Maganizo Omwe Amagwira Pamene Akudikira Zotsatira Zotsatira za Zamankhwala
Kudikirira matendawa kungakhale chimodzi mwa zinthu zovuta kwambiri zomwe munthu amakumana nazo. Ngati muli ndi zizindikiro zosasangalatsa, monga kupweteka, kunyozetsa, kuvutika kuyenda, chizungulire, kapena vuto logona (kutchula ochepa), kuyembekezera kuwona katswiri , kuti mayesero azikonzekera, kapena zotsatira za labu kuti bwererani kungopitiriza kukula kwanu.
Sikuti kungoyembekezera kungowonjezera kukhumudwa kwanu, koma kusatsimikizika kumakuchititsa kuti muwone ngati mulibe nangula.
Palinso anthu amene amamasulidwa kuti apeze matenda olakwika, chifukwa mwina mungayambe kuchita chinachake kuti muthane ndi matendawa. Popanda kukayikira mumasiyidwa mu limbo, osadziwa momwe muyenera kumverera chifukwa simukudziwa zomwe mukukumana nazo.
Ngati mukukumana ndi matenda omwe angasinthe-ndipo matenda omwe sapezeka kwambiri amalowa m'gululi - kuyembekezera kungakhale kovuta kwambiri. Ndipo ngati mukukumana ndi matenda othetsera matenda kapena omwe angakufupikitseni moyo wanu wokonda kwambiri, kuyembekezera kungakhale kosawerengeka. Sikuti mukungodikirira matenda omwe angafune chithandizo, koma mukuyang'ana zomwe zingakhale tsogolo lanu lonse. Maloto anu onse ndi ziyembekezo zanu.
Izi ndi zina mwakumverera komwe mukukumana mukudikirira kuti mudziwe. Kodi mumamva ngati izi?
Kuleza Mtima Pamene Tikudikirira
Kuleza mtima mwina ndikumverera koyamba kumene anthu ambiri amamva akamayang'anira matenda.
Ambiri aife ndife "ochita," omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito kuthana ndi vuto, kuthetsa vuto, ndikupita patsogolo. Kudikira nthawi yanu, ndondomeko, kapena kukambirana kungakupangitseni kumverera "kuthamanga ndi kuyembekezera." Mwachitsanzo, podikira mlungu umodzi chifukwa cha zovuta zomwe zimabwera chifukwa cha ubwino wake kuti abwerere ku labu, mayi wina anati, " Ndikumva ngati ngongole yamphongo. "Ankafuna kuchita chinachake chokhudza matenda ake, osati kungodikirira.
Mkazi wina anauzidwa kuti adzafunikira ultrasound kuti apeze matenda. "Chabwino, kodi tingachite zimenezi lero?" Adatero kwa adokotala ndipo anakhumudwa kumva kuti sakanatha kukonzekera sabata yotsatira.
Kuleza mtima kungagwiritse ntchito njira yoposa momwe mumadziwira ndikulowa mbali zina za moyo wanu. Mwinamwake mukumva kuleza mtima ndi mzere kuti mutuluke mumsewu wopaka galimoto kuchipatala chanu. Mutha kukhumudwa ndi mnzanu kapena abwenzi omwe mumapatsa ntchito. Ndiponsotu, kodi sangasamalire chinthu china chosavuta pamene mukudikirira chinthu chovuta kwambiri? Mwinanso mungavutike mtima nokha, mukudabwa chifukwa chake zimatenga nthawi yaitali kuti muchite ntchito zomwe mwakhala mukuchita.
Kukhumudwa
Kukhumudwa kumatanthauza kutseka kwa cholinga kapena zochita. Munthu amene wakhumudwa chifukwa chofuna kupeza matenda angamve ngati wosakhutira, wodandaula, kapena wovutika maganizo. Mukauzidwa kuti simungakwanitse kukambirana ndi katswiri kwa miyezi itatu, kuti zotsatira za mayesero apadera azitenga masabata asanu ndi limodzi, kapena kuti atawona madokotala anayi sakudziwa kuti ndi zolakwika ndi inu, mukhoza kumva wokhumudwa kwambiri.
