Kwa iwo amene akulira maliro a wokondedwa wawo, maholide a holide, mabelu ndi magetsi owala akhoza kumangokhala osangalala. Pano pali mfundo zisanu zomwe zingathandize odwala imfa kuthana ndi maholide.
Tsegulani Chipata ku Miyambo Yatsopano
Wolemba mabuku wachingelezi Somerset Maugham kamodzi adanena, "Chizoloŵezi ndi chitsogozo osati woyang'anira ndende." Ngakhale izi, miyambo ya tchuthi yomwe timapanga zaka zambiri ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi, mwana, kholo kapena wachibale wina wokondedwa kwambiri nthawi zambiri amamverera ngati kuti sitingapeŵe ngati mipiringidzo ya ndende. Kutumiza makadi a Khirisimasi, kuphika mchere wapadera wa tchuthi, kugula pa Lachisanu Lachisanu, kukonza magetsi / kukongoletsera mpikisano, ndi zina zotero, zingakhale zofanana ndi zomwe mukukumbukira kukumbukira holide, koma kodi mwambo wanu umakupangitsani chimwemwe chaka chino? Ngati sichoncho, ganizirani kusintha kotero kuti mumve bwino.
Kumbukirani, mutha kuyambiranso mwambo wanu wakale mumsewu ngati mukufuna, koma mutha kuzindikira kuti mwambo watsopano uli wokondweretsa.
Ziri bwino kunena kuti NO
Chaka chilichonse, banja lanu likuyembekeza kubwera kwanu panyumba ya Khirisimasi chifukwa cha carols ndi kakao. Koma chaka chino, lingaliro la kukongoletsa nyumba ndi kukongoletsa mtengo wonse umadzimva kwambiri. Kapena mwakhala mukukonzekera nyimbo za nyimbo za tchuthi ku tchalitchi chanu kapena malo ammudzi kwa nyengo zingapo zapitazi, koma tsopano, mtima wanu suli mmenemo. Pamene lingaliro lakusintha chizoloŵezi chanu cha tchuthi lingakhale lovuta, muyenera kudziwa udindo umene mumakhala nawo bwino ndikuwunikira momveka bwino banja lanu ndi abwenzi anu. Dzifunseni nokha ngati mukungofuna kuthandizidwa ndi ntchito inayake kapena ngati mukufuna kuti wina azitenga chaka chino. Dzikumbutseni kuti ndibwino kunena "ayi" pamene mumasintha moyo mutatha.
Palibe Chokwanira Ndipo Sizinunso
Ambiri a ife timakhala ndi chithunzi cha zomwe maholide "ayenera kukhala". Mabuku, magazini, mafilimu, malonda a pa televizioni komanso ngakhale kukumbukira kwathu kwaunyamata kungapangitse kuti izi zikhale zogwirizana ndi kupanga "chithunzi" cha Hanukah, Thanksgiving, Christmas, Kwanzaa, [ kulemba holide pano ] zikuwoneka ngati. Izi zingachititse kuti mukhale ndi mavuto ambiri, omwe ndi vuto lina lomwe simukufunikira kulimbana nalo pakalipano. Choncho, dzipatseni nyengoyi ndikulandira zinthu monga momwe zilili . Ndani amasamala ngati magetsi angapo a Khrisimasi amawotchedwa ngati kutentha kwa nyumba ndi nyumba kukuwala? Mwinamwake simunathe kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yochuluka popanga mphatsozo kwa ana monga momwe mumachitira, koma nthawi yotsiriza yomwe mwana anakana mphatso chifukwa cholemba ntchito? Turkey pang'ono yayuma chaka chino? Onjezerani pang'ono gravy. Chilichonse chimene chikubwerapo, dzifunseni nokha: "Ingozisiya."
Lemekeza Wokondedwa Wanu Amene Wakhala Wokondedwa
Kawirikawiri, iwo akulira maliro a imfa, "Ndingapewe bwanji kuganizira za iye pa maholide?" Chowonadi chiri, iwe sungakhoze kwathunthu - kotero bwanji kuyesa ngakhale? Mmalo mokhala mwamantha kuti mudzayamba kukumbukira wokondedwa wanu ndi kumverera chisoni, dzipatseni mphamvu mwa kuphatikizapo kukumbukira kwake mu zolinga zanu . Pamene muli ndi banja lanu, yanizani nyali mu ulemu wa wokondedwa wanu yemwe amatha kusonyeza mwakachetechete kupezeka kwake m'mitima yanu. Kapena mupange mapulogalamu ndi kukhala pansi pamodzi monga banja kuti muwonetse filimu yomwe amaikonda kwambiri. Ngati muli mtundu wa kulenga, perekani zokongoletsera zapadera ndi ana anu kapena zidzukulu zanu ndi kuwapachika pamalo olemekezeka pa mtengo wanu wa Khirisimasi. Ngati mukumvera, funsani banja lanu kuti lifotokoze zowakumbukira zomwe mumawakonda, kapena pitani kumanda, malo a chikumbutso kapena malo ofunika kwambiri pa moyo wa wokondedwa wanu.
Dziwani Chisangalalo Chenicheni cha Kupatsa
Nthawi zonse timamva kuti kupereka kuli bwino kuposa kulandira, koma ndi angati a ife omwe timakhulupiriradi zimenezo? Taganizirani za holideyi mukamayika kansalu akale poyesa munthu wina kuthana ndi maulendo a tchuthi mwa njira yaying'ono. Perekani zidole za ana kapena zovala zofunda kwa anthu opanda pokhala. Thandizani kudyetsa osowa kapena okalamba othandizira. Pezani banja losowa kapena perekani chithandizo chakumbukira wokondedwa wanu. Pali mwayi wambiri wopezera chimwemwe chopereka ngati mukuwoneka . Kuti mupeze mndandanda wamaphunziro othandizira wina kukhala ndi tchuthi lowala kwambiri m'dera lanu, chonde pitani pa webusaiti ya Volunteer Match website.
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