Funso: Kodi Tingawathandize Bwanji Mwana Wathu Wovomerezeka Kulimbana ndi Kusudzulana Kwathu?
Ndikufuna kudziwa momwe ndingathandizire mwana wanga kuthana ndi chisudzulo changa. Ndakhala ndi mwayi wokwanira kupeza wothandizira amene amamvetsa autism, ngakhale ndikuyang'ana njira zamasiku ndi tsiku, momwe ndingayankhire mafunso ovuta, ndizovuta ziti zomwe zimachitikira ana pa nthawi ya chisudzulo, momwe mungasangalale kusagwirizana maganizo, kusintha nthawi, kusintha maudindo, ndi kudzidalira.
Yankho: Kuchokera ku Cindy Ariel:
Kusudzulana ndikovuta kwambiri kwa aliyense m'banja. Nthawi zambiri ana amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi mavuto omwe kawirikawiri amakhala nawo panthawi yovuta ya kusintha kwa banja. Kukhumudwa, kukhumudwa, mantha, manyazi, chisoni, kupumula kwa onse m'banja. Ana amazimva ndipo nthawi zambiri amamverera kuti ali ndi udindo pa zochitika ndi maganizo pakati pa makolo awo ndi iwo eni. Ndikofunikira kuvomereza zomwe mukukumana nazo ndikuzindikira kuti izi zimayenda bwino kwa aliyense. Cholinga chachikulu pa nkhani imeneyi ndi kuchepetsa kukhumudwa kwakukulu ndi zolakwika kwa mwana wanu.
Njira yothetsera mafunso ovuta ndi mosamala, molimbika, ndi imodzi panthawi. Izi nthawi zambiri zimachitidwa bwino ndi chithandizo ndi chitsogozo kuchokera kwa katswiri yemwe amadziwa mwana wanu onse komanso mkhalidwe ngakhale pali zina zomwe zingapangidwe.
Ngati mwana wanu akufunsa, ali wokonzeka kuyankha. Yankho liyenera kukhala loyang'ana pa msinkhu wa mwana wanu komanso moona mtima komanso moyenera panthawi yovuta. Ngakhale mfundo zili zofunika kwa ana, safunikira kudziwa zonse zomwe makolo akuganiza kuti ndibwino kuti asakhale pamodzi.
Ndikofunika kuti musapatule kukhulupirika kwa mwana wanu awiri mwa kulemekeza kapena kulankhula molakwika za kholo lina. Afunika kudziwitsidwa za kusintha kwa pulogalamu ndikukhala ndi chidziwitso chodziwikiratu cha pamene adzawonanso kholo lawo lina. Kusagwirizana maganizo kumachepetsedwa payekha; kumbukirani zinthu zomwe mwana wanu amafuna kuti azitha kutenthetsa komanso otetezeka komanso okondedwa.
Zingamveke ngati kuti banja likuphwanyidwa kwenikweni, ndipo m'njira zambiri izo ziri. Koma m'kupita kwa nthawi, aliyense adzakula ndipo maganizo ndi maudindo amayamba kusintha. Padzakhala mantha ochepa komanso kusokonezeka maganizo pamene nthawi ikupitirira. Kudzidalira kudzapitiriza, mwa mbali, kukhala womangirizana ndi amayi ndi abambo kotero mwana wanu ayenera kumverera bwino momwe angathere pa kholo lililonse ndi ubale wake ndi iwo.
Kuchokera kwa Bob Naseef:
Kupeza katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi mbiri ya autism ndithudi ndi dalitso. Mafunso omwe mumayankha bwino amayankhidwa ndi katswiri yemwe amadziwa inu komanso amadziwa mwana wanu. Momwe kholo limasudzulidwa likuyendetsa bwino nkhani izi zimayambira pa msinkhu wa mwana wanu kukula potsata chiyankhulo ndi kuzindikira kumvetsetsa. Zomwe zikusowa mundandanda wanu ndi momwe mungasamalirire zosowa zanu komanso chisoni chomwe chimatsutsana ndi imfa yayikulu yambiri ndipo ndithudi kusudzulana ndikutayika.
Owerenga ambiri a ndimeyi akhoza kudandaula za maukwati awo pamene ena ali pachikhalidwe chanu.
Monga Josh Greenfeld analemba mu A Child Called Noah (1970), "Pali vuto lililonse paukwati uliwonse pamene mwana akudwala. Ndipo nthawi zonse timakhala ndi mwana wodwala. "Mtundu wakumangika kosaneneka kuti kulera mwana ndi zosowa zapadera kumakhudza kungakhudze maubwenzi pazofooka zawo. Malingana ndi US Census Bureau (2000), maukwati 47% oyambirira amalephera ndipo 57% mwa mabanja onse amathetsa ukwati. Ngakhale kuti zofukufukuzo sizigwirizana, akatswiri ambiri amavomereza kuti ngakhale kuti chiwerengero cha kusudzulana ndi ofanana, zikuoneka kuti pali mavuto ambiri m'banja mwa ana omwe ali ndi zosowa zapadera (Seligman ndi Darling, Families, Children Special, 1997).
Zofunikira za ana omwe ali ndi autism ndi zovuta komanso zovuta. Kukulunga muzopsinjika ndi zovuta za moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, maubwenzi amakumana ndi kusowa chidwi. Pamene ulemala kapena matenda aakulu amapezeka, mphamvu zowoneka pamwamba ndikuyika ubale pa mayesero. Pambuyo pa ululu wopweteka kwambiri, anthu ena okwatirana amayandikana, koma kwa ena omwe ali pachibwenzi omwe ali olemala kapena osasinthasintha amatha kukhala "udzu wotsiriza." Mabanja ena amatha pamene ena amakula ngakhale kuti akukumana ndi mavuto. Anthu amatha kuchoka ku mavuto omwe akuwongolera komanso opindulitsa. Anthu ena amamva bwino pamene banja lidzaza ndi mavuto osatha.
Kuti mwana akule bwino, amafunikira makolo olimbikira, odzipereka. Choncho kusamalira zosowa zanu n'kofunika kwa banja lanu monga momwe zilili tsopano. Tikuyembekeza kuti muli ndi chithandizireni nokha pankhani ya ubale ndi chifundo. Kusamvana chifukwa cha chisudzulo kungatenge nthawi. Kawirikawiri ndimawona anthu omwe asudzulana koma osati osiyana maganizo ndi zomwe adakumana nazo. Thandizo ndi chisamaliro cha ana, kotero kuti mutha kupeza nthawi yokha nokha ndizosangalatsa pamene mungapeze. Ngati sichoncho, kupeza nokha ndikudzipangira nthawi yosangalatsa kungakhale kosangalatsa kwambiri.
Robert Naseef, Ph.D., ndi Cindy Ariel, Ph.D., ndi olemba a "Voices kuchokera ku Spectrum: Makolo, Agogo, Agogo, Anthu Omwe Ali ndi Autism, ndi Ophunzira Amagawana Nzeru Zawo" (2006). Pa intaneti pa http://www.alternativechoices.com