Monga moleza mtima, kukhumudwa ndi dongosolo lachipatala kumatha kupita ku mbali zina za moyo wanu. Mwinamwake mukhumudwa ngati pali zosakaniza ndi inshuwalansi yanu.
Mutha kukhumudwa kuti tepi yofiira ya inshuwalansi yanu imanena kuti mukufunika kuona munthu yemwe watchulidwa kwa miyezi iwiri yotsatira mmalo mwa wina yemwe wapangana tsiku lotsatira. Nthawi zina kukhumudwa kumeneku kumatha. Pambuyo pake, sizingakhale zomasuka kuti mutulutse kukhumudwa kwanu ndi kuchipatala kumene mukusamalidwa (kuti mukhale "wodwala wabwino") ndipo potsiriza musiyeni pamene mwamuna wanu akuiwala kukatenga mkaka ku golosale .
Mkwiyo
Anthu ambiri omwe sakhala oleza mtima komanso / kapena okhumudwa angakwiye. Mkwiyo umenewu nthawi zambiri umawonekera kuchipatala chomwe chikukupangitsani kuyembekezera.
Nthawi zina kukwiya kumatha kulowetsedwa mu chinthu chopindulitsa, monga kudziteteza nokha kapena wokondedwa wanu. Komabe, nthawi zina kukwiya kumatuluka bwino, monga momwe akugwiritsira ntchito labu amene akuyesera kutenga magazi anu kuti ayesedwe. Anamwino adzakuuzani kuti awona odwala ambiri komanso mabanja akufuula odwala-komanso wina ndi mnzake. Mukhoza kumangokhalira kudyetsedwa ndi ndondomeko yonse yowunikira ndikukumva ngati mukuchoka pa chinthu chonsecho.
Nkhawa
Ngati mukuyembekezera matenda omwe ali ndi vuto lalikulu, mukhoza kumva osasamala komanso mantha. Mungavutike maganizo ndipo maganizo anu angakhale ovuta ndi momwe matendawa angakhudzire inu ndi okondedwa anu. Mukangoyamba ganizoli, lingathe kupitirirabe. Mutha kukhala ndi vuto usiku, kukhala ndi mantha, kapena kuganizira kwambiri za matendawa. Nkhawa ndizochitika mwachizolowezi kumverera koopsezedwa. Ndi mbali ya nkhondo kapena kuthawa kwachitetezo chomwe chimatiteteza ku ngozi. Komabe pamene ngozi yomwe tikukambirana ikuchokera ku malingaliro athu, osati kuopsa koopsa komanso kosavuta pakati pathu (monga mkango ukuukira) zomwe zingayambitse zingathe kuwonjezera nkhawa ndi nkhawa monga momwe thupi lathu likuchitiranso chimodzimodzi (ndi kuchuluka kwa mtima wa mtima, kupuma mofulumira, ndi zina.)
Nkhawa, monga ndi zina zoterezi, zimatha kunyamula mbali zina za moyo wanu. Anthu omwe ali ndi khansa nthawi zina amanena kuti amamva kuti sangathe kupanga zosankha zosavuta, ngakhale zosankha zosavuta ngati zovala.
Chisoni ndi Kupsinjika Mtima
Kudikirira nthawi yaitali kuti apeze matendawa kungachititse kuti mukhale osadziletsa pa zinthu kapena kufooka. Mwinamwake mungakhale opanda chiyembekezo pazochitika zanu. Kukhala ndi chipatala nthawi zonse kukupangitsani inu kuyembekezera zinthu-malo, mayesero, zokambirana, zotsatira-zingakuchititseni kumverera ngati kuponyera thaulo ndikusiya. Inu mukhoza kulira popanda chifukwa ndipo simukumverera ngati mukuchita zambiri.
