Kusiyanitsa pakati pa Omwe Amuna ndi Akazi Omwe Amawasamalira

Momwe Othandizira Amuna Amathandizira

Nthawi zambiri timaganizira za amayi osamalira amayi, ndipo powerengera, ndizokwanira kuti amayi ambiri kuposa amuna amapereka chisamaliro kwa achikulire, abambo amachita gawo lawo lokoma.

Popeza Tsiku la Atate likugwa mu June, izi zikuwoneka ngati nthawi yabwino yolankhulirana za abambo angapo omwe akusamalira makolo awo, okwatirana, kapena okondedwa awo.

Iye Anati, Iye Anati

Chifukwa chimodzi chomwe amuna osamalirako amatha kuwuluka pansi pa radar ndikuti amakonda kuyang'anira wokondedwa mosiyana ndi mkazi.

Pano pali kusiyana kochepa pakati pa abambo aamuna ndi amayi omwe akusamalira mabanja, pogwiritsa ntchito kafukufuku wa Family Care Alliance, Statistics Canada, ndi buku lakuti "Men As Caregivers" la Betty J. Kramer ndi Edward Thompson, Jr .:

1. Palimodzi, amuna asonyeza zosankha kusamalira chisamaliro m'malo mowasamalira. Mwachitsanzo, munthu akhoza kukonzekera wina kuti athandize ndi ntchito monga kusamba kapena kuvala mkazi wake kapena bambo ake omwe akusowa thandizo pazochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku. Iwo amangokhala osasamala kupereka chisamaliro monga momwe akazi angakhalire.
2. Ofufuza apeza kuti amuna ena safuna kulankhula za mavuto aliwonse omwe amakumana nawo pa udindo wawo wothandizira, kapena kugawana nawo nkhani zothandizira ndi achibale ena, ogwira nawo ntchito, kapena abwenzi. Izi, zimatanthawuza kuti sakufunafuna thandizo mofanana ndi momwe akazi ena ali ndi maudindo ofanana.

1. Kawirikawiri, amuna amayamba kufunafuna njira zothetsera vuto lachisamalidwe ndi amayi omwe amachititsa kuti azikhala osamala. Chitsanzo chimodzi cha izi ndi chakuti amuna angaganizire zamakono zamakono ngati gawo la dongosolo la chisamaliro m'malo mochita manja ena.
2. Amuna amalengeza kuti samakhala okonzekera kusamalira odwala kusiyana ndi amayi omwe amachitira kuti pakhale zosowa, sadziwa kumene angapezeke kapena amene angafunse.

1. Amuna amayesetsa kuyembekezera kuti pakhale mavuto - monga chipatala-asanayambe kupeza thandizo lililonse lachipatala kwa mamembala awo, koma amayi amawunikira thandizo limeneli atakhala ndi vuto lakumusamalira.

Pakati pa kusiyana kumeneku, pali zowoneka bwino pakati pa amuna omwe amasamalira akazi awo, amuna omwe amasamalira mwana wolumala, ndi amuna omwe amasamalira makolo akulu. Mwachitsanzo, Pankhani ya amuna omwe amapereka chithandizo kwa akazi awo, amatha kupereka chisamaliro chaumwini kuposa osamalidwa.

Musapite Ikha Pokha

Chifukwa chakuti amuna sagwiritsa ntchito kugaŵana kwawo ndi omwe ali pafupi kwambiri ndi iwo sakutanthauza kuti safunikira thandizo. Kafukufuku amasonyeza kuti amuna amatha kuvutika maganizo-ndipamwamba kwambiri kwa iwo amene amaika mkazi wawo ndi matenda a maganizo odwala matenda a maganizo ku nyumba yosungirako okalamba-ndipo amapindula ndi kuwonjezeka kotonthozedwa ndi kuzindikira.

Malangizo ena othandizira abambo azimuna-komanso azimayi nawonso-kuonetsetsa kuti sakuwotcha:

1. Gwiritsani gulu lothandizana limene likukumana pa intaneti kapena payekha. Pali mitundu yambiri ya magulu othandizira kunja kwa ena-ena mwa amuna okha, ena omwe ali okhudza matenda, ena omwe amagwirizana ndi tchalitchi chapafupi, ndi zina. Uwu ndi mwayi osati kungogawana mavuto anu, komanso kuti mupeze chidziwitso kwa anthu omwe ayenda njira yomweyo.

1. Samalani inu. Mwina mupitirize kudya kapena kudya zakudya zoyenera, muzichita masewera olimbitsa thupi nthawi zonse, ndipo muzitha kugona tulo usiku wonse. Ngakhale osamalira kutali kwambiri angapatule nthawi yomwe angagwiritse ntchito posamalira yekha wokondedwa wawo. Komabe, kunyalanyaza umoyo wanu sikokhalitsa ndipo mumayesetsa kuti musasamalire wokondedwa wanu mofanana.
2. Pemphani thandizo. Kaya mukufuna thandizo linalake ndi chisamaliro kuchokera kwa mamembala ena kapena kupita kwa wothandizira zaumoyo pazofuna zanu zachipatala, yesani dzanja lanu mmalo mopitirizabe kudziletsa. Amuna makamaka amakonda kugwira ntchito yosamalira banja monga ntchito yomwe ayenera kuthana nayo, pamene zenizeni n'zakuti gulu la chisamaliro chachikondi ndi labwino lingapindulitse aliyense.

1. Pumulani. Pali mabungwe angapo osapindula monga Caregifted ndi Well Spouse Association omwe amapereka mwayi wopeza mwayi wosamalira banja. Ngakhale kutenga ola limodzi kwa munthu kamodzi patsiku kapena kamodzi pa sabata kungapangitse kusiyana kumatha kulimbikitsanso.

Ngati ndinu wosamalira banja, dziwani kuti simuli nokha. Ngati mumudziwa mwamuna yemwe akusamalira banja, awone ngati akupeza chithandizo chomwe akuchifuna.