Zomwe Mungagwiritse Ntchito pa Kugonana Kwa Odwala Ambuyomo

Kupweteka kumbuyo kumatha kulowa m'moyo wanu wa kugonana komanso kuwononga ubale wanu ngati simusamala. Chinsinsi ndichokulitsa maluso atsopano ndi malingaliro omwe ali oyenerera moyo wanu tsopano pamene mukukhala ndi mavuto a msana.

Nazi zinthu zisanu ndi chimodzi zomwe mungachite kuti mukhale ndi chikondi m'moyo mwanu - ndikumva ululu wammbuyo. Malingaliro ndi zowona apa zikuperekedwa ndi Lauren Andrew Hebert, wodwala thupi komanso wolemba za kugonana ndi kubwezeretsa , komanso Wendy Maltz, yemwe ndi wogwira ntchito zachipatala komanso wogwira ntchito yogonana.

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Lankhulani ndi Dokotala Wanu

Odwala savutika kumva zokambirana za kugonana ndi madokotala awo. Malingana ndi Hebert, mbali yaikulu ya udindo wosayankhulana pakati pa dokotala ndi wodwalayo imakhala ndi akatswiri azachipatala.

"Osowa chithandizo cha zaumoyo ayenera kuyesetsa kupeza phunziroli," akutero. Kugonana kumagwirizana ndi kubwereranso kuntchito ndi ntchito za tsiku ndi tsiku pakupeza ndi kuchiritsa ululu. Ngati wothandizira zaumoyo wanu sakuyankha mafunso anu okhudzana ndi kugonana, Hebert akusonyeza kuti wina akufunafuna maganizo ena.

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Yankhulani Maganizo Anu

Yankhulani maganizo anu pokhudzana ndi chikhalidwe chanu ndi momwe zidzakhudzira ubwenzi wanu.

Hebert akunena kuti nthawi zambiri maubwenzi amathera pamene wina akukumana ndi ululu wammbuyo. Izi ndichifukwa, akuti, zomwe zimachitika ku ululu ndi khalidwe lophunzira. "Mukasankha kukhala, ndi momwe mulili."

Kawirikawiri, munthu amene amakhala ndi ululu adzapusitsa zinthu mwa kupewa kugonana. "Izi ndi zomwe zimawononga ubale," akutero.

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Sankhani Zochitika Zokhudza Kugonana

Landirani kuti simungathe kukhala olimba monga momwe munalili musanayambe kupweteka kwanu. Tembenuzani ku chikhulupiliro chanu ndi kuzindikira kwadzidzidzi kuti muthe kusintha moyo wanu wa kugonana mpaka momwe msana wanu ungathere.

Maltz akunena kuti kusintha zolinga zanu kungakhale njira yopezera moyo wanu wogonana kukhala wopindulitsa ngakhale mutamva kupweteka kwanu. Yesetsani kugwirizana ndi kusangalala ndi "zovuta zogulitsa magalimoto," akutero.

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Mvetserani Mavuto Anu

Kumvetsetsa vuto lanu lakumbuyo bwino, kuphatikizapo malo omwe amachititsa zizindikiro komanso zomwe zili bwino zingakuthandizeni kusangalala ndi kugonana kwambiri.

Kuvulala kumbuyo ndi mikhalidwe kungathe kugawidwa ndi mitundu ya kayendedwe kamene kamapangitsa zizindikiro kukhala zovuta. Mukhoza kugwiritsa ntchito mfundoyi posankha malo anu.

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Konzani Zochita Zanu

Konzani malo anu ndipo muphatikize mnzanuyo mu njirayi.

Nthawi zina, mukhoza kusintha malo omwe mumakonda ndi pillow kapena thaulo. Nthawi zina, mungafunikire kulankhulana ndikugwira ntchitoyi ndi mnzanuyo.

Herbert akuwonetsa kuyankhula za izo kutsogolo ndikuyembekezera nthawi zina kuti mufunika kusintha ndondomekoyi. Kukonza malo anu ndi njira yamtengo wapatali, iye akufotokozera, chifukwa maubwenzi omwe amatha kupweteka kumbuyo ndi "tikhoza kusintha" maganizo amakhala abwino kuposa awo omwe vuto liri lokha kwa wokondedwa ndi ululu.

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Limbikitsani Masisitimu Pamtanda

Chomaliza chotsiriza ndichokutenga minofu yanu ya pansi pamimba . Matenda osasunthika amtundu wa phulusa amatha kupititsa patsogolo ntchito yogonana ndikuchita zodabwitsa kumbuyo kwanu. Chifukwa cha ichi ndi chakuti iwo ali mbali ya chithandizo chachikulu chomwe chimachepetsa kugwiritsidwa ntchito kwa minofu ndi kuimitsa thupi.

Hebert akunena kuti limodzi ndi gawo lawo pa kugonana, minofu ya m'mimba ndi yofunikira monga mimba ndi minofu ya m'mbuyo mu thanzi labwino.