Zingakhale zovuta, nthawi zina, kudziwa ngati mukukumana ndichisoni kapena kuvutika maganizo. Musachite mantha kupempha thandizo ngati chisoni chimakugwetsani pansi.
Pansi - Zochitika Zowonongeka Kudikirira
Zoonadi, zonsezi ndi zachilendo kwa munthu amene akuyembekezera kuyerekezera. Mukakhala ndi nthawi yaitali, mumamva bwino kwambiri, komanso mumakhala ndi nkhawa zambiri. Kwa anthu ambiri, kulankhula ndi abwenzi, banja, munthu wachipembedzo, ndi / kapena mlangizi ndiwothandiza kwambiri kuthana ndi malingaliro awa podikira matendawa. Anthu ena amapeza kuti zimathandiza kulumikizana ndi gulu lothandizira (kapena malo ochezera pa intaneti, makamaka ndi matenda osadziwika) omwe amakupatsani mpata kuti muyankhule ndi ena omwe awonapo maganizo awa. Kawirikawiri, kungomva kuchokera kwa munthu amene wamva zinthu zomwezo ndi thandizo lalikulu, kukukumbutsani kuti ngakhale kuti mukuyembekezera nokha, simuli nokha.
Kuwonjezera pachibadwa, pali zinthu zingapo zimene mungachite zomwe zingakuthandizeni (kupatula kuzindikira kuti simuli nokha.) Onetsetsani kuti mukukhala mutetezi wanu mumasamalidwe anu . Ngati simukumva kuti muli pa njira yoyenera kapena ngati mumamva kuti odwala anu sakuyankhula bwino, lankhulani. Monga taonera, zizindikiro zokhudzana ndi matenda anu zimatha kuwonjezera maganizo amenewa. Ngati mukulimbana ndi ululu wosatha , onetsetsani kuti izi zikuyankhidwa. Nthaŵi zina kulankhulana ndi dokotala wowawa kumafunikanso kuwonjezera pa zina zomwe mukukumana nazo (inde, pepani, kusankhidwa kwina.)
Dzifunseni nokha ngati pali china chomwe mungachite (posachedwa kupeza matenda anu mofulumira kwambiri.) Kodi mukuyenera kupeza ngongole yothandizana ndi ana? Kodi mukuyenera kulola anthu kuti akuthandizeni (izi ndi zovuta kwa iwo omwe ali ndi khalidwe la mtundu A.)
Nanga bwanji anthu omwe ali pakati panu. Kodi muli ndi abwenzi abwino omwe amakuthandizani kukhala ndi chiyembekezo kuti mutha nthawi yambiri? Kumbali ina, kodi muli ndi "abwenzi oopsa" omwe mungafunikire kuwatenga?
Kwa Okondedwa
Ndikofunika kuzindikira kuti, ngakhale anthu owerengeka ali ndi matenda okha, ndi anthu ochepa okha amene amakumana ndi vuto la kuyembekezera okha. Mabwenzi ndi achibale angathenso kumva zonsezi pamene akudikira kuti apeze matenda. Ndipotu, kusowa thandizo komwe okondedwa omwe amawakonda kawirikawiri amatha kukulitsa malingalirowa mwinanso. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, simungamve ngati mumasuka kulankhula zakukhumudwitsani, kusaleza mtima, ndi nkhawa. Koma omwe ali ndi vuto lovuta kupeza, pali anthu ambiri omwe ali pa intaneti omwe amayamikiridwa ndi anthu omwe amathandizidwa ndi mabanja omwe amavutika ndi matendawa (kapena kuyembekezera mmodzi) mwa wokondedwa wawo.
Zotsatira:
Kasper, Dennis L .., Anthony S. Fauci, ndi Stephen L .. Hauser. Mfundo za Harrison za Mankhwala a M'kati. New York: maphunziro a Mc Graw Hill, 2015. Print.