Zomwe Zosowa Kusintha
Kodi lingaliro lanu la kuyeza kwanu kwa chaka ndi tsiku limakupangitsitsani kuti mukhale osokonezeka? Simuli nokha. Ngakhale amayi ambiri alibe chidziwitso chokachezera amayi azimayi, amayi ena nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi mantha ndi nkhawa pokhapokha akuganiza za ulendo wawo wapachaka.
Malinga ndi Marifran Mattson, pulofesa wothandizana nawo pa yunivesite ya Purdue yemwe amaphunzira zaumoyo wathanzi, "Amayi ambiri amadandaula kwambiri ndi kafukufuku wawo wa chaka ndi chaka.
Matendawa amaletsa amayi kusamalidwa bwino, ndipo amayi ambiri omwe amasamalira nthawi zonse sasangalala ndi maulendo awo. "
Mattson akusonyeza kuti maphunziro a odwala ndi ofunika kuthetsa nkhawa imeneyi, zomwe ziwathandiza amayi kukhala osatetezeka, ndikuwalimbikitsa kuti akhale "olimba mtima pofuna kuti anthu awo azilemekezedwe komanso kuti ayambe kuwunika."
Kafukufuku amene adachitika m'chaka cha 2003 ndi Mattson ndi Maria Braun, pulofesa wothandizira maphunziro ku West Virginia University, adawonetsa kuti amayi ambiri a zaka zapakati pa 18 ndi 71 amantha mantha omwe amalandira kuchokera kwa amayi awo. Ananenanso kuti sakusangalala ndi momwe azimayi awo amachitira ndi nkhawa zawo.
Zowonjezera Mantha a Akazi
Pafupifupi theka la magawo atatu pa akazi omwe adafunsidwa anadandaula kwambiri za amai awo a amayi. Zifukwa zina zomwe zimawopera mantha ndi amayi omwe anafunsidwa ndi awa:
- akumva chisoni
- manyazi
- kumverera kudzikonda kwanu
- kuopa kupeza vuto monga khansara
Amayiwa, makamaka, sanalankhule zakukhosi kwawo kwa amayi awo, nthawi zambiri chifukwa ankaganiza kuti madokotala "sakusamala komanso amawasamalira." Azimayi omwe adagawana nawo maganizo awo amati amayi awo amatha kuseka kapena kuwauza kuti asangalale.
Akazi amasonyeza kuti akufuna kuyankhulana bwino ndi madokotala awo, koma nthawi zambiri samakhala okonzeka kugawana nawo nkhawa zawo.
Braun anati: "Madokotala amafunika kuona akazi ngati anthu omwe amadandaula kwenikweni, osati matenda okha. Ndipo odwala ayenera kuyamba, kapena kupitiliza, kukhala olimbikitsa poyankha mavuto awo ndi amayi awo." Akulangiza kuti amagwira ntchito popanga maso ndikupewa kudzichepetsa. Amanenanso kuti odwala amafuna nthawi yochuluka ndi dokotala wawo kuti agawane nawo nkhawa zawo ndikufunsa mafunso okhudza thanzi lawo lomwe limadandaula nawo.
Kodi Ndi Nthawi Yopeza Wachibadwa Watsopano Wamagetsi?
Kodi mungatani ngati gynecologist sakugawira zakukhosi kwanu, kapena simungathe kuwonetsa mantha anu ndi nkhawa zanu? Choyamba, sankhani ngati mungamve bwino ndi dokotala wamwamuna kapena wamkazi. Ndiye funsani abwenzi ndi anzanu kuti akuthandizeni. Kuwongolera kwanu nthawi zambiri ndi njira imodzi yabwino yopezera dokotala yemwe ali wokonzeka kukhala ndi mwayi wolumikizana ndi inu.
Ngati kupeza azimayi pogwiritsa ntchito kutumiza kwanu sikungatheke, funsani maofesi angapo a amayi a kumidzi ndikuyankhula ndi antchito. Funsani ngati mungathe kuyankhula ndi namwino wa dokotala za kalembedwe ka dotolo ndi filosofi ya odwala.
Chinthu chofunika kwambiri kukumbukira ndi chakuti simukuyenera kuti mupitirize kuwona katswiri wa amai ngati simuli omasuka. Musachite mantha kufunafuna dokotala wina kapena kupempha maganizo awiri pamene simukugwirizana ndi momwe amayi anu amaonera thanzi lanu. Chilimbikitso chanu ndi chinachake chimene simungadzikane nokha!
Chitsime:
Buzzanell, Patrice M., Helen M. Sterk, ndi Lynn H. Turner. Gender mu Contexts Zogwiritsidwa Ntchito. "Kupitiriza Kuyankhulana Pakati pa Mavuto a Mkazi." Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage Publications, 2004.