Kupeza malo oyenera, kumvetsetsa n'kofunika
Kusamalira kwa nthawi yayitali kumadziŵika chifukwa cha kuchuluka kwa anthu ogwira ntchito, makamaka pakati pa CNA . Komabe, mukakonzekera zofunikira mukhoza kuonjezera zovuta kuti padzakhala osachepera ogwira ntchito. Ndipo mukamapitiriza kuwonetsa antchito nthawi yaitali, mumawonjezera mwayi woti anthu abwino azikhalabe.
Mosakayikira, ntchitoyi ndi yovuta ndipo ndalamazo ndi zolimba.
Pamene ndinachira mwangozi m'galimoto ya galimoto, ndinakhala wokhala ku nyumba yosungirako okalamba kumene ndinali woyang'anira . Panthawiyi, ndinayamba kukambirana nkhaniyi kuchokera kumalo osiyana. Ntchito yokhazikika ili ndi ubwino wambiri, kuphatikizapo kupitiriza chisamaliro, ndalama, komanso khalidwe labwino.
Monga woyang'anira, ndikafunsa munthu wogwira ntchito wothandizira, ndikuyamba ndikufunsa, "Nanga nchifukwa ninji mukufuna kukhala namwino / CNA poyamba?" Ndi funso lokoma lachisanu. Aliyense angayankhe, ndipo zimandipatsa chidwi kuti ndi ndani. Kawirikawiri, zomwe ndimamva ndizo "Ndimakonda kusangalala ndi nkhope ya wina" kapena "Ndingaphunzire zambiri kuchokera kwa okalamba" kapena "Tinasamalira agogo pamene ndinali kukula ndikuzindikira kuchuluka kwa ine amasangalala ndi okalamba. " Ndipotu, amenewo ndi mayankho omwe ndikufuna - chochita ndi maubwenzi. Ngati sindikumva chinachake chokhudza maubwenzi, ndi mbendera yofiira kwa ine.
Ndili ndi mayeso a maganizo: Ndinayamba kukhala ndi mwana yemwe mwana wake anali loya. Iwo anali banja losangalatsa, akumvetsera mayiyo, akuthandizira malowa. Mwachidziwitso, ndinadziwonetsera ndekha nditatenga ndalama zatsopanoyi ku holo, ndikumuuza mwanayo, ndikumuuza kuti, "Ndikufuna kuti mukumane naye ______. Ndikuganiza kuti angakhale wosamalira amayi anu." Ngati sindingathe kulingalira zochitika izi, ndiye ndikudziwa kuti panali vuto.
Munthuyu akalembedwanso, timamuuza gulu laling'ono, kuti timamufuna kuti akhale ndi chiyanjano ndi aliyense - makamaka, kusamalira ABOUT, komanso kusamalira, anthu awa. Chilichonse chimayenda bwino kwa kanthawi mpaka patsiku loyamba la miyezi isanu ndi umodzi kapena miyezi 12 ikuyendera. Ndiye fomu yoyesa ija imabwera, yomwe imapempha mafunso monga: ndi nthawi zingati simunalipo? Kodi nthawi zambiri mumakhala tardy? Kodi ndizinthu zingati zomwe mwatchulidwa kale mochedwa kapena zosowa? Mwa kuyankhula kwina, ife timagwira antchito akuchita zolakwika zolakwika, m'malo moyenera zinthu zabwino.
Kodi mawonekedwe oyesa awa amachokera kuti? Mwinamwake kuchokera ku fakitale kumene zokolola ziri mfumu. Kodi ndi liti pamene munawona mawonekedwe oyesera omwe adati: Ndinakuonani mutenga kunja kunja tsiku lotsatira ____ nthawi zambiri chaka chino. Ndakuwonani mukubweretulira nkhope ya wokhala naye ____ nthawi zambiri chaka chino. Ndakuwonani inu mutagwira dzanja la anthu olira ___ nthawi zambiri chaka chino.
Pa msinkhu wosadziwika, antchito amayamba kusintha kusintha kwawo. "Ndinaganiza kuti mukufuna kuti ndipeze nthawi yolankhulirana ndi anthu, koma ndikuwonekeratu kuti ndikufunika kufulumizitsa zinthu." Kenaka amishonala amatsutsa antchito kuti azitha kuthandiza anthu kukhala malo okhala pamsonkhano, osadziŵa kuti tikuyembekezera mwachidziwitso chiyembekezo chimenecho.
Tsiku lina ndinapeza kuimba kwa CNA ndikuvina ndi wokhala m'holo. Anandiwona, nkhope yake inakhala yofiira, ndipo adapepesa. Chifukwa chiyani? Uyu anali wokhalamo yemwe anali wotchuka chifukwa chokana kuyendayenda ndi antchito kuti apitirize kuyenda kwake. Mwa kupanga ntchito yosangalatsa, CNA iyi yakhala ikugwira bwino ntchito yokhalamo. Ndinamuuza kuti palibe chifukwa chopepesa chifukwa ndinkasangalala kuona anthu akuyenda, kuvina, ndi kumwetulira.
Kenaka ndinayamba kudzifunsa kuti, "Kodi ndikuchita chiyani chomwe chingawatsogolere antchito anga kuganiza kuti ayenera kupepesa chifukwa chosangalala ndi kukhala ndi ubale ndi anthu okhalamo? Kodi ndikufunika kusintha chiyani kuti ndithandizire chikhalidwe chimenecho? "
Anthu amaphunzitsa kuti ayesedwe ndikuyesera. Tonsefe timafuna kuyesa bwino, kukomana kapena kupitilira zomwe abwana athu akuyembekeza. Ngati titapeza kuti PRODUCTIVITY ikuyamikirika pa RELATIONSHIP, ndiye zomwe zidzaperekedwa - chisamaliro, chosagwirizana, chosasamala. Chikhalidwe cha masiku ano chaumoyo chimatikakamiza "kuchita zambiri ndi zochepa," ndipo ndalama sizipezeka kwa antchito ena, kotero kufunika kumakakamizidwa.
Kuchokera ku zotsatira za kafukufuku kawirikawiri kumasonyeza kuti chifukwa chachikulu chomwe anthu amasiyira nthawi yaitali ndi kusowa kwa nthawi kupanga maubwenzi ndi anthu okhalamo. Izi siziyenera kubwera monga zodabwitsa; antchito athu amatiuza zomwe akufuna, ndipo ndizofanana ndi oyang'anira, okhalamo, ndi mabanja omwe akufuna: maubwenzi. Ndipo chinthu china chachikulu: chimathandizanso zotsatira zabwino za odwala! Kuyang'ana pa maubwenzi kumapangitsa munthu kupambana!
Chifukwa cha Philip DuBois, CNHA, FACHCA pakupereka nkhaniyi. Iye ndi Wothandizira Pulogalamu Yothandizira, Long Management Term Care Administration ku Saint Joseph College of Maine, ndi wokamba nkhani pa nkhani za kulera / kulera, kusamalira monga kumakhala m'nyumba yosungirako anthu okalamba kumene anali woyang'anira, chitetezo cha kumalo, chikhalidwe, kukhululukira, ndi yankho lachikhristu pachisoni. Iye ndi mutu wa Maine Purezidenti wakale ndi Munthu wa American College of Health Care Administrators; mtumiki wodalirika wa Advent Christian; abambo ololedwa / abambo olera; membala wa Hope for Maine Kids; Maine Mtima Gallery woyang'anira. Anamasula CD ya nyimbo zachikhristu, "Songs of Deliverance," mu 2010.