Masiku omwe munthu akudwala matenda a khansa, mnzakeyo kapena mkazi wake amakhala ndi ndalama zambiri poona wokondedwa wake kupyolera muvutoli. Si zachilendo kuti maanja azipita ku dokotala aliyense ndi kukambirana naye, kapena kuti awone anzake akulandira mankhwala, ntchito zapakhomo, ana, ndondomeko, chakudya, ndi ntchito zina zambiri popanda kudandaula kapena kudandaula.
Koma, patapita miyezi kapena zaka zopatula nthawi ndi mphamvu za munthu ngati mnzanu ndi wosamalira, mkwiyo wokwiya ndi mkwiyo ungayambe kulowa mkati. Mwadzidzidzi, kugwidwa mu chiyanjano kumayamba kupanga, kukayikira ngati ukwati ungathe kupulumuka chithandizo cha khansa.
Monga zosokoneza monga momwe zimakhalira, ndizofunika kudziwa kuti ndi zachilendo. Mwina sitingakonde iwo - angatilepheretse - koma kugwira ntchito kudzera mukumverera pamodzi kumakuthandizani kuti banja lanu likhale losagwirizana.
Kumvetsa Zifukwa Zokwiya
Pamene tikumana ndi chinthu chachikulu ngati khansa ya wokondedwa, nthawi zambiri timayesetsa kuti tigwire bwino ntchitoyi. Timawerenga bukhu lirilonse, timaphunzira mfundo zonse, ndikuchita zonse zomwe tikuyenera kuchita kuti tikwaniritse mzere womalizira.
Koma sizimagwira ntchito nthawi zonse. Pamapeto pake, khansa ilibe njira yabwino. Padzakhala masiku abwino ndi zoipa, ndipo chiwonongeko chikhoza kuwonjezeka kuposa zomwe mungathe kuziyembekezera.
Polimbana ndi zenizenizi, zingakhale zomveka kukhumudwa - ngakhale kukwiyira - pamene kutopa kwa thupi ndi kukhumudwa kumayambira.
Nthaŵi zambiri, malingaliro ameneŵa amathamangitsidwa, kutanthauza kuti chinthu chenicheni cha mkwiyo wanu sichimayanjana wanu koma khansa ya mnzanuyo. Okondedwa anu amangopereka khansara nkhope ndi dzina limene mungaloze ndikukweza mkwiyo wanu.
Zimayambitsa Mkwiyo ndi Mkwiyo
Zochitika kapena zochitika zina zingayambitse malingaliro awa, ena mwa omwe mungakhale mukuwadziŵa ndi ena omwe akuwoneka kuti akuchokapo.
Zina mwazovuta kwambiri zimaphatikizapo:
- Mumayamba kumva kulemera kwa nsembe yanu. Pamaso pa khansara, mwina mwakhala mukugwira ntchito yowonjezerapo kuti mupulumutse nyumba yatsopano kapena tchuthi; tsopano mukugwira ntchito kuti mumwalire mankhwala ndi mankhwala anu inshuwalansi sangaphimbe. Inu mulibe kusankha; mukufuna ndalama. Pasanapite nthawi, umoyo wanu ndi umoyo wanu umayamba kuvutika, ndipo nsembe zomwe mumapanga mwadzidzidzi zimawoneka kuti ndizopanikizika.
- Mukuona kuti muli ndi ntchito zambiri kuposa momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito. Pamene wokondedwa wanu akudwala, nthawi zambiri mumakakamizika kutenga maudindo omwe simunakhalepo kale. Mwina mwadzidzidzi mungapeze ntchito zapakhomo ndi ntchito ya nthawi zonse. Patapita nthawi, mukhoza kuyamba kukayika ngati mukuchita bwino. Zosokoneza zimayamba kulowa.
- Mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wasiya kugonana ndi chibwenzi. Pansi ya libido ikhoza kukhala ndi zotsatira za mankhwala a khansa. Zingakhalenso chifukwa chodzidalira chifukwa cha tsitsi, kutaya thupi, ndi kuvutika kwa tsiku ndi tsiku kwa kudwala. Ngati mutakhala ndi moyo wathanzi musanayambe kuchipatala, zingakhale zovuta kuti mupewe kukondana kwa nthawi yaitali. Mukamayesa kubisa izi, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri.
