Mtheradi Osakhala Zoona Kugonana Ndi Nthano

Pa nkhani yanga yoyamba mu mndandanda watsopano wokhudzana ndi kugonana, ndikuyambanso kugwira ntchito yowonongeka - kuti kugonana kwa m'kamwa sikutanthauza kugonana. Anthu ambiri angakonde kutsutsa chiyambi cha nthano za kugonana kwa Bill Clinton. Komabe, zoona zake n'zakuti anthu akhala akukangana kuti ngati kugonana m'kamwa ndiko kwenikweni kugonana kuyambira kale kumapeto kwa zaka za m'ma 1990.

Koma kodi kugonana ndi nthano?

Kaya kugonana kumalankhula ndi kugonana kumagwirizana ndi momwe mukufotokozera kugonana. Palibe yankho limodzi. Kuti tiwone ngati izi ndi zoona zogonana, ife choyamba tiyenera kudziwa zomwe anthu akufuna kudziwa pamene akufunsa kuti "Kodi kugonana m'kamwa kumagonana kwenikweni?" Mwina akudabwa:

1. Kodi kugonana ndikamwa kumatanthauza kuti ndinali wosakhulupirika kwa wokondedwa wanga? Kodi kugonana kwachinsinsi kumamwa?!?!
2. Ngati ndili ndi chiwalo chogonana, ndingakhalebe namwali ?
3. Kodi kugonana kwa m'kamwa kumandipangitsa kuti ndikhale ndi chiopsezo chotenga matenda opatsirana pogonana ?
4. Kodi kugonana kumlomo ndi chipembedzo changa?
   ... kapena wina wa mafunso ena angapo.

Ena mwa mafunsowa alibe mayankho osavuta. Zina ndi zomveka kwambiri.

1. Anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi mgwirizano wapamtima angaganize kuti kugonana kwachinsinsi kumayenga. Komabe, abwenzi ena angaganize kuti ndizosadziletsa kusiyana ndi kugonana kapena kugonana kwa abambo .
2. Koma ngati kugonana kwa m'kamwa kumachotsa umoyo waumunthu - ndilo funso lomveka. Anthu ena amaona kuti kukhala namwali ndi funso lokha ngati ali ndi chiwerewere . Izi zikutanthauza kuti akhoza kukhala anamwali pokhala ndi kugonana kwa m'kamwa ndi kugonana kwa abambo komanso zochitika zina zogonana. Anthu ena amaganiza kuti kugonana kwa "chiwerengero" koma kugonana kwa pakamwa sikutanthauza. Anthu ena amaganiza kuti kuseweretsa maliseche ndi dildo kumapangitsa msungwana kuti asakhalenso namwali chifukwa zingasokoneze mwamuna wake (ngati ali ndi imodzi).
   Ngati kukhalabe namwali ndi kofunikira kwa inu, ndiye kwa inu kudziwa momwe umaliseche umatanthawuzira. Kamodzi kokha mutachita kale mungathe kusankha ngati kugonana mkamwa ndi chinthu chomwe mumafuna kufufuza. Komabe, nkofunika kukumbukira kuti umbuli umatanthauza zinthu zosiyana kwa anthu osiyanasiyana. Ngati mawuwa ayamba kukambirana, tanthauzo lake liyenera kukambidwa.

1. Kugonana pamimba sizitetezeka kugonana. Ngakhale kupatsirana kachilombo ka HIV kudzera m'kamwa kovomerezeka sikofala, zimachitika. Kugonana kwazamwa kungathenso kufalitsa matenda ena opatsirana pogonana . Kuopsa kwa kutenga matenda opatsirana pogonana kumatha kuchepetsedwa pogwiritsa ntchito kondomu kapena choletsa china . Komabe, ngati tanthauzo lanu la kugonana ndilo lingathe kufalitsa matenda opatsirana pogonana , ndiye kuti palibe funso. Kugonana kwachisonyezo ndiko kugonana moona mtima.

1. Ichi chomaliza chingakhale chovuta kwa anthu ena achipembedzo kuyankha. Yankho likudalira osati pa chipembedzo chomwe chilipo koma potembenuza kutanthauzira kwa malemba achipembedzo.

Momwemonso mawu akuti "Kugonana kwachinsinsi si kwenikweni kugonana" kugonana nthano kapena ndi choonadi? Zonse zimatsikira momwe mumasulira funsolo. Komabe, ndikuganiza kuti kulemera kwa umboni kukudalira ...

ZOCHITA

Gawo lina laling'ono la anthu limangotanthauzanso khalidwe la kugonana monga ntchito zomwe zingayambitse kutenga pakati. Komabe, anthu ambiri omwe akufunsa ngati kugonana kumalankhula ndi kugonana sikufunsa ngati kugonana kwa m'kamwa kungawathandize kutenga mimba. (Popanda zochitika zodabwitsa, yankho limenelo ndi NO .)

Chimene anthu ambiri akufuna kudziwa, pamene akufunsa ngati kugonana kumalankhula ndi kugonana, ndiko kugonana kwa m'kamwa:

1. akhoza kuphwanya malamulo a chiyanjano chogonana chokha,
2. zingawathandize kukhala ndi mavuto ndi makolo awo kapena mpingo wawo,
3. amawayika pangozi kwa matenda opatsirana pogonana kapena zotsatira zina zoipa.

Kwa mafunso onsewa, yankho ndilokuti inde.