Chisoni Ndi Chachilengedwe, Koma Sichikhalire
Makolo ambiri amamva chisoni kwambiri mwana wawo atapezeka kuti ali ndi autism. Kaŵirikaŵiri, chisoni chimenecho chimagwirizana ndi kutayika. Ngakhale kuti mwana wawo akadali gawo la miyoyo yawo, makolo ena amamverera kuti ataya mwana wawo yemwe amayembekezera, kapena mwanayo amene akuganiza kuti ali nawo. Ena amakhumudwa chifukwa chozindikira kuti mwana wawo ali ndi autism adzakhala pafupifupi moyo wawo wonse ndi olumala.
Enanso amakhumudwa ndi lingaliro lakuti sadzatha kupereka kwao mwamuna kapena makolo mphatso ya "mwana wangwiro" kapena zidzukulu.
Ngakhale kuti chisoni chimakhala chochitika kwa makolo ambiri, akatswiri a maganizo a maganizo a Cindy Ariel ndi Robert Naseef amapereka njira zothetsera komanso kuthana ndi ululu.
Kuchokera kwa Dr. Cindy Ariel: Maloto Atsopano ndi Kukondwerera Chimwemwe Chatsopano
Pali zambiri zowonongeka kupyolera mu moyo, ndipo zikuwoneka mozama kwambiri, kutaya kulikonse kumawonjezera tanthauzo ndi kuya kwa miyoyo yathu. Tonsefe timamva chisoni pambali zosiyanasiyana m'miyoyo yathu koma izi sizichepetsa nthawi zathu za chimwemwe ndi chimwemwe. Ndipotu chisoni chimakondweretsa chimwemwe chifukwa chimwemwe chimakhala chokoma kwambiri pambuyo pokumana ndi chisoni.
Pamene tikufika povomereza komwe ana athu alili komanso omwe alidi, timalota maloto atsopano kwa iwo komanso kwa mabanja athu ndipo maloto atsopanowa amakhala okhudzidwa kwambiri pazinthu zenizeni ndipo motero zimatha kupezeka.
Pamene tinalota kale pokhala ndi mafilosofi ndi mwana wathu, tsopano tikhoza kungofuna kumva iwo akutitcha amayi kapena abambo kapena akuti ndikukondani ... kamodzi kokha. Maloto athu angafunikire kulephera kumva mwana wathu akuyankhula mokwanira komanso kumangoganizira chabe kuti amuwone maso ndi kumwetulira. Pamene zolinga zatsopano zoterezi zifikira, ndizosangalatsadi.
Izi sizikutanthauza kuti nthawi zina sitimakonda kapena timalakalaka mwana amene timamuganizira. Tikamaganizirapo, nthawi zonse timamva chisoni.
Kulota maloto atsopano ndikusangalala ndi zolinga zatsopano kumatithandiza kukhala osangalala ndi mwana yemwe tili naye. Palibe amene amafuna kuti mavuto awo agwere ana awo. Tikhoza kukhumudwa, kudziimba mlandu, ndikumva chisoni pamene mwana wathu ali ndi vuto lomwe lidzapangitse moyo, womwe uli kale wovuta, komanso mochuluka. Timakumana ndi mavuto ndipo timakonda ana athu ngakhale pamene timamva chisoni komanso timakondwerera miyoyo yawo yapadera komanso nthawi yomwe timapatsidwa kukhala pamodzi.
Kuchokera kwa Dr. Robert Naseef: Dzipatseni Nthawi Yokhumudwa, Yachiritsirani, Ndi Kulandira
Chisoni chikhoza kubwera m'mafunde ndipo zingatenge malo omwe simunayambe kupita. Ndi njira yachibadwa ndi yachibadwa, yomwe imabwera ndikupita. Choyamba, dziwani kuti simuli nokha mu izi komanso kuti malingaliro anu omwe amachititsa kuti mutenge mantha, kudziimba mlandu, kupsa mtima, ndi kukhumudwa kwenikweni ndi zizindikiro za mtima wosweka. Choncho pitirizani kuyang'ana pachisoni chanu.
Sungani malingaliro anu ndi kumverera kwanu. Awalandire ndipo mukhale okoma mtima kwa inu nokha. Sichikuthandizani kuti mukhale osangalala pamene pansi panu mukhale osungulumwa, mantha, kapena achisoni. Simuyenera kunama nokha.
Mungathe kumva chisoni. Mungathe kudandaula. Inu mukhoza kulira. Izi zimakuthandizani kupitilira, kuchita zabwino, ndikusangalala ndi moyo.
Ndichibadwa kudabwa ndi zomwe zikanakhalapo. Kulakalaka mwana wathanzi wa maloto anu kapena moyo weniweni wa inu ndi banja lanu kupirira. Muyenera kuphunzira kukhala ndi chilakolako chimenecho, ndipo mukhoza kuchita zimenezo, koma simukuyenera kunama nokha za momwe izi zingakhalire zovuta.
Chachiwiri, yesetsani kudzivomereza nokha monga momwe muliri- wachifundo komanso wachikondi paren mukuchita bwino ndi mwana wanu yemwe mosakayikira akuchita zonse zomwe angathe poyesedwa.
Pomaliza, kuvomereza kupweteka kwathu ndi tokha kumapangitsa kuvomereza ndi kusangalatsa mwana wathu ndi banja lathu.
Iyi ndiyo njira yokondera ndi chimwemwe. Kulumikizana kwakukulu kumene kholo limamva ndi mwana wakhanda, kapena njira zoyamba za mwana, kapena mawu oyambirira amatha kumverera nthawi iliyonse pamene ife timadziwa bwino ndi kuyang'ana kwa mwana wathu. Kulumikizana kwakukulu kumeneko kuli moyo mkati mwanu. Pamene mukubwezeretsanso, mutha kukhala osangalala kwambiri. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti moyo wanu udzakhala wosavuta. Koma zingakhale zosangalatsa ndi zokwaniritsa.
Robert Naseef, Ph.D., ndi Cindy Ariel, Ph.D., ndi olemba a "Voices kuchokera ku Spectrum: Makolo, Agogo, Agogo, Anthu Okhala ndi Autism, ndi Ophunzira Amagawana Nzeru Zawo" (2006). Pa intaneti pa Zosankha Zina.