Nazi malingaliro awiri pa ufulu wa achinyamata omwe ali ndi autistic.
Kodi makolo ayenera kupereka liti ufulu wawo wodziimira paokha? Kodi muyenera "kusiya," ngakhale mwana wanu ali wamng'ono kwambiri pa msinkhu wake? Madokotala. Cindy Ariel ndi Robert Naseef, akatswiri a zamaganizo omwe amagwira ntchito ndi mabanja apadera amapereka malangizo awo.
Kuchokera kwa Dr. Cindy Ariel:
Kusamala pakati pa kugwiritsabe ntchito ndi kusiya kupita ndi chimodzi mwa zovuta kwambiri zomwe makolofe tikuyenera kukumana nacho.
Pa nthawiyi mu moyo wa mwana wanu, zingakhale zoyenera kutenga mpando wambiri kumbuyo nthawi zambiri. Mungathebe kulankhulana momasuka ndi mwana wanu ndikumuthandiza kuchita zomwe akuyesera kuchita.
Kwa achinyamata onse, tikuyembekeza kukhala m'miyoyo yawo komanso kuchoka pa nkhope zawo panthawi yomweyo. Ngati mwana wanu ali ndi vuto locheza ndi anthu , pomwe panopa simukuyenera kukhazikitsa 'masewera a masewera' kapena kuti azikonzekera gulu lake nthawi zonse, mukhoza kupereka malingaliro ena kwa mphunzitsi kapena mtsogoleri wa gulu ndipo mungamuphunzitse mwana wanu pambali pake.
Mfundo ina yofunika kukumbukira ndi yakuti achinyamata ena samafuna kuyankhulana ngakhale makolo awo angamve kuti ndi kofunika kuti iwo akhale nawo. Ndikofunika kutsimikiza kuti zolinga zomwe mumakhazikitsa kwa mwana wanu zikuphatikizapo zomwe akufuna tsopano osati zomwe mukuganiza kuti ayenera kukhala nazo kapena kuchita.
Iye sangakhale konse moyo wa phwando ndipo nthawizonse angakhale pang'ono pokhapokha, koma kwa iye izi zingakhale malo abwino ndi omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito. Zingapangitse kuti anthu azigwirizana ndi anzawo komanso apatsidwe mtunda wautali osati zovuta zambiri. Ngati akufuna zambiri, mukhoza kumuthandiza kuphunzira kusunthira ndi kukwaniritsa zambiri payekha.
Kuchokera kwa Dr. Robert Naseef:
Nthawi yoti musunge, nthawi yoti mulole kupita, nthawi yoti mukankhire, ndi kuti mukakoke; izi ndi zina mwazo zomwe kholo lirilonse limalimbana nazo ndi "zachibadwa" komanso "ana apadera".
Zotsatira za ana ndi achinyamata zimakhala zabwino pamene makolo ndi akatswiri amagwira ntchito limodzi kuti azitha kulemekeza ena ndikugwirizana nawo. Makolo, chifukwa cha chiyanjano chawo ndi mwana wawo, ali owona eni enieni okha, ndi mfundo zopereka zomwe palibe aliyense angakwanitse. Othandizira, komano, kupyolera mu maphunziro ndi chidziwitso, angapereke luso komanso maonekedwe omwe makolo okha alibe. Aliyense ali ndi chidziwitso chochepa, ndi nzeru zonse zomwe zingatheke kupyolera mu ntchito ya timu-nthawi zambiri mayesero ndi zolakwika zimakhudzidwa. Ngati mwana wanu akukalamba, ngati n'kotheka, ayenera kumagwira ntchito ndi akatswiri ndikupanga mapulani. Chimene akuganiza kuti akusowa ndi chofunikira pofika pa dongosolo labwino ndi mwayi wopambana.
Kulola kupita kungakhale kovuta kwambiri, ndipo mwinamwake choncho. Mwinanso njira yeniyeni yowonera vutoli ndi kungomasula ndi kuona zomwe zimachitika. Ngati mwana wanu akuwoneka akubwerera, izi zikhoza kuwatsimikizira ena kuti akusowa chithandizo chochuluka kuposa momwe anaganizira.
Ngati atha kuthana ndi vutoli, mukhoza kudabwa. Pali zovuta zosapeŵeka komanso zosapeŵeka. Sitingathe kulamulira zimenezo, koma tikhoza kulamulira mmene timayankhira.
Kusiyana pakati pa mwana wanu autistic ndi ena a msinkhu wake kungakhale kovuta kwambiri paunyamata. Ena mwa abwenzi ake apamtima omwe akupita patsogolo akhoza kukhala achinyamata ena omwe akukula ndi matenda a autism . Anthu ena amanyalanyaza izi chifukwa ali ofunitsitsa, movomerezeka, kuti ana awo avomereze ndi anthu. Chowonadi n'chakuti mwana wanu amafunika kupitiriza kuthandizidwa ndi kutsogolera, ena mwa akatswiri odziwa bwino ntchito, kuti apitilizebe chitukuko chake.
Ngakhale kuti izi zingawononge ndalama, zomwe zimapindulitsa kwa nthawi yaitali zimaposa mtengo wa kusamuthandizira.
Imeneyi ndi msewu wautali komanso wokhotakhota wokweza mwana wa autistic. N'zovuta kudziwa nthawi iliyonse yomwe muyenera kuvomereza ndi zomwe muyenera kuchita. Ntchito ya kholo siimathera-imangosintha. Dzipatseni nokha bwino pamsana kuti mugwire apa. Muzidziyang'anira bwino.
Robert Naseef, Ph.D., ndi Cindy Ariel, Ph.D., ndi olemba a "Voices kuchokera ku Spectrum: Makolo, Agogo, Agogo, Anthu Okhala ndi Autism, ndi Ophunzira Amagawana Nzeru Zawo" (2006).