Ngati mwangodzipezerapo kuti mukusamalira wokondedwa wanu yemwe ndi wogontha kapena wosamva, mungakhale mukuvutika kuwathandiza. Komanso, muyenera kuphunzira kuthetsa nkhawa za kusamalila munthu wina kuti asamapse mtima. Nkhaniyi iyankha mafunso ambiri omwe mungakumane nawo pamene mukusamalira munthu wosamva kapena wosamva.
Malangizo Oyankhulana ndi Munthu Wosamva Kapena Wovuta Kumva
- Malingana ndi zochitika, kuphunzira chinenero chamanja chofunikira kungakhale kothandiza.
- Lankhulani maso ndi maso kuti munthu yemwe ali wogontha kapena womva bwino amvetse milomo yanu. Lankhulani pang'onopang'ono ndi momveka bwino.
- Kwa munthu amene akumva bwino, lankhulani mokweza kuti amve inu popanda kufuula. Kufuula kapena kufuula kungapangitse kusokonezeka kumveka komwe kungachititse kuti zikhale zovuta kuti iwo akuzimvetseni.
- Ngati munthu yemwe ali wothandizira kuti amve zomwe zili zovuta mu khutu limodzi zitsimikizirani kuti mukhale pambali pa khutu lomwe limamva bwino.
- Yesani kuchepetsa phokoso lakumbuyo.
- Ngati ndi kotheka, kambiranani mwa kulemba. Makamaka ngati mfundozo ndi zofunika.
- Munthu akhoza kuyesetsa zambiri kuti alankhule ngati atatopa kapena akudwala. Izi zikufunikanso kwa inu, mwina mukhoza kutaya mtima kapena kukhumudwa ngati mutatopa kapena mukudwala.
- Onetsetsani kusunga maofesi ndikugwira ntchito ndi akatswiri monga katswiri wa zamagulu kapena olankhula mawu kuti apitirize kulimbikitsa kuyankhulana. Gwiritsani ntchito luso lamakono monga zothandizira kumva kapena zopangira zowonjezera zomwe zingakhale zopindulitsa.
- Dziwani kuti chilankhulo cha thupi ndi gawo lalikulu la kulankhulana kosalankhulidwa. Ichi ndi chifukwa china chotsutsana wina ndi mzake pakuyankhula. Dziwani kusuntha kwa thupi lanu ndi momwe angatanthauzire.
- Phunzirani za zinthu zapansi kwa anthu osamva komanso omvera .
Kodi Wopereka Ntchito Amapuma Motani?
Kusamalira wothandizira, (nthawi zina amatchedwa matenda osokoneza maganizo), ndizochitikadi zomwe zimachokera pazinthu zakuthupi ndi zakuthupi kuti musamalire munthu wina. Ngati wothandizira odwala asapitirire kuchipatala angayambe kugwira ntchito kapena matenda. Zizindikilo za wothandizira odwala angaphatikizepo:
- Kumva chisoni kapena kupsinjika maganizo
- Kupanda chiyembekezo
- Kutaya chidwi pazinthu zomwe mudakhala nazo kale
- Kukhumudwa
- Kugona mochuluka kapena osakwanira
- Kudwala nthawi zambiri
- Kukumverera ngati kuti ukufuna kudzivulaza wekha kapena munthu amene mumamusamalira
- Kusintha kwa chilakolako ndi / kapena kusintha kwa kulemera
- Kusanyalanyaza munthu amene muyenera kumusamalira
- Kusalidwa kolakwika kwa munthu amene mumamukonda
- Kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo (kumwa mowa kwambiri, kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, etc.)
- Kuvuta kuika maganizo
Kulepheretsa Wopereka Wopuma Kutentha
Pofuna kuteteza woperekera chisamaliro, muyenera kudziyang'anira nokha mwakuthupi ndi m'maganizo. Izi ndizovuta kwa ambiri osamalira popeza mukuyesa zosowa zanu ndi za wina. Kuganizira mfundo zotsatirazi kungathandize:
- Pezani kugona mokwanira: Izi zingakhale zovuta makamaka chifukwa munthu amene mukumuyang'anira angakhale ndi matenda omwe amalepheretsa tulo. Zingakhale zofunikira kuti mukhale maso kuti mukwaniritse zosowa zawo. Kuti mupeze kugona mokwanira, ndibwino kuti muyese kugona pamene munthu amene mukumuganizira akugona. Ngati ataya pang'ono amayesera kugwiritsa ntchito mpata kuti atseke maso. Ngati amavutika ndi kugona kapena kugona kovuta kumalankhula kwa dokotala. Kumbukirani kuti inu ndi munthu amene mukumuyang'anira ndi okhumudwitsidwa, wokhumudwa kapena wopanikizika ngati simunagone mokwanira. Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi mokwanira komanso kupewa zofiira monga caffeine kungakuthandizeni kuti mukhale ogona.
- Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi : Monga taonera kale, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kungakuthandizeni kuti mukhale ndi thanzi labwino, kungathandizenso kuti mukhale ndi thanzi labwino komanso ntchito. Simungathe kukhala ndi nthawi yokwanira yochita masewera olimbitsa thupi ngati wothandizira, kotero kuti kuchuluka kwa maseĊµera olimbitsa thupi kungaphatikizepo luntha. Mungafunike kuyenda kapena kuyenda mumalopo mukudikirira dokotala kapena kukweza mwendo pamene mukuwona pulogalamu ya TV yomwe mumakonda. Ngati mungathe kupeza masewera olimbitsa thupi inu ndi munthu amene mukumuyang'anira mukhoza kuchita limodzi, zomwe zingakuthandizeni kupeza zochitika zanu za tsiku ndi tsiku zosavuta. Gwiritsani ntchito malingaliro anu.
- Pezani zakudya zoyenera: Zingakhale zokopa kukonzekera zambiri kuchotsa kapena kukamatira ku chakudya chokhazikika ndi nthawi yochepa yambiri yosamalira odwala. Komabe, kudya zakudya zathanzi kudzakuthandizani kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi mphamvu komanso zakuthupi. Ngati mukuyenera kudya mumayesetse kupeza uthenga wathanzi pa Intaneti musanayambe kulamula. Uthenga wabwino ndi kuti malo odyera ambiri ndi opatsa akudziwitsa izi makasitomala. Kuyika zakudya zathanzi zomwe sizingatheke kukonzekera pamene mungathe ndizomwe zili bwino, (mwachitsanzo maapulo, kapena ziweto zomwe zimabwera kale kutsuka kapena kudula). Muyeneranso kumwa madzi ambiri ndikukhala hydrated.
- Musawope kupempha thandizo : Izi zingakhale zovuta kwambiri, ndi vuto lenileni kwa anthu ambiri omwe amathera ozunzidwa ndi nkhawa / kusokonezeka. Thandizo lingamawoneke kukhala losafikika kwa inu, kapena mungakhale ndi manyazi kufunsa. Komabe, ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zofunika kwambiri zomwe mungachite. Ngati mnzako wothandiza kapena wachibale amakupatsani kanthu kena, asiye. Ngati ndi kotheka, lankhulani ndi dokotala wanu zazomwe mungapeze. Kuyesera kuchita zonse zomwe inu mumakonda kumangowonjezera kukhumudwa m'maganizo kapena m'thupi.
- Kambiranani ndi wina za zomwe mukukumana nazo : Tengani nthawi yolankhula. Ngati mungathe kukhala pansi ndi mnzanu womvetsetsa amene amvetsetse. Ngati mulibe aliyense amene mumamvetsa kuti kulimbana kwanu kuyang'ana pa intaneti kapena kuyankhula ndi dokotala wanu za kupeza gulu lothandizira.
Zingakhale zovuta kuti muzisamalire nokha pamene mukusamalira munthu wosamva kapena wosamva koma kumbukirani kuti ngati mutadwala nokha simungathe kusamalira wokondedwa wanu. Ndi khama pang'ono ndi luso lachidziwitso anthu ambiri angapeze njira yodzikwaniritsa zosowa zawo ndi za iwo omwe akuwasamalira.
> Ambiri:
> Kusamalila: Kuzindikira Kutentha. Cleveland Clinic Website. https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/caregiving-recognizing-burnout. Inapezeka pa July 18, 2017.
> Kulankhulana ndi Anthu Amene Amamva Kutaya. UCSF Medical Center Website. Chiwongola dzanja