndizovuta ndipo muyenera kuwongolera.
- Konzekerani kupitiriza kuyankha mafunso . Kumbukirani kuti mwakhala ndi nthawi yayitali kuti mumvetsetse zomwe mukuzidziwa komanso zonse zomwe zingatanthauze. Mafunsowo sangabwere mwakamodzi. Nthawi idzawathandiza iwo kukonza chirichonse. Aliyense adzachita mosiyana ndipo n'zovuta kufotokoza momwe munthu wina angayankhire.
Kulimbana ndi Zimene Wachita Wanu
Anthu ena angaganize kuti sangathe kukhala ndi chibwenzi ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi khansa ndipo akhoza kusiya kukhala ndi chibwenzi ndi inu.
Izi zimachitika chifukwa cha mantha, koma anthu ena sangathe kuthana ndi kukhala wodwala. Makhalidwe a anthu amatha kapena ayi, simungathe kusintha maganizo awo pa khansara yanu, yomwe ili bwino. Mukusowa anthu omwe akuzungulirani omwe akuthandizani ndikukweza, osati kukutsitsani.
Ngati mukuchita mantha kwambiri pogawana zomwe mukudziwa, chifukwa mukudandaula kuti mungalandire mtundu woterewu, mungafunike kuyambiranso poyang'ana mkhalidwe wanu kuchokera kumbali ina. Kuwuza munthu yemwe mwangoyamba kumene kukhala pachibwenzi kapena kukhala woopsa ndi kuti muli ndi khansa ndiyo njira yowonjezera yakulira maapulo oipa kuchokera mu gulu lanu.
Anthu omwe angathe kugwiritsira ntchito matendawa pamene muli pachibwenzi adzatha kuthana ndi mavuto ambiri omwe amabwera pamene banja liri limodzi kwa nthawi yayitali.
Tikukhulupirira kuti bwenzi lanu kapena bwenzi lanu amatha kulandira khansa yanu ndikukuwonani m'malo mwa matendawa. Simukufuna kuti iwo asamanyalanyaze khansara yanu, koma kuti mumvetse, kuvomereza ndikudziwe kuti zingakhudzire ubale wanu. Onetsetsani kuti muwathandize kudziwa momwe kansa ingakhudzire moyo wawo monga momwe mukuchitira. Ngati angathe kukukumbutsani, khansara ndi onse, ndiye kuti mwapeza macheza abwino omwe angakhale otsiriza nthawi zonse kuchipatala ndi kupitirira.
Khansa Si Yokha Yoipa
Ngati mwagawanadi ndi munthu woyenera, adzalowanso kuti sangathe kukhala ndi chibwenzi komanso kukonda khansara, koma munthu amene ali ndi khansa akhoza kukhala wamtengo wapatali. Maphunziro akutiuza kuti khansa imasintha anthu m'njira zabwino osati zoipa. Maphunzirowa, omwe akuyang'ana zomwe zatchulidwa kuti "kuwonjezereka koopsa," apeza kuti anthu ambiri amachokera kutali kwambiri ndi chithandizo cha khansa ndi zinthu zofunika kwambiri, kukhala ndi chifundo kwa ena, komanso kuwonjezera mphamvu ndi kudzichepetsa. Ngati sichigwira ntchito nthawi yoyamba, musataye mtima. Muyenera kumpsompsona achule pang'ono, koma kalonga weniweni (kapena mfumukazi) adzazindikira mmene moto wa khansa ungabweretsere zinthu zabwino.
Kwa chibwenzi kapena chibwenzi
Ngati mutakhala chibwenzi kapena chibwenzi cha munthu yemwe anakuuzani kuti ali ndi khansara, mwina mukuyesera kuti mumvetse zomwe zikutanthauza. Kumbukirani kuti pamene mukulimbana ndi malingaliro anu, zikhoza kukhala zovuta kwambiri kuti wina wanu watsopano apitirize kugawana nawo. Onani mfundo zingapo zomwe munganene (ndi zomwe simuyenera kunena) kwa munthu amene ali ndi khansara pamene mukupitirizabe njira iliyonse yabwino kwa inu nonse. Mukhozanso kufufuza maganizo awa pa " zomwe zimakonda kukhala ndi khansa " kuti mudziwe zomwe zingakuthandizeni kumvetsetsana.
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