Ndi 7:58 madzulo pa Lachisanu usiku, pafupifupi nthawi yaikulu, ndipo mukudutsa pamsewu wa televizioni kuti mupeze masewero abwino kuti muwone. Mumasankha masewero ndipo amatsegula mwadzidzidzi pambuyo pa kuima kwa usiku umodzi. Anthu awiri osadziŵika amadzuka, atachedwa kugwira ntchito, akuwombera kuti apange zovala m'mabotolo opanda pake, zipewa za ndudu, ndi zovala zobalalika usiku.
Zojambula ngati izi zimayikidwa bwino kwambiri pa TV, magazini, malonda, ndi intaneti kuti nthawi zonse tiziika maganizo athu pa kugonana komanso kutipangitsa kuti tisagwirizane ndi kugonana kwapabanja kwa masiku ano. Mukuyamba kudzifunsa kuti, "Kodi anthu amachita zogonana kangati?"
Kodi Zogonana Zili Zambiri Kapena Zathanzi?
Palibe yankho lolondola kapena lolakwika pa funso ili, ndipo ma TV amatha kusokoneza malingaliro athu pankhani ya kugonana. Zambiri zimakhudza momwe nthawi zambiri anthu amagonana, kuphatikizapo msinkhu wawo, thanzi lawo, nkhawa, maganizo, ndi zilakolako za kugonana.
Moyo wathanzi wathanzi ungalimbikitse ubale wanu ndi mnzanuyo ndikuthandizani kuti ubale wanu ukhale wathanzi. Kugonana kumapereka ubwino wambiri wathanzi , monga kuchepetsa nkhawa, kuchepetsa kupanikizika, kulimbikitsa chitetezo cha mthupi, kutsika kwa magazi, kuchepetsa kupweteka, ndi kuthana ndi matenda a mtima. Izi zikutanthauza kuti ndiwe nokha ndi mnzanuyo yekha amene mungathe kusankha kuti kugonana kuli koyenera kwa inu nonse.
Kafukufuku amasonyeza kuti nthawi zonse kugonana ndi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi chibwenzi chosangalatsa kuposa ndalama. Ambiri amatha kugonana kamodzi pa sabata. Izi zimathandiza kusunga mgwirizano wapamtima komanso kumapangitsa kukhala ndi moyo wogonana, koma kumapatsanso nthawi yowyembekezera ndi kudzipereka, monga kugonana kumverera kwambiri ngati chidziwitso chapadera kuposa tsiku ndi tsiku.
Kugonana kangapo pa sabata kumapangitsa maanja kukhala osangalala ngati kuti agonana kamodzi pa sabata.
Mabanja okondwa kwambiri komanso maubwenzi ogwirizana amakhala ndi zibwenzi nthawi zambiri pamene akufuna kugonana. Amuna ndi akazi ambiri amaganiza kuti moyo wokhutiritsa wokhudzana ndi kugonana umawongolera umoyo wawo wonse, koma sichimathandiza kuti akhale osangalala. Amuna oposa 90 peresenti amavomereza kuti chimwemwe chimabwera chifukwa chokhala paubwenzi wabwino ndi mnzanu, osati kugonana. Pafupi theka la abambo ndi amai amaganiza kuti ngakhale kuti kugonana kumawapatsa chimwemwe, sikuli mbali yofunikira ya ubale wabwino.
Pafupifupi theka la abambo ndi amai mu maubwenzi akukhutira ndi momwe amachitira ndi abwenzi awo nthawi zambiri. Theka lachilendo la amuna sakhutira ndi kuchuluka kwa kugonana kumene amakhala nako chifukwa amafuna kugonana. Pafupifupi theka la magawo atatu pa atatu a akazi osakhutira ali mu bwato lomwelo. Popeza anthu amayamba kuganiza za kugonana ndi kumverera chilakolako chogonana kusiyana ndi akazi, amuna amakhala oposa asanu ndi atatu omwe angathe kukhala nawo.
Zinthu Zomwe Zimagwira Ntchito Pogonana
Ukalamba ndi thanzi zimathandizanso kuti mudziwe kugonana kwanu . Pamene zaka zikupita, mavuto opatsirana pogonana angapangidwe, kuphatikizapo kuwonongeka kwa erectile , kusowa chidwi kwa kugonana, nkhawa za ntchito, komanso mavuto aakulu.
Pamene mavuto a umoyo amayamba kusonyeza zaka zambiri, nthawi zambiri kugonana kumaikidwa pamoto wam'mbuyo.
Ndizotheka kugonana bwino pakati pa zaka za 80, popeza kuti pafupifupi 40 peresenti ya amuna a zaka za pakati pa 75 ndi 85 amagonana ndi mnzawo, makamaka chifukwa cha mankhwala osiyanasiyana omwe amapezeka mosavuta kuti apereke chithandizo.
Njira Zina Zogonana
Kuchita maliseche n'kofala ngati 63 peresenti ya amuna a zaka 50 kapena kuposerapo amachita izo. Pafupifupi 40 peresenti ya amuna a m'badwo uno amagonana ndi munthu wina osati mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo. Kugonana ndi chiwerewere kapena kusakhulupirika kungakhale njira yotsutsana ndi kugonana, makamaka ngati kuvutika kapena kusokonezeka kumakhala ndi kugonana m'banja.
Kufunika kwa Umoyo Pamtundu Wambiri
Ubwino wa kugonana uli nawo ndi wofunika kwambiri kuposa kuchuluka. Chimwemwe cha amuna chimafika pochokera kumaganizo a kugonana, pomwe chisangalalo cha amai chimabwera kuchokera ku zochitika za m'maganizo.
Chinthu chofunika kwambiri mu ubale wanu ndi kukambirana wina ndi mzake za zilakolako zanu zogonana ndikupitiriza kulankhulana momasuka. Ngati mukufuna kugonana mobwerezabwereza kapena zinthu zonunkhira pakati pa mapepala, mulole mnzanuyo adziwe. Kulankhulana, osati kugonana, ndizofunika kuti ubale wanu ukhale ndi moyo.
Zotsatira:
Zogonana pa Midlife ndi Pambuyo . Harvard Health Publications, 9 Jun 2009.
Kugonana kamodzi pamlungu kumapangitsa okwatirana okondwa: Phunzirani. MedlinePlus: Library ya US National Medicine, 18 Nov 2015.
Kugonana Mu Gawo Lachiwiri . Harvard Health Publications, 1 Dec 2010.
Kugonana ndi Ubale Chisangalalo pakati pa Amuna ndi Akazi Amuna Kapena Akazi: Kufunika Kowonongeka Kwachiwerewere. Ferris J, Lyons A, Pitts M, Richters J, Shelley J, Simpson JM, Smith A. PubMed: US National Library of Medicine, 2011.
Kusiyana kwa Chiwerewere: Zotsatira za Kusiyanitsa Kwa Munthu Payekha Kukhumba ndi Kugonana Kwachilendo pa Ukwati Wokwatirana. Vitas J, Willoughby BJ. Zosindikizidwa: US National Library of Medicine, Apr 2012.