- Vuto la kukhala wothandizira lasintha kwambiri. Kusamalira zosowa za mnzanu tsiku ndi tsiku kungakhale kovuta. Mungakayikire luso lanu, muli ndi vuto lokonzekera nthawi yanu, ndikumverera ngati moyo wanu suli wanu. Kusamalira ana ndi udindo wofunika kwambiri ngakhale ngakhale pazifukwa zabwino zingapangitse wothandizira kusamalira.
Zokuthandizani Kulimbana ndi Chisoni Pamene Wokwatirana Wanu Akudwala
Mfundo yaikulu ndi iyi: Chifundo chilichonse chomwe mungakhale nacho kwa mnzanuyo chikhoza chifukwa cha maganizo, thupi, ndi maganizo omwe muli nawo. Ndithudi, palibe amene amasangalala nazo, koma ngati mumagwedezeka ndi kutopa, Zingatheke ngati mukuzikonda kapena ayi.
Pali zinthu zingapo zimene mungachite kuti mupirire bwino maganizo awa:
- Khalani maso pa mphoto. Khansa ikhoza kukhala mbali ya yemwe mnzanuyo ali, koma sichikutanthauzira. Ganizirani za makhalidwe omwe mumakonda nthawi zambiri, mwina kuseka, kumwetulira, kapena wina aliyense amene angapezeke. Makhalidwe amenewo adakalipo.
- Konzani zam'tsogolo. Dzikumbutseni kuti tsogolo liri ndi khansara. Yesetsani kukonzekera ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu. Ngati iye amatsutsa, avomereze ngati chinthu chimene mungathe kubwerera. Mungadabwe kuti nthawi yachiwiri (kapena yachitatu), mkazi wanu adzakhala pomwepo ndi inu.
- Kulankhulana zakukhosi kwanu. Palibe njira yothetsera malingaliro anu ngati muwameza. Kulongosola malingaliro anu , zonse zabwino ndi zoipa, zimakupatsani inu kugawana momwe mukukumvera osati kuganizira pa chochitika chimene chimalimbikitsa maganizo amenewo. Maganizo ndi zinthu zomwe mungathe kusintha ndi kusintha; zochitika ndi mikhalidwe nthawi zambiri siziri.
- Fufuzani chithandizo . Monga mwamuna kapena mkazi wa munthu amene ali ndi khansa, simungadziyerekeze kuti mukupita nokha. Magulu othandizira, kaya mwambo ndi pa intaneti, ndi njira zabwino zowonjezera malingaliro anu momasuka komanso opanda mlandu. Atsogoleri a atsogoleri, alangizi, ndi mabwenzi odalirika ndi malo ogulitsa abwino. Pamene mukuthandizidwa kwambiri, mumakhala okonzeka bwino kuti muthandize wokondedwa wanu.
- Pezani chithandizo musanachifune. Masiku ano pamsika pamsika, pali njira zambiri zothandizira kuphika, kuyeretsa, kusamalira ana, kugula, ndi ntchito zina zomwe mungapeze. Yesetsani kwa abwenzi ndi abanja, kapena pempherani kwa anzanu kuti muthandizidwe ndi udzu kapena kugula. Nthawi zambiri izi zimakhumudwitsa zomwe zimayambitsa mavuto aakulu.
- Tengani zopuma. Mpumulo wochokera kuchipatala ndi wofunika kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino. Ngakhale ngati mumadzimva kuti ndinu wolakwa, kupuma nthawi zina kumakulolani kuti mubwererenso ndikupeza zofunikira kuti muthe kusamalira bwino zovuta panyumba. Mabungwe a zaumoyo apakhomo angathandize osowa chithandizo kuti alowemo ola limodzi kapena awiri, akuthandizira pa ntchito zapakhomo ndi ntchito zina zapakhomo pamene mukudzipatsanso nthawi yokonzanso mabatire